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user1487519954 Sat 03-Feb-18 08:07:14

NC in case this is identifying!
Would you go to a wedding on the 29th December?
Or the 5th of January?
Looks like those are the only ones that we can do in a 4 month interval, because my brother is in the army and going to be away before and after that for long stretches, but I'm worried people will hate it and not come...

Bubblysqueak Sat 03-Feb-18 08:09:08

I went to one on the 2nd of jan it was lovely .

ThroughThickAndThin01 Sat 03-Feb-18 08:09:43

Well we’d come, but I love a wedding. I’d do a lot to get to the wedding of a friend or family.

CrabappleBiscuit Sat 03-Feb-18 08:10:36

Purely depends how far I had to travel and if I had kids ( but that’s the same with any dats)I don’t have kids so would happily do either for a good friend with enough notice. Some people will be away seeing family on the 29th but might be glad of the excuse to get away.

5 Th people less likely to be away.

Lillylollylandy Sat 03-Feb-18 08:10:51

29 Dec better than 2 Jan - most people are back at work after Christmas on 2 jan. my brother got married on 28 Dec and it was a lovely time of year for a wedding.

Sarahh2014 Sat 03-Feb-18 08:13:24

29th better it would be a lovely thing to look forward to in that awkward time between Xmas and new yr

user1487519954 Sat 03-Feb-18 08:14:44

Most people are quite far away but we're in the middle of them... So his family 4 hours north, mine 4 hours south, a lot of friends 2 hours away...

mpsw Sat 03-Feb-18 08:15:11

Yes, I'd go.

Probably appreciate an email tip off well in advance, because people do plan their Christmas hols a long way in advance (especially if they're factoring in which side of the family they are visiting and when).

Need to check when schools go back.

And expect those with awkward journeys to decline, or those who cannot find accommodation (if they need it). But with military families, you just have to squidge things in when you can. I think people are likely to make the effort, because they'll understand that this is the only way to fit it in.

user1487519954 Sat 03-Feb-18 08:15:39

Bum name change fail!

TheRealCurlySue Sat 03-Feb-18 08:16:31

My wedding was the 29th December and we had plenty of guests. A family member is getting married on the 29th December this year. So I would definitely go.

Sittinonthefloor Sat 03-Feb-18 08:18:12

Are they Saturdays? If so that's easier. I'd find it annoying, it's our family time of year and We are normally very busy! 5th would be better, but we'd be knackerd!

WeKnowFrogsGoShaLaLaLaLa Sat 03-Feb-18 08:21:02

2nd Jan puts a lot of people/ kids back at work/school. The 29th fills that gap when you’re not even sure what day it is. I’d love to go to a wedding then. 😂

user1487519954 Sat 03-Feb-18 08:23:42

Yep Saturdays.
I was worried about people thinking it's 'family time'. I think family would be OK with it, and we're of the age that most of our friends don't have their own families yet.

ivytable Sat 03-Feb-18 08:24:49

29 dec would be parents got married on 31 dec which seems to have been fine

Brakebackcyclebot Sat 03-Feb-18 08:24:50

29 Dec.

user1487519954 Sat 03-Feb-18 08:25:19

5th January is the date we got engaged too

user1487519954 Sat 03-Feb-18 11:55:09


IHeartHoumous Sat 03-Feb-18 11:57:54

Don't get bogged down with 'awkward' dates OP, if you give people enough notice they can make arrangements to come if they want. If it was between those 2 I'd opt for 29 December and (if it wasn't local) probably stay an extra couple of nights and celebrate the new year in a nearby nice hotel.

hellogoodbyeendo Sat 03-Feb-18 12:04:54

I would love to go to a wedding on either date. 5th Jan would help to extend the festive period. I do love a wedding though.

SequinsOnEverything Sat 03-Feb-18 12:06:37

I would, I love weddings! I agree that before new years when people are still off might be better. Maybe send invites or save the dates early so they haven't made christmas plans.

fourpawswhite Sat 03-Feb-18 12:09:03

I would go to either. We got married December. For us, although we didn't realise till nearer the time, we benefited from a decorated church and hotel with little effort on our part. You might not get that with January date but likely to with December date.

user1487519954 Sat 03-Feb-18 12:23:20

IHeartHoumous good point... we live in a lovely touristy place so maybe people will do that!
Thinking to send a save-the-date email to close family and friends as soon as we've decided, then they can plan around it. (or not lol)

ivykaty44 Sat 03-Feb-18 12:51:15

A lot of people have time off between Xmas and new year so would think this is an ideal time to get married, very exciting along with being romantic.

Mumguiltisabitch Sat 03-Feb-18 12:55:10

I'd love the 29th a lot would be still off work and enjoy the party aspect , whereas the 5th would be the Saturday before i go backto work and kids back to school and all the preparation that entails.

HumbleCrumble Sat 03-Feb-18 13:39:33

I would go! I think the 29th would be slightly better as more people would still be off, and I would also probably extend it to a New Year break.

You will get declines on any date, no matter how much you try to suit everyone, so go for when you want smile

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