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Pawpainting · 05/03/2017 19:22

And as usual spectacularly misinterpreting what we are saying. I have never seen anyone on here say what they are claiming. I can only guess it's deliberate

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DJBaggySmalls · 05/03/2017 19:42

We are the new Right? Who knew. I just didnt want to be eradicated.

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Whisky2014 · 05/03/2017 19:51

It's a fucking gimmick. I know 3 people defining themselves as the other gender at the mo. But they won't be getting operations or even bother their arse to see what it truly is to be a woman. Ignorance is bliss eh? It's all very well wanting to define them self as a woman...just don't try to eradicate us!

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Bambambini · 05/03/2017 20:01

Someone dissed us, saying we are way smaller than NMs - how very dare they!

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Pawpainting · 05/03/2017 20:11

"Alt right" is the new "bigot" in some corners of the Internet. It's thrown at dissenters to silence discussion.

Lol bambambini, they've got some cheek to say such a thing!

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ChocChocPorridge · 05/03/2017 20:21

ROFL - don't fall down that hole - if you thought people here sometimes jump down your throat when they mis-interpreted what you said, or could be obnoxiously oblivious to what you're actually trying to say, you should see the willful mis-representation that goes on there.

The more I read, the more I think there really are some very tactical people running the TA stuff.

Have you noticed, it's very rarely just action for Trans people - they always latch onto someone else, it's quite interesting when you start to see it.

Eg. LGBT - T isn't a sexual orientation, and yet, there it is hooked up to LGB.

The women's march was bad because it didn't include transwomen and women of colour.

I saw Trans and immigrants recently on another article regarding Trumps policies

and of course the continual attempts to lump themselves in with intersex people and women who've had bits removed because of disease.

Not that a trans person couldn't fall into more than one of the groups, but, as a rule that isn't the case in my experience.

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Miffer · 05/03/2017 20:23

Calling us the Alt Right while screaming "Not all the menz!".

Get double fucked.

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Itwasthenandstillis · 05/03/2017 20:44

Where ? who?

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Datun · 05/03/2017 20:58

I love it how they say that users (of Mumsnet) used to be more sympathetic. Yes we did. Until we realised what the fuck was going on.

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M0stlyBowlingHedgehog · 05/03/2017 21:08

Waves to our new "friends".

So a bunch of women (us) who are predominantly mothers (have been impregnated through our vaginas via penis-in-vagina sex, grown a baby in our uterus with eggs from our ovaries, pushed said baby back out our vagina or had major abdominal surgery, then had to do the whole juggling life commitments - job, other caring responsibilities etc. - that come with motherhood) think biology is more real than an internal feeling of femininity.

Colour me surprised.

Live with it, chaps.

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ChocChocPorridge · 05/03/2017 21:13

I'm waiting for them to co-opt that too - after all, I'm a woman, a biological female, XX, vagina, uterus and all, and yet, I've had 2 penises surgically removed.

A golden opportunity to point out that women can have penises, but they would have to talk about icky women stuff, so perhaps not.

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YorkshireTree · 05/03/2017 21:35

How did that happen Choc? If you want to share?

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ludog · 05/03/2017 21:42

Im guessing she gave birth to two sons by cs?

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Milliepede · 05/03/2017 21:49

Fuck off (waves)

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FlaviaAlbia · 05/03/2017 22:05

M0stlyBowlingHedgehog Grin love your way with words!

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NotCarylChurchill · 05/03/2017 22:09

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AssassinatedBeauty · 05/03/2017 22:15

Why do you say "nothing more"?

The only thing that makes me a woman is my biology. What else would make me a woman that isn't something that is based on a stereotype?

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YetAnotherSpartacus · 05/03/2017 22:16

They all sound about 16 ...

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M0stlyBowlingHedgehog · 05/03/2017 22:20

It's not reductionist, Caryl, though it's a common misconception about radical feminism that it is in some way a form of biological determinism.

My position is this: I am smaller and weaker than most men. I am also vulnerable when pregnant and looking after a small child. That's biology. It should be irrelevant, because those facts in no way undermine my personhood, moral or political agency - that's feminism. But without acknowledging biology, it becomes impossible to name and explain where sex-based oppression comes from. Without acknowledging the reality of sex, sex-based oppression becomes as random as, say, deciding one day to pay blue eyed people 70% less, or denying them the vote, or denying them education, or cutting off bits of their genitals or forcing them to give birth if they get pregnant, or leaving them as the class of people overwhelmingly on the receiving end of sexual violence from the other class of people.

I happen to believe biology has to be acknowledged because of its role in explaining the oppression women historically and cross culturally are subjected to. To deny that it's important is to be like the sort of white person who blithely says "you know, I genuinely don't see the colour of people's skin..." It's an insult to the lived experience of people who find themselves treated differently because of their colour to pretend it's unimportant. Likewise biological sex. To deny the historical importance of biological sex in women's political and economic experiences of the world is to deny women the ability to talk about why they get a shit deal in a lot of cultures, a lot of the time.

I'm a feminist because I believe biological sex shouldn't matter when it comes to most of the important issues about being a human being.

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joystir59 · 05/03/2017 22:44

I am a woman because of my physical reality. Nothing to do with identity. Fuck identity and fuck gender. I wasn't identified as female at birth- I was observed to be female. I've conformed to the gender role society would have me play as a girl- so I transcend gender, mix gender, fuck with gender. Whatever. Being a woman isn't a feeling- its my DNA, my chromosomes, my physical characteristics. It is what I am like it or not- and as a child and adolescent I didn't like it- I wanted to be male, have the power freedom and opportunities that went with having a penis. I grew up though, to embrace my femaleness and to love myself and my body. Thank goodness I wasn't being raised now- I'd probably have ended up sterilised. I have been abused all my life for being female. And I was born in a part of the world where girls and women have it relatively easy- I never had my genitals cut, or had to marry anyone, or risked death for 'dishonouring' my family. Even so- I have been abused for being female all of my life in small every day sexist ways to more serious familial sexual abuse when I was a young girl. Nobody gets to rename me 'cis' or claim the name of woman, to define me, or enter my safe spaces.

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joystir59 · 05/03/2017 22:47

That should read- I've never conformed to the gender role society would have me play. And at the end of my rant I meant to say no man gets to ....

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Notwhatiexpected · 06/03/2017 06:46

I have noticed a change in how posters who identify as Trans are dealing with forums like Munsnet. where in the past it was very aggressive and mansplaining, now there is a veneer of agreement with the OPs, without shifting an inch on their position, but that non aggressive approach neutralises the argument. And coming in as teams who then take over the thread, lots of polite validation of each other "thank you for your educating views, or you are so clever, I am learning so much about my self from you" fawning stuff like that.

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ChocChocPorridge · 06/03/2017 07:44

Yes indeed - 2 sons by CS.

Saying that the word 'woman' is defined by biology isn't reductionist. Those women themselves purely defined by a dictionary definition. A definition for a word is just how language works. Transwomen want to change the definition of a word, so it includes them, yet they can't give a solid definition for that word that we could put in a dictionary, so I reject that on the two grounds that we have a perfectly good definition already, and I don't think it helps women to change it, and because they don't actually have something to replace it with, which offends me linguistically.

Bipedal means having two legs. Calling humans bipedal doesn't reduce people to their legs, doesn't negate the humanity of people with fewer than 2 legs, it's just a word, with a definition, which describes reality.

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MissiAmphetamine · 06/03/2017 09:30

The some of the commenters on that subreddit, are the same ones who sent me, and other GC women, such gems as these (under their own usual nicknames, as wells as throwaway accounts) : m.imgur.com/a/ghSLi

So I'd say their opinion on whether or not anything is sane or decent, can be safely ignored.

(Warning, they're potentially rather upsetting to read, as they reference traumatic sexual experiences I discussed on other subreddits, and are very misogynistic.)

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HemlockIsSpartacus · 06/03/2017 09:34

Oh, as they are watching Could we get a definition of woman please? Preferably one without any circular logic.

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ChocChocPorridge · 06/03/2017 09:44

I tried that on a debate sub. After trying various misdirects, the previously vociferous debater just stopped replying.

All I asked was a very simple, non circular definition (I defined circular definition after he tried to debate that too) - I gave my own, non-circular, clearly defined definitions.

He couldn't.

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