My boy died on Wednesday. He was 18. Is anyone around? I can’t sleep.

I’m so sorry for your loss, sending you love x

I am so sorry for your infinite loss. I'm in tears for you. My youngest is only a few years older than yours but I nearly lost a child at aged 18. I had the fear. You have the complete shock and I am so so sorry for you all. As others have said, don't try and be strong for anyone else. This is your child. You are allowed to grieve and you must, do it how ever you want and need.

Op when you say suppoted accmd was that when someone comes in to help ? Did you know the careers ? Was he on medication ? Was this ever on the cards ? It's just if there is any whiff of foul play make sure the police get involved. People in supported living are very vulnerable.

Oh my darling keep talking, we are here and we are listening ❤️

I can only imagine how you feel. I think the uncertainty surrounding your son's death does not help how you are coping. Please encourage your children to talk about their feelings. A good funeral director can point you in the right direction of what to do or what happens his remains. Hoping you find strength to carry you through the next difficult phase of grief. Hold those good memories close.

So sorry to hear your shocking news. The death of a child must be the hardest thing in the world to deal with and made worse by not knowing why it happened. I hope the person doing PM will allow you to visit him asap. Could you reach out to your ds's father so you can deal with funeral arrangements together when the time comes? I know it may sound odd but you can still meet your DS in your dreams. I often dream about my Mum who is dead but after a vivid dream it feels like i've spent time with her. It is comforting. Try to eat and sleep as that will help you cope. Get GP to give you something mild to help you until after funeral.

Such sad news. Thinking of you x

I’m so sorry for your loss op. Xx

When my son died traumatically I could view his body first to identify for the police. I then identified for the coroner a couple of days later. After the post mortem which was about day three my son was transferred to the funeral home of my choice where I could see him any time I wanted up to his funeral. You will have lots of opportunities to be with your son. I am so terribly sorry you are entering into this world. There aren’t many words to describe the pain and shock I’m sure you’ll be feeling right now. I pray for you on your journey. You may find the organisation tcf ( The compassionate friends) helpful.

I’m so sorry op. I send you my love x

I'm so sorry for your loss.
I will try to answer your question about your other children.
They need safety and an anchor. So I'd try to focus on the practicalities so while their world has changed in a huge way, some things can be relied on. They need their physical needs met with regular meals and an encouragement to do something physical to work off some anxiety and adrenaline.
They need access to an adult who loves them whenever they need it. This doesn't always have to be you. When our family was bereaved, it was hugely helpful that another close person was there for them, because there was times when I had nothing to give.
They need to be kept in the loop in an age appropriate way. Because understanding what has happened and what is happening next reduces fear. Don't feel you need to hide your emotions to be 'strong'. They are not a sign of weakness.
There are agencies who give advice on supporting bereaved children in the longer term and I'd recommend that you or your partner contact them.
My heart goes out to you and your family. Sending you strength.

Please do contact a funeral director, independent family owned and not part of a group are usually best, cheaper often but also more personal. They will know what happens and what to do because it’s unfortunately not uncommon. The pm shouldn’t take long, they will also take bloods for analysis then they often will have a cause of death so you can bury your son. If it’s inconclusive or any suspicious circumstances there’s a possibility of a delay but it’s very rare for that to be the case - occupational hazard. I organise funerals so I see all kinds of situations. Please give yourself space, you don’t need to be strong, give your kids hugs whether they like it or not, and take help from anyone who will offer it. So so sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your loss @SecurityLight that must have come as a dreadful shock to you all.
It sounds like he had a good life in his supported living and will be missed by many.
I hope you get the answers you need sooner rather than later and you can then lay your boy to rest.

I am so so sorry. Please talk about him if that helps 💕.

I lost my 16 year old boy to suicide 9 months ago. Your brain will play all sorts of tricks on you to try and prevent you from feeling the full impact of the loss so be very easy on yourself. As a Mother we have a tendency to blame ourselves. My counsellor said to me that the worst thing imaginable had happened to me and instead of meeting myself.with love and compassion i was doubling down on myself so try and remind yourself that you have lost a child and deserve only kindness and care. You will.go through feelings of numbness, disbelief and then yoy will feel like you are being punched when the reality hits you again. The kindness I experienced and am still experiencing from people has been remarkable. My other children are all dealing with the loss differently but they have all grown and matured and we are closer now than ever. My son is always on my mind but I do feel joy. I value my life and I am doing everything I can to live it in the best way I can. One minute, one hour, one day, is the only way forward. I was lucky, I was well supported at work and didn't return for 6 Months. I am settling back in well now. My boy was nd and in a bit of bother but we never expected this outcome. I hope you get the pm results quickly. We were 7 months waiting but I am not in the UK. As one Mother to another, you will be OK but you will no longer be the person you were before the loss of your Son. Take care of yourself and eat when you can and drink water, get out every day for a walk, shower, get dressed. Find small moments of joy in your day.

RIP young man. I am so, so sorry for your loss. I am weeping for you. Time is a healer of grief and you will eventually learn to live with your loss.

He sounds lovely.
I’m so sorry. Xxx

I’m so sorry for your loss x