Thinking it’s weird that his 18 year old will have the master room

I cannot IMAGINE having my clothes in separate closets, either. Ridiculous

oh yeah the inhumanity. It’s on a par with being locked in a prison cell.

Do you also live in London? If you can avoid it I wouldn't sell your home. Rent it out if you can. Do you not hope to leave something to help your kids in the future? What happens if you split up, could you afford to get back on the property ladder again? Your partners house is his daughter's home and it will be for many years unless she feels forced out. The last thing you should be doing is trying to change things that impact his kids, small or not. It would be entirely different if she had that room whilst at uni but had siblings who didn't have their own room.

You are right but surely you can see this is a total non starter!!

I also would not sell your flat. You have no security and step off the housing ladder in London and you may regret it - rent it out for a few years, keep your options open. You won't be on the mortgage you aren't getting married and your thoughts towards evicting his dd...I think you may have many storms ahead.

My suggestion is that you just stay in your flat. Thos isn't going to end well. Your tone and outlook is all wrong.

Don’t sell your home- there’s no guarantee that the relationship will survive you moving in.

Of course you don’t get to move into an established family setup and start moving everyone’s bedrooms around .

Yes and I feel sorry for the people giving genuine advice.

OP, best not to sell your home. Rent it out, but don't sell it. Why are you selling it? If things don't work out between you, you will have nowhere to go.

Her partner is clearly showing her his priorities and setting the boundaries and rightly so in my opinion. Op would do well to take heed.

I think she should carefully consider living options if this doesn’t work out him.

It’s their house, that’s her room.

That 18-year-old is likely to be around for another 10 years whilst she establishes herself in a career before buying a home, especially in London. I wouldn't rely on the transition happening any time soon.

Don’t sell your place you are going to need it.

Can’t believe you think you get to move into someone else’s house and start dictating bedrooms.

How many shitty “step mums” is that in the last couple of days on here. Wanting what the man’s daughter has.

This sounds rude but if you're going from a £250000 house to a £2.5 million house you're already getting a massive upgrade. Just enjoy that.

It makes total sense his daughter had the master before, it makes total sense she keeps it and you don't trash your relationship as soon as you move in. Your partner sounds great and very reasonable.

I agree with you that two adults should have the larger room, the master bedroom. However, you are walking into a hornets nest here. You cannot come in and unsettle the status quo unless you want to forever be enemies with this girl.
she’s clearly the spoiled daughter who Daddy has always already given a preferable situation to. And he clearly has no intention of undoing that.
arguably too as a grown woman, you don’t need a walk-in wardrobe either. Pick your fights here very carefully

Though I am happy at these men standing up for their daughters over the newer partners. It’s about bloody time.

I hope he has some type of prenuptial agreement in place for when this ends as his children deserve an inheritance and you are clearly bringing unequal capital into the relationship.

My advice to you is don't get too used to living in a £2.5m home, if all you can afford is something worth £250k if/when it ends. Enjoy it while it lasts.

Your partner obviously has his priorities right putting the emotional wellbeing of his child first, and an 18 year old is legally still an adult, but in the context of family relationships in a family setting they are still a child, especially while in full time education. You, on the other hand, seem more keen on taking advantage of the lavish home you are about to enjoy, and your sense of entitlement is greater than it should be.

Agree, leave her alone. I’d call off moving you into my family home tbh.

😱 Oh the horror of it!

I mean just the thought, just the idea, of having a separate room for your clothes, and in a £2.5m house no less. No one should have to live in such conditions. 🤦‍♀️

Why all these Cinderella threads just now?

And sorry too for the mugs taking the time to read it?

If they was really rich it would be a whole wing for clothes and off that wing a massive bathroom with roll top tub and triple walk in shower. Such peasant behaviour from that pp 🤣

Step mums are stepping up for the Christmas presents 💸 💸

Perhaps he’s not that bothered about space and given he’s got the rest of the house, would rather she had the “best” room?

irrespective of his rationale for giving her the biggest room, it would be unfair to get her to move.

Agree.

Your attitude is all wrong, OP. I get why you would desire that room - no doubt most of us would, but it isn't right for you to come in and disrupt the daughter's life like that. Do you think it's a good idea for you to move in? What does the DD think about that? Do you both get on?

That does not make her spoilt! My son has the best room because it suits his age and needs more and it’s better for me too as he can entertain his friends without it affecting me. The very idea I would turf him out because a boyfriend was moving in is unthinkable.