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To think parents should at least iron uniforms

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Charlemagnee · 20/09/2024 07:40

I see some children on the way to school and they look so scruffy, I mean I might be being a bit mean but it’s important to me that my children look presentable, I can’t imagine sending my children into school with a mega creased jumper/cardigan it looks awful.

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MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 20/09/2024 08:41

Charlemagnee · 20/09/2024 08:37

I must admit, my car is an absolute shit tip and I know people will judge me for that 🤣

I offered someone a lift once and apologised about the mess as she was getting into the car. Instead of saying don't worry about it, as I'd have expected, she agreed that it was a mess!ShockGrin

She wasn't wrong but I never offered her a lift again!!

Ek1234 · 20/09/2024 08:42

It seems I'm in the minority with you OP. I like things to be ironed too.

AskingForAFriend12 · 20/09/2024 08:42

My older one does his own shirts in secondary. I don't bother with trousers, just hang them carefully.

Iforgotagain · 20/09/2024 08:43

I don't even know where my iron is, must be at least 10 years since I've used it! Revelation, ironing is a monumental waste time of time.
Even my mother who used to iron socks has given up. She now 'hand irons' she tells me, smooths down with her hand then folds, you should try it OP, free up some precious time. Life is just way to short for ironing.

DarkandStormyNightie · 20/09/2024 08:43

Charlemagnee · 20/09/2024 08:40

We must be odd 🤣

Must be, but happily don't care 😉

Charlemagnee · 20/09/2024 08:44

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 20/09/2024 08:41

I offered someone a lift once and apologised about the mess as she was getting into the car. Instead of saying don't worry about it, as I'd have expected, she agreed that it was a mess!ShockGrin

She wasn't wrong but I never offered her a lift again!!

🤣🤣🤣🤣

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Laszlomydarling · 20/09/2024 08:44

No. The LEAST they should do is love, feed, keep safe, clothe their child.

When there is no one staying at home to look after the children and house, some chores get knocked off the list. Ironing is not important. Being kind is though. Something the op needs to work on.

Charlemagnee · 20/09/2024 08:45

DarkandStormyNightie · 20/09/2024 08:43

Must be, but happily don't care 😉

It must mean we don’t prioritise happiness and education. Instead of cleaning my car, I iron 🤣

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Charlemagnee · 20/09/2024 08:46

Laszlomydarling · 20/09/2024 08:44

No. The LEAST they should do is love, feed, keep safe, clothe their child.

When there is no one staying at home to look after the children and house, some chores get knocked off the list. Ironing is not important. Being kind is though. Something the op needs to work on.

How am I not kind. I have agreed that I am the odd one here

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HeySummerWhereAreYou · 20/09/2024 08:46

Ficklebricks · 20/09/2024 07:44

That's what happens when you cripple the economy to the point where both parents are forced to work full time just to survive.

Surprise surprise, little Timmy doesn't get a pressed shirt for school. Life is too fucking busy for that Victorian wife shit.

I was going to say something like this. There's also the fact that with every couple in every family I've ever known, (including my parents, aunts and uncles, grandparents, nieces and nephews, friends, and me and DH;) it's the woman that does the ironing. And women have just had enough of it.

I'm sure a bunch of people are gonna come out here to tell him me that their dad, Grandad, husband, son, uncle, son in law, nephew. grandfather, and every man they have ever known, has always done his own ironing (and the whole family's!) Coz that's what always happens when someone says something like that on here.

But the fact is, in the vast, vast majority cases it's a woman doing all the ironing. It's a tedious, boring, thankless job, nobody likes it, and in the vast majority of cases, the stuff doesn't need to be ironed. I haven't ironed anything in 20 years. In fact, it's probably longer than that. Maybe 25 years or more.

I don't even do that much in the house now. Just the basic stuff. Just the bits you can see. DH does bits here and there but not much. He has never done a lot in the house. So I don't either now. Not since the kids left a decade ago. My house isn't a stinking flea pit, and the kitchen and bathroom are usually neat and clean. It's just not a super immaculate house all the time.

EvilNextDoor · 20/09/2024 08:47

I seriously do not have the time or inclination to iron my kids school uniform…

i normally take it out the dryer hot and hang on hangers that’s it.

I work 40/50 hours a week, have a house, 2 children, dogs cats to care for, ironing isn’t on my list…

HelloCheekyCat · 20/09/2024 08:47

Flashcardsagain · 20/09/2024 07:46

Fuuuuuuck thaaaaaat

Are you me 🤣
this is exactly what I was thinking as I read this

CecilyP · 20/09/2024 08:48

Charlemagnee · 20/09/2024 07:57

I’m not judging children at all l, it just really bothers me when I see a really crumpled jumper, I think I am just odd

But jumpers that are just washed but not ironed don’t look really crumpled. It’s much more likely that that the really crumpled ones have been scrunched up in a school bag but are still clean enough to wear.

Even when I did iron, and I still iron the odd thing, I can’t say I’ve ever ironed a jumper!

DeathpunchDan · 20/09/2024 08:48

I haven't ironed anything for about 40 years. It's not my thing, and my standards are low. I am blissfully happy though 🙂

Starlight1979 · 20/09/2024 08:48

Prior to having a pre-teen in the house I might have agreed with you.

Now, not a chance am I wasting my time ironing (which I hate) for the nicely ironed clothes to end up on the bedroom floor (usually amongst the wet towels😭).

On a separate (but not unrelated) note, can anyone explain the logic behind why, from the age of 11-12 upwards, kids are physically unable to see where clothes belong???

I mean, we have huge fitted wardrobes, loads of drawers, storage space etc... She SEES me putting her clothes in these daily, she manages to get her stuff out of them ok but then I give her a pile of clean washing and it all ends up on the bedroom floor / end of the bed?! There must be some psychology behind this 😂

Respectisnotoptional · 20/09/2024 08:48

I can see from the replies that no ironing is favourable but I think going to school looking neat and tidy instills a sense of pride in children. Are they going to think it’s acceptable to turn up for a job interview in creased dishevelled clothes and dirty shoes.
As a nation we have become slovenly, sit for thirty minutes on any major high street and watch the people passing by.
I know there will be the constant ‘well it’s not the 1950’s any more’ no it’s not but does that need we are forced to accept lower standards and not take a pride in anything any more.

RuggedHairyTortoise · 20/09/2024 08:48

I've posted on these sorts of threads before.

I am very hot on ironing. I have a SEN child with learning difficulties and tourettes. He's a target for bullying no matter what so I limit as much as I can by what I can control. His uniform is always ironed and perfect. His hair is always tidy. He has a shower every single day and smells fresh and clean. Oddly enough this does not mean I no longer have time to make him nutririous food. Hmm

For me, ironing his uniform and presenting him beautifully is incredibly important.

Appleblum · 20/09/2024 08:50

I hate ironing but make sure my kids' uniforms are ironed. Rightly or wrongly, we are all judged on how we present and from my own life experience I've observed that teachers are generally more patient and nicer to the students who look neat and tidy.

partiallydeflatedbutoptimistic · 20/09/2024 08:50

Starlight1979 · 20/09/2024 08:48

Prior to having a pre-teen in the house I might have agreed with you.

Now, not a chance am I wasting my time ironing (which I hate) for the nicely ironed clothes to end up on the bedroom floor (usually amongst the wet towels😭).

On a separate (but not unrelated) note, can anyone explain the logic behind why, from the age of 11-12 upwards, kids are physically unable to see where clothes belong???

I mean, we have huge fitted wardrobes, loads of drawers, storage space etc... She SEES me putting her clothes in these daily, she manages to get her stuff out of them ok but then I give her a pile of clean washing and it all ends up on the bedroom floor / end of the bed?! There must be some psychology behind this 😂

It's called my mum actually gives a shit about me so I can chuck my shit on the floor even amongst the wet towels because she will sort it and make sure I have clean clothes for the next day because she's a legend

FuckThePoPo · 20/09/2024 08:51

I do have certain standards but not everyone has to live by them! (Don't even think about pushing jumpers up over your elbows in my presence) My oldest is 27 and I ironed her shirts but by the time my ds came along there were non iron ones so you just took them out of the machine and hang straight up.

the reason things don't get ironed now is that they are made with materials
which don't crease as much as cotton I think

my ds always looks a total crumbag who never irons his stuff and doesn't care - but he showers more than me so take from that what you will 😂

Charlemagnee · 20/09/2024 08:51

Yes for me it is important to be presentable and a clean ironed uniform, clean face etc makes me think that the parents have made the effort, obviously parents prioritise different things like I said I would never ever let anybody get into my car 🤣

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Emmanuelll · 20/09/2024 08:51

Appleblum · 20/09/2024 08:50

I hate ironing but make sure my kids' uniforms are ironed. Rightly or wrongly, we are all judged on how we present and from my own life experience I've observed that teachers are generally more patient and nicer to the students who look neat and tidy.

Yes, unfortunately this is absolutely true.

LoudHam · 20/09/2024 08:52

Its important to me too and I agree that they look a lot better. However I have a cleaner for one full day per week (2 full time jobs, 3 kids) and it's on her list not mine. If it were something I needed to fit in around work, I really doubt I would have the time/inclination!

redskydarknight · 20/09/2024 08:52

MumblesParty · 20/09/2024 08:37

I’m a working single parent and I’ve always ironed the kids uniform if needed. Never bother with trousers or blazers as they don’t crease, nor things like the sweatshirts in primary school. But the secondary school shirts look awful without a quick iron. It’s not snobby, I just don’t want them to look scruffy, in the same way that I wouldn’t go to work wearing an un-ironed shirt myself. Obviously if my life was in chaos and I was struggling with my health, it would probably be one of the first things to stop doing. But while I’m well, it seems a sensible thing to do.

Secondary school shirts that are generally worn under a jumper or a blazer, so can't really be seen?

Charlemagnee · 20/09/2024 08:52

Do you think teachers judge parents on how their child is presented? I bet they do.

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