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Jay Slaters mum asking for more donations

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cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 22:32

I understand it's an awful thing that's happened but the Gofundme has reached almost 60k and Jay's mum is asking for more donation to give him a memorable send off.
I'm sure there is more than enough left to enable her to do this after she's paid out those that have helped with the search? Although I did read somewhere some of those that flew out went home earlier as she didn't pay as promised?
Is this wrong of me to say?

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SeriousFaffing · 18/07/2024 22:36

She can ask. And people don’t have to donate if they don’t want to 🤷‍♀️

I think the time where it might have been seen as acceptable by some to poke fun at the economically disadvantaged in this case has long gone.

Bigcat25 · 18/07/2024 22:38

I have no idea how much the search and travel costs were so I wouldn't judge to harshly.

JMSA · 18/07/2024 22:38

That does seem cheeky.

Skinglow · 18/07/2024 22:40

What do you want from this thread? People to slag off a woman who has just lost her son?

Are you one of the people who are trolling her on SM?

Towelmode · 18/07/2024 22:40

Agree with @SeriousFaffing

thaisweetchill · 18/07/2024 22:40

Don't donate then?

murasaki · 18/07/2024 22:40

Very cheeky. Sad he died, but he's hardly worth a state style funeral on other people's money. If they want to contribute, that's fine, but the whole thing has seemed grasping.

Skinglow · 18/07/2024 22:41

So don't donate then. There, that's fixed that.

Halfheadhighlights · 18/07/2024 22:42

It’s bloody ridiculous isn’t it. There is £60K in the go fund me. It should go to the people who spent resources looking for him.

Rantypanties · 18/07/2024 22:43

I’m sure they’ll be able to claim on his insurance for repatriation…

PrimalOwl10 · 18/07/2024 22:44

It's seems to be very money oriented and doesn't sit right with me personally but as pp said its up to people if they wish to donate however I do think 60k is more than enough and asking for more seems ingenious.

paradisecircus · 18/07/2024 22:44

Maybe just ignore it. Don't donate, don't think about it.

PonyPatter44 · 18/07/2024 22:45

She's a bloody scrounger. If anyone donates to that GFM now they're as stupid as she is.

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cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 22:45

Skinglow · 18/07/2024 22:40

What do you want from this thread? People to slag off a woman who has just lost her son?

Are you one of the people who are trolling her on SM?

Not at all. I've just read it in the news and wondered what people's thoughts were on seeing as there is already a substantial amount that has been raised.

It's absolutely terrible what has happened to the lad. Can't imagine how they must be feeling.

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IfOnlyOurEyesSawSouls · 18/07/2024 22:48

Cheeky i agree .

Not that it makes any difference but i just don't agree that when someone has died we have to pretend that the deceased and their family have or had , no flaws.

Aside from social media rubbish there is evidence ( aside from his assault) that he wasn't a particularly good person.

It might not be a popular opinion but at least im honest.

I wont be donating to the fund .

murasaki · 18/07/2024 22:48

Its sort of unrelated to him, but I find the whole go fund me thing for 'i forgot to get health insurance', 'ooh look, I flew abroad while heavily pregnant and shock horror gave birth', 'I fell off something, give me money' stuff frankly undignified and grasping. Fools that go for it, it's on you, but I wish it wasn't a thing. Own your own mistakes.

Hiphopopotamonster · 18/07/2024 22:48

  1. what happened to her son is incredibly tragic. I can’t imagine losing a child and what that would feel like. I have deepest sympathy for her and anyone that has gone through that.

  2. it’s not ok to ask for money and essentially use her child’s death to solicit donations that are now not needed except for her own personal use.

Both of these things can be true. And I think it does need saying as those who tend to donate to these causes are often quite vulnerable and not particularly well off themselves.

Garlickest · 18/07/2024 22:50

SeriousFaffing · 18/07/2024 22:36

She can ask. And people don’t have to donate if they don’t want to 🤷‍♀️

I think the time where it might have been seen as acceptable by some to poke fun at the economically disadvantaged in this case has long gone.

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She isn't economically disadvantaged. I don't know if she was before this tragedy, but she sure as hell isn't now.

The Dutch search team is a charity. They don't charge fees.

Manhere2024 · 18/07/2024 22:51

I actually think it would be amazing if in future we see Jay Slater’s parents Debbie and Warren set up charitable foundations and can make something positive happen out of this.

The amount of hatred they’ve received on social media is grotesque. A lot of it is simple prejudice because they are white, Northern, and working class.

If they came from a socially approved minority I’m sure their family tragedy would have been portrayed far more sympathetically.

murasaki · 18/07/2024 22:51

I can understand that this is unbearably tragic for her. But his decisions led to it. And I agree that a lot of people giving money probably aren't as well off as she is now.

BeautifulLyrics · 18/07/2024 22:52

It seems cheeky and a piss take but no one has to donate. I have seen some people who seem vulnerable who say they've donated more, which is a bit concerning, but there's not much you can do.

murasaki · 18/07/2024 22:52

Manhere2024 · 18/07/2024 22:51

I actually think it would be amazing if in future we see Jay Slater’s parents Debbie and Warren set up charitable foundations and can make something positive happen out of this.

The amount of hatred they’ve received on social media is grotesque. A lot of it is simple prejudice because they are white, Northern, and working class.

If they came from a socially approved minority I’m sure their family tragedy would have been portrayed far more sympathetically.

Never going to happen re the foundation.

iamtheblcksheep · 18/07/2024 22:53

Manhere2024 · 18/07/2024 22:51

I actually think it would be amazing if in future we see Jay Slater’s parents Debbie and Warren set up charitable foundations and can make something positive happen out of this.

The amount of hatred they’ve received on social media is grotesque. A lot of it is simple prejudice because they are white, Northern, and working class.

If they came from a socially approved minority I’m sure their family tragedy would have been portrayed far more sympathetically.

I think people’s issue is this boy was far from squeaky clean. I wouldn’t donate anything to his family as a result and many feel the same.

Comedycook · 18/07/2024 22:53

Why would anyone donate to this?!

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cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 22:53

Manhere2024 · 18/07/2024 22:51

I actually think it would be amazing if in future we see Jay Slater’s parents Debbie and Warren set up charitable foundations and can make something positive happen out of this.

The amount of hatred they’ve received on social media is grotesque. A lot of it is simple prejudice because they are white, Northern, and working class.

If they came from a socially approved minority I’m sure their family tragedy would have been portrayed far more sympathetically.

Yes, that would be a lovely idea!

SM and the press definitely haven't helped the situation. Regardless of what he had or hadn't done in the past he was a missing lad whose family are in bits.

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