To think the hilarity just wasn’t necessary?

Honestly, it does sound a little strange to take yourself away from company to reflect on a conversation. Perhaps I would’ve just waited for a quiet moment alone later to think back (the drive home, after the kids had gone to bed, in the bath or before I fell asleep in bed etc).

Having said that it’s also a bit mean to laugh at someone for this (or anything that clearly means something to them) so I’m sorry you were upset by them and they should have been more sensitive

If my sister did this I'd laugh too, sorry.
What were you talking about?

I actually took it as DD might’ve said it in a funny way, and that’s more what they were laughing at.

try not to be embarrassed about it. Just own your feelings. It was a bit mean of them but families roast each other all the time.

I’m afraid I’d laugh at a relative or friend if they said that. It just seems a bit… intense?

Next time just say you’re having a bit of fresh air maybe.

Fuck em all, the bastards! You can reflect if you want.

Unless there’s a history of them ridiculing you, I think you’re being a bit sensitive.

Next time, tell them you need a break because they're doing your head in. It sounds about their level.

I'd laugh and I'd also laugh at myself as it is something I might do but can see how it's funny at the same time! No need to be upset imo.

Aw, OP. Im sorry it hurt you. I think I’d have had a wee giggle too, but with you rather than at you. It’s quite endearing that you went off for a think.

Sorry I would laugh 😬 seems a little over involved

I don’t think it was fair of them to laugh at you (although I’m sure it was light-hearted), but I’m curious about what made you want to decide to leave the conversation and reflect on it and announce it to everyone.

I really do mean this kindly and gently, but if I was mid-conversation with anyone (friends, family or anyone else) and they suddenly said they were excusing themselves to reflect on what we’d been talking about, I’d think they were a bit pompous (unless we were talking about something very serious and life-changing, obviously!)

😂

I'd have laughed too, it's a bit over the top! Don't you feel a bit daft?

I think they were rude to laugh, and then to continue saying “we’re reflecting” to make fun of you. It’s bullying to make someone feel embarrassed when they’re not equally participating in the “banter”.

You sound a lot more intelligent than them OP.

Never stop being you.

Do you scream and howl in the Sistene Chapel?
Iykyk

Sounds like you might scream at paintings tbh.

Anyway, you're not unreasonable to do what you did, unusual perhaps. Especially if it was a conversation you were enjoying but then missed a load of. But equally it may have seemed amusing. Presumably your relationship is normally good and you could assume their mirth was intended in good humour?

Exactly this.

It's a bit attention seeky, when "I just popped out for some air" would have been more than sufficient. It just backfired a bit as the attention you got, was laughing.

Ah okay, sorry I misunderstood. What did you say when you were leaving to go outside? I do think it wasn’t nice of them to laugh at you though (although I’m sure it was well meant ❤️)

What part of British History were you talking about to need to withdraw and reflect during the visit. Maybe something horrific ? But then I wouldn't describe that as fascinating. Your DD did make you look a bit silly by repeating what you said, I'm not surprised they had a bit of a laugh about it. You've got to own it I think, I'm afraid it might get brought up again when ever you are all together.

Oh bless you, it's nice that you're so passionate and invested in the topic but you must realise that this is a very weird thing to do?

It's just a bit pompous and intense isn't it? If that's who you are absolutely own it, but also be prepared to be roasted for it a bit by your nearest and dearest. Everyone is weird in their own way, just own it!

It sounds like you felt a real connection to what you were talking about, don’t feel bad about that!
Did it feel like loving laughter, or mean laughter? My adult children will sometimes be laughing over my, shall we say eccentricities, but I always feel it’s family closeness nothing else and laugh at myself too…it’s a nice atmosphere whereas yours doesn’t sound like you felt it was?

It’s definitely giving Sistine Chapel isn’t it…

Look, it is horrible that they made fun of you but surely you realise it isn't a usual thing to do. I'm not condemning, being autistic, I have certain subjects that I adore thinking about but even I know not to tell anyone else quite how intensely I feel about the topics because other people will find it odd.

They were mean and rude to you and I'm sorry for that but you have now learnt something valuable - that they don't think the way you do and can't be trusted not to use that against you.

If I said this my brother would never stop laughing. It sounds quite pretentious OP.
You could've just said I was getting some fresh air/taking 5 minutes.