Advanced search

Hamster is gay, how to explain to children?

(105 Posts)

MNHQ have commented on this thread.

sophiechitt Mon 26-Oct-20 00:40:21

Our hamsters are both men, and our kids are asking why they cuddle so much, how do explain this to children 😂😂

OP’s posts: |
jennie0412 Mon 26-Oct-20 00:41:09

If they are Syrian hamsters they shouldn't be living together!

DrMadelineMaxwell Mon 26-Oct-20 00:48:44

Even other breeds that say they can live together rarely can without fighting and injuring or even killing each other. 2nd cage asap.

BLASTPROCESSING Mon 26-Oct-20 01:07:05

Do they aye

ConquestEmpireHungerPlague Mon 26-Oct-20 01:14:59

I don't know anything about hamsters, but as a general answer to your question, can't you just explain to your children that not all couples are breeding couples, and that if they're not planning to breed then it doesn't matter what sex they are?

BooksAreNotEssentialInWales Mon 26-Oct-20 01:16:20

Are you sure it's not a dominance thing before a murderous fight if it's hamsters? They can only live together as babies then they need to be apart (unless they are Russian Hamsters).

allthewaterinthetap Mon 26-Oct-20 01:21:11

Surely the only necessary answer is that they cuddle because they are best friends and love each other?

jessstan1 Mon 26-Oct-20 01:21:20

English hamsters often have same sex relationships and peacefully co-exist when not copulating.

This will teach your children to be tolerant and accepting of all sorts of partnerships.

NoSquirrels Mon 26-Oct-20 01:25:12

If your kids are asking why they ‘cuddle so much’ would you not just say ‘because they like/love each other’? confused

Heed the PPs warnings about male hamsters - I’ve no idea.

But if you’re asking how to explain same-sex attraction it’s easy - they like each other enough to cuddle lots.

Lovelydovey Mon 26-Oct-20 01:31:17

Are you sure they’re both male? My male hamsters had babies - clearly missexed by the pet shop....

MyDarlingWhatIfYouFly Mon 26-Oct-20 01:36:17

What kind of hamster? If they are Syrian (the "standard" type rather than the smaller ones) then please separate them - they will fight and it's likely one will seriously injure or kill the other.

BuntysTwinkle Mon 26-Oct-20 01:53:53

Might it be dominance humping?

PhilSwagielka Mon 26-Oct-20 01:56:23

In before Richard Gere jokes.

KoalaRabbit Mon 26-Oct-20 02:12:06

I would just say as they love cuddling. We have 3 female chickens and one often has its wing around another one and the third one appears to be trying to make babies from the unfertilised eggs by sitting on eggs from all 3 chickens.

PhilSwagielka Mon 26-Oct-20 02:28:52

Tell them the hamsters love each other very much.

SemperIdem Mon 26-Oct-20 02:41:12

@BooksAreNotEssentialInWales I had Russian hamsters as a child. I like to think the one killed the other before eating it, because it seems kinder than the smaller hamster being eaten alive.

EmmaGrundyForPM Mon 26-Oct-20 02:44:08

As others have said, hamsters will kill each other so you need to separate them.

PebblesAndBamBam Mon 26-Oct-20 02:46:40

Could be gay hamsters. However, could also be:
- Prelude to hamster homicide
- Good friends cuddling
- A failure by the pet shop to sex them properly (we ended up with 8 baby gerbils this way)

I would not go for explaining the dynamics of hamster sex if it were me, tbh.

DigiEm Mon 26-Oct-20 03:29:32

Separate them! I had Chinese dwarf hamsters that apparently can live together according to Pets at home but after a few months when they matured one almost lost an eye due to fighting (can still remember the noise now during middle of the night!) and had to be separated.

Also why not just say they are brothers which they probably are.

acerred Mon 26-Oct-20 03:44:10


In before Richard Gere jokes.

So you got in before Richard gere then ? grin

RainbowMum11 Mon 26-Oct-20 03:58:28

There you go - my first idea was to say, well they just love each other, it doesn't matter what gender they are, but if they are likely to kill each other then it's probably better to just separate them.

chatwoo Mon 26-Oct-20 04:03:16

Trying to keep warm?


nevergoingoutagain Mon 26-Oct-20 05:10:26

All the possibilities of dominance, possibilities of sex etc aside, this is really a question of how to explain homosexuality. Answer is it's completely unnecessary! Just say "because they love each other....."

Pringlemonster Mon 26-Oct-20 05:30:02

My friend kept 2 hamsters in the same cage ,despite me telling her countless times they needed their own cage.
She came down one morning,to find one had eaten the face of the other .

VashtaNerada Mon 26-Oct-20 05:33:01

Presumably your DC know that two men can be in love? It’s just the same as that then! (Quietly hoping it doesn’t turn out to be pre-murder behaviour and the hamsters live long and happy lives together).

Join the discussion

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Join Mumsnet

Already have a Mumsnet account? Log in