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Jay Slaters mum asking for more donations

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cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 22:32

I understand it's an awful thing that's happened but the Gofundme has reached almost 60k and Jay's mum is asking for more donation to give him a memorable send off.
I'm sure there is more than enough left to enable her to do this after she's paid out those that have helped with the search? Although I did read somewhere some of those that flew out went home earlier as she didn't pay as promised?
Is this wrong of me to say?

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SeriousFaffing · 18/07/2024 23:28

The feigned concern to acrid nastiness at breakneck speed and people queuing up to stick the boot in on this thread is unbelievable.

Pack of hyenas.

Livelovebehappy · 18/07/2024 23:28

I think a charity is actually paying for the repatriation costs, so guessing the money raised is solely for the funeral. I personally won’t be giving, because I don’t think the Gofundme pages are regulated properly, so wouldn’t donate anyway. But, as others have said, it isn’t compulsory to donate, and so if people want to do so, it’s no-one else’s business really.

Skinglow · 18/07/2024 23:29

murasaki · 18/07/2024 23:27

No chance.

Do you know her then?

Itisjustmyopinion · 18/07/2024 23:29

Comedycook · 18/07/2024 23:26

Lower, upper, meh. The class structure in the UK is entrenched I'm afraid.

And yes look at the people discussing this on Facebook, the interest in this case has been overwhelmingly from the working class section of society. They feel like he is one of their own, hence why they are so willing to donate

Do people put their salary on a Facebook post these days? How do you know that the majority of people come from the “lower” class 🙄

whiteboardking · 18/07/2024 23:29

I'm normally a generous forgiving soul. But this lad got himself into a situation & it went wrong. He had an interesting history which has been exposed. IMO the money should go to local charities on the island

QueenCamilla · 18/07/2024 23:29

Comedycook · 18/07/2024 23:26

Lower, upper, meh. The class structure in the UK is entrenched I'm afraid.

And yes look at the people discussing this on Facebook, the interest in this case has been overwhelmingly from the working class section of society. They feel like he is one of their own, hence why they are so willing to donate

Facebook you say? How very lower class of you... Mingling with the plebs!

betterangels · 18/07/2024 23:29

murasaki · 18/07/2024 22:48

Its sort of unrelated to him, but I find the whole go fund me thing for 'i forgot to get health insurance', 'ooh look, I flew abroad while heavily pregnant and shock horror gave birth', 'I fell off something, give me money' stuff frankly undignified and grasping. Fools that go for it, it's on you, but I wish it wasn't a thing. Own your own mistakes.

Agree. But if people donate money to it, that's on them.

Dylanesque · 18/07/2024 23:30

Amazing how she has managed to burn through almost 60 grand already. I suppose Gucci handbags and the like don't buy themselves. Money-grubbing at its most crass

Allthatwegotisthispalebluedot · 18/07/2024 23:30

Itisjustmyopinion · 18/07/2024 23:22

He doesn’t deserve any kindness at all

Oh come on. I’ve been as enthralled by the stupid posts on Facebook as much as the next person but a young person has died in relatively horrible circumstances in a foreign country. That is dreadfully sad.

The punishment for ABH isn’t being chucked off a mountain in Tenerife! Even if you do have dodgy friends, a Facebook group full of armchair detectives and a go fund me with no clear objective of what the money will be spent on.

murasaki · 18/07/2024 23:31

Skinglow · 18/07/2024 23:29

Do you know her then?

Of course not, but I'd be very surprised if it was. And I wouldn't be the only one.

They were withdrawing funds to bring out random friends, I really don't think all 60k will go on Jay related things

cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 23:31

@IllMetByMoonlight maybe you should go and check out some of the news articles then before you jump down my throat.

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Skinglow · 18/07/2024 23:31

murasaki · 18/07/2024 23:31

Of course not, but I'd be very surprised if it was. And I wouldn't be the only one.

They were withdrawing funds to bring out random friends, I really don't think all 60k will go on Jay related things

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Then you are making shit up to stick the boot in.

betterangels · 18/07/2024 23:32

MakeMeAirtight · 18/07/2024 23:12

Dont speak ill of the dead.

People don't become good just because they're dead.

LuluBlakey1 · 18/07/2024 23:32

So many people lose those they love to accidents and illness and violence and they get on and pay for a funeral- mightn't be showy but they see it as their responsibility to do their best for their loved one.
When my mam died we didn't have a big funeral- I did my utmost to make it about her in the music, what was read, what I said in the Eulogy, donations to a charity she supported. I made all her favourite foods for the reception afterwards, which we had at her home.DH had photos of her from birth to old age turned into a booklet for guests and there were lovely photos at the crematorium and around her house. It was the last thing I could do for her as her daughter.The people who loved her had tea, a drink, and sat and reminisced about her. It was lovely. I would never have expected or asked complete strangers to pay for a 'send-off'. It was my responsibility and I wanted to do it for her.
I think his mother completely fails to 'read the room' or to show any insight into her own behaviours. She complains about comments made about the `GFM' but then asks for more than the £60,000 to be donated. 'Give whatever you can' were the words I think.

Comedycook · 18/07/2024 23:32

QueenCamilla · 18/07/2024 23:29

Facebook you say? How very lower class of you... Mingling with the plebs!

You can try to make out I'm being a snob. I passed no comment on my own social class. It's an observation. The people most gripped by this, who feel most connection with the story and most willing to donate are the working class.

TaylorSwish · 18/07/2024 23:32

The public donated 2 million to Mccanns, I believe they were also criticised for this.

SeriousFaffing · 18/07/2024 23:33

Dylanesque · 18/07/2024 23:30

Amazing how she has managed to burn through almost 60 grand already. I suppose Gucci handbags and the like don't buy themselves. Money-grubbing at its most crass

Crass. Ironic…

Skinglow · 18/07/2024 23:35

Dylanesque · 18/07/2024 23:30

Amazing how she has managed to burn through almost 60 grand already. I suppose Gucci handbags and the like don't buy themselves. Money-grubbing at its most crass

And you know what she's spent the money on, how?

murasaki · 18/07/2024 23:36

LuluBlakey1 · 18/07/2024 23:32

So many people lose those they love to accidents and illness and violence and they get on and pay for a funeral- mightn't be showy but they see it as their responsibility to do their best for their loved one.
When my mam died we didn't have a big funeral- I did my utmost to make it about her in the music, what was read, what I said in the Eulogy, donations to a charity she supported. I made all her favourite foods for the reception afterwards, which we had at her home.DH had photos of her from birth to old age turned into a booklet for guests and there were lovely photos at the crematorium and around her house. It was the last thing I could do for her as her daughter.The people who loved her had tea, a drink, and sat and reminisced about her. It was lovely. I would never have expected or asked complete strangers to pay for a 'send-off'. It was my responsibility and I wanted to do it for her.
I think his mother completely fails to 'read the room' or to show any insight into her own behaviours. She complains about comments made about the `GFM' but then asks for more than the £60,000 to be donated. 'Give whatever you can' were the words I think.

It sounds like you put on a wonderful send off. I hope it is a little easier for you now.

PricklyPearl · 18/07/2024 23:36

People will have mixed feelings on this. On one hand there’s a grieving mother who probably doesn’t know her arse from her elbow right now. Could I have set up a Go Fund Me when my son died, absolutely not, if my family had asked to do that the answer would have been the same. Personally, I wouldn’t have had the energy to update a Go Fund Me either but people are different, they grieve differently. Something doesn’t sit right with me updating that page encouraging people to give her son a “good send off” or words to that effect.

To be perfectly honest, her son wasn’t the most pleasant of people, who uses a machete on another person? He wasn’t innocent and I don’t believe his friends were either. Again, personally, if I was her I wouldn’t want my sons face (who had a criminal record) plastered all over the press. Jay Slayer made his choices, probably very wrong choices and he paid the price for those. Whether that was drug induced or something deeper who knows? The family appear to be ignoring his past.

There’s been so many armchair detectives posting stuff on this case it’s outrageous. One guy went “searching” for Jay Slater from England to Tenerife, he’s now gone to Italy to “search” for another missing person. This is all for personal gain imo, for TikTok/You Tube/Facebook views and gifts that his followers bestow on him. It’s disgusting.

If I was Jay Slaters mother, I’d just be wanting to bring him home and frankly be keeping my head down. Before Go Fund me or other platforms like them existed people coped. It’s all very distasteful.

greenpolarbear · 18/07/2024 23:36

Bizarre that people want to donate to the funeral of a machete wielding teenage criminal (who is a complete stranger to them) in the first place.

That money could go to food banks or homeless charities or addiction charities or a million other things. I'd be ashamed of people putting their own hard earned money to my funeral, and even more ashamed of my parents promoting it. It's an embarrassment.

Lovefromjuliaxo · 18/07/2024 23:36

Rantypanties · 18/07/2024 22:43

I’m sure they’ll be able to claim on his insurance for repatriation…

I don’t think he bothered getting insurance

cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 23:36

SeriousFaffing · 18/07/2024 23:28

The feigned concern to acrid nastiness at breakneck speed and people queuing up to stick the boot in on this thread is unbelievable.

Pack of hyenas.

I knew there would be some not so pleasant comments in here, but this is still someone who's sadly now deceased so I thought ( naively) this would be remembered before harsh comments were posted.

My whole point was, she's practically having everything paid for by the government anyway and unless she's staying in a 5* hotel costing thousands every night then surely there's enough money left to pay for the funeral she wants him to have?

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Sunrisemouse · 18/07/2024 23:38

I have read a post from the mum that the search team they brought over cost £52k

SeriousFaffing · 18/07/2024 23:38

cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 23:36

I knew there would be some not so pleasant comments in here, but this is still someone who's sadly now deceased so I thought ( naively) this would be remembered before harsh comments were posted.

My whole point was, she's practically having everything paid for by the government anyway and unless she's staying in a 5* hotel costing thousands every night then surely there's enough money left to pay for the funeral she wants him to have?

@cauliflowercheeseplease its crystal clear what you thought and what you were doing by starting starting this thread.

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