Page 5 | Jay Slaters mum asking for more donations

cauliflowercheeseplease · 2024-07-18T21:32:31+00:00

I understand it's an awful thing that's happened but the Gofundme has reached almost 60k and Jay's mum is asking for more donation to give him a memorable send off. I'm sure there is more than enough left to enable her to do this after she's paid out those that have helped with the search? Although I did read somewhere some of those that flew out went home earlier as she didn't pay as promised? Is this wrong of me to say?

Lovefromjuliaxo · 18/07/2024 23:39

Manhere2024 · 18/07/2024 22:51

I actually think it would be amazing if in future we see Jay Slater’s parents Debbie and Warren set up charitable foundations and can make something positive happen out of this.

The amount of hatred they’ve received on social media is grotesque. A lot of it is simple prejudice because they are white, Northern, and working class.

If they came from a socially approved minority I’m sure their family tragedy would have been portrayed far more sympathetically.

No it’s not, it’s because he was a violent thug.

Skinglow · 18/07/2024 23:40

cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 23:36

I knew there would be some not so pleasant comments in here, but this is still someone who's sadly now deceased so I thought ( naively) this would be remembered before harsh comments were posted.

My whole point was, she's practically having everything paid for by the government anyway and unless she's staying in a 5* hotel costing thousands every night then surely there's enough money left to pay for the funeral she wants him to have?

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You knew how the thread would go. Your wide eyed naivety is as fake as your concern for a bereaved mother.

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cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 23:41

@SeriousFaffing no, no you don't at all.

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Stressybetty · 18/07/2024 23:41

Haven't rtft but with Lucy setting up the go fund me I wonder how much control Jays parents actually have over what the cash is used for

QueenCamilla · 18/07/2024 23:41

Comedycook · 18/07/2024 23:32

You can try to make out I'm being a snob. I passed no comment on my own social class. It's an observation. The people most gripped by this, who feel most connection with the story and most willing to donate are the working class.

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I wouldn't say you're a snob - that and being on Facebook are mutually exclusive anyway.

I'm in a working class work environment (hundreds of poor Northerners) - literally no one is "gripped" by this non-event, it's not talked about and I'd bet my house on the fact that no one will donate.

Maybe Facebook is not the best place for your inane observations - what you sow is exactly what you get (algorithm and all that).

TwattyMcFuckFace · 18/07/2024 23:42

cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 22:53

Yes, that would be a lovely idea!

SM and the press definitely haven't helped the situation. Regardless of what he had or hadn't done in the past he was a missing lad whose family are in bits.

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Regardless of what he had or hadn't done in the past he was a missing lad whose family are in bits.

And yet here you are, providing yourself with a little entertainment for the evening.

Comedycook · 18/07/2024 23:43

QueenCamilla · 18/07/2024 23:41

I wouldn't say you're a snob - that and being on Facebook are mutually exclusive anyway.

I'm in a working class work environment (hundreds of poor Northerners) - literally no one is "gripped" by this non-event, it's not talked about and I'd bet my house on the fact that no one will donate.

Maybe Facebook is not the best place for your inane observations - what you sow is exactly what you get (algorithm and all that).

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No algorithm. I looked it up because I find the psychology fascinating. I find it truly bizarre that people who don't know them personally would part with their money.

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cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 23:45

@Skinglow if you are so very offended by my post then don't comment.

You don't know me, you've no idea what my intentions were on this post.

I am genuinely shocked she expects the public to pay for her son's funeral when so much has already been donated. There are hundreds of other people in the world who go missing and end up being found deceased in awful circumstances but you don't hear about it, their families don't go begging strangers for money.

He's been found and it truly is terrible, not something I'd wish on my worst enemy. But grieve in peace now.

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ScottishScouser · 18/07/2024 23:45

murasaki · 18/07/2024 23:10

I was thinking Darwin Awards.

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Watch it - I once mentioned a Darwin Award on a thread and got banned

murasaki · 18/07/2024 23:46

ScottishScouser · 18/07/2024 23:45

Watch it - I once mentioned a Darwin Award on a thread and got banned

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Ha, I'll see in the morning then!

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cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 23:47

@TwattyMcFuckFace and here you are, boosting my post 😘

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PricklyPearl · 18/07/2024 23:47

Skinglow · 18/07/2024 23:35

And you know what she's spent the money on, how?

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That’s the problem with GFM you don’t. Surely they can afford a funeral for goodness sake without begging for more money. Most parents who have lost children the last thing on their mind is raising money for a funeral! £60K has been raised. Would you seriously be thinking about money when your child has died? I can on a personal note tell you, money is the last thing on your mind. You’re unable to function, you don’t sleep, you literally can’t think, day turns into night, you wander around wondering what the fuck just happened. Believe me, money never enters your mind. Every little memory lives with you every day. Unless you’ve lost a child wind your neck in.

murasaki · 18/07/2024 23:48

Even middle class people do donate to people they don't know personally, I've done it several times but in relation to crowd funding lawyers for cases that I believe are right.

Not for fancy balloons outside a funeral and a street parade.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 18/07/2024 23:49

cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 23:47

@TwattyMcFuckFace and here you are, boosting my post 😘

Yes, you must be positively orgasmic about that.

However, your posts are coming across as very hypocritical for someone apparently concerned that 'his family are in bits'.

mrsdineen2 · 18/07/2024 23:52

SeriousFaffing · 18/07/2024 23:28

The feigned concern to acrid nastiness at breakneck speed and people queuing up to stick the boot in on this thread is unbelievable.

Pack of hyenas.

Are you describing the attack he perpetrated?

IllMetByMoonlight · 18/07/2024 23:53

cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 23:31

@IllMetByMoonlight maybe you should go and check out some of the news articles then before you jump down my throat.

Don't need to. It's got nothing to do with me. I know JT went missing and was subsequently found dead.
That's enough.
A dead young man = a bereft mother.
This is a parenting site where we support and uplift at best, and if we can't do that, then we can at least refrain from judgement. C'mon.

Biggleslefae · 18/07/2024 23:53

The post from @PricklyPearl at 23:36 sums it up for me. I do very much feel for this poor lady but this doesn't make her look good.

IfOnlyOurEyesSawSouls · 18/07/2024 23:53

cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 23:45

@Skinglow if you are so very offended by my post then don't comment.

You don't know me, you've no idea what my intentions were on this post.

I am genuinely shocked she expects the public to pay for her son's funeral when so much has already been donated. There are hundreds of other people in the world who go missing and end up being found deceased in awful circumstances but you don't hear about it, their families don't go begging strangers for money.

He's been found and it truly is terrible, not something I'd wish on my worst enemy. But grieve in peace now.

Exactly.

Your boy has been found .

Grieve in peace.

Crispynoodle · 18/07/2024 23:54

It feels weird to me profiteering from a situation where someone has lost their life. Having said that an American relative recently lost their daughter and despite being well off set up a go fund me to pay for funeral expenses and to donate to the deceased favourite charities.

hot2trotter · 18/07/2024 23:54

That family have no shame. But more fool the idiots who donate (again)

Tumblingjungleofchaos · 18/07/2024 23:56

Hiphopopotamonster · 18/07/2024 22:48

what happened to her son is incredibly tragic. I can’t imagine losing a child and what that would feel like. I have deepest sympathy for her and anyone that has gone through that.
it’s not ok to ask for money and essentially use her child’s death to solicit donations that are now not needed except for her own personal use.

Both of these things can be true. And I think it does need saying as those who tend to donate to these causes are often quite vulnerable and not particularly well off themselves.

Exactly. We can feel immense sympathy for her loss, - while also feeling the GFM is inappropriate.

Itisjustmyopinion · 18/07/2024 23:58

IllMetByMoonlight · 18/07/2024 23:53

Don't need to. It's got nothing to do with me. I know JT went missing and was subsequently found dead.
That's enough.
A dead young man = a bereft mother.
This is a parenting site where we support and uplift at best, and if we can't do that, then we can at least refrain from judgement. C'mon.

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Maybe your concern should go to the mother of the lad that he violently attacked

I know that is where my sympathies lie

TikehauLilly · 18/07/2024 23:58

The GFM should make eveeyone (deemed appropriate) "whole" again regarding costs for their effort this past month to find him. I'm not sure what else would be left of the 60k after a month of costs but I'd not be asking for loads more for a fancy funeral... but each to their own.

Poor woman x

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cauliflowercheeseplease · 19/07/2024 00:00

@TwattyMcFuckFace not really. I said from the off it's terrible what's happened, but surely now you'd want to grieve in peace? It's coming up to 5 days since he was found and already more money is being asked for. Would that be the first thing on your mind? Definitely wouldn't be mine. Getting him home and being with over ones would be. A funeral doesn't have to be an extravagant event, all that matters is his family and friends are there.

We are all allowed to have our own thoughts on this, but just because it doesn't match what the high and mighty think then things get heated.

Yes she's lost her son. She should be coming to terms with that, not going to the press to ask for more donations. It doesn't look good at all

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