How much did he/should he spend on your engagement ring?

[BlingRing1]

Just curious what everyone's thoughts are nowadays? I've heard of the '3 month's salary rule' (although i also heard it was 2 months and 1 month, so who knows!), but that's from a long time ago. Is it still relevant now? If not then what is better?

How much did he spend (either in £ or relative to salary)? Was it more or less than you thought/hoped he would?

Does it matter to you (honestly!)? Should it matter?

[BlingRing1]

I guess I should start.

I think it should bear some relation to your salary/wealth. It would be hard to take it seriously if a millionaire bought you something tiny. Equally, if someone unemployed got a massive loan for something huge, that'd be an incredibly bad start to marriage. I'm not sure 3 months is the right figure though.

Mine is worth 2 months salary from his job (after tax), however he gets bonuses and owns and rents out property too, which increases what he earns overall and I know he is able to save what it's worth in about 6 weeks. He probably could have spent more, but he's very frugal so I never expected he would. Plus, i don't think I'd want to wear anything much bigger on a day to day basis (I wouldn't have said no to a little bit bigger though!).

Overall, I think if you can easily afford it then it's not enough, you need to wince just a bit as you hand over your card!

[SandrasAnnoyingFriend]

What a load of outdated sexist bullshit

[oohmyback]

My ring was £500. It was a lot of money to us at the time. (2004) But by no means 3 months salary...or even 1 month! We bought it on a credit card, we needed to be able to pay it back. If we'd wanted to spend 3 months salary we'd still be waiting lol. It's a lot of money to save up however much you earn if you live to your means.

[oohmyback]

I'm glad we didn't spend any more, I can't even wear it now anyway due to swollen joints.

[MetroMan]

You sound like a grabby so and so

[Outbutnotoutout]

If he bought me a ring 3xwages, that would be £7500, which is crazy.

I guess about £2000/£2500

[cosmicbabe]

Haha you're obviously annoyed he didn't spend more then...

[MichelleScarn]

Who cares about the person giving it to you, as long as he SPENDS on it..... what do you plan on buying him?

[VanGoghsDog]

Good god, are you for real???

[bonfireheart]

If I had to buy a ring at x3 months salary that would be £9000!! I'd rather have a car or a nicer kitchen with that much than a ring lol.

[Reinventinganna]

Nothing, it’s a family ring and I adore it. It’s beautiful and has lots of meaning.

I find it ugly and depressing that people may have the same views as yours.

[DianaT1969]

I have never been a jewellery person, so would prefer to spend it on something that matters.

[partyatthepalace]

@BlingRing1

I guess I should start.

I think it should bear some relation to your salary/wealth. It would be hard to take it seriously if a millionaire bought you something tiny. Equally, if someone unemployed got a massive loan for something huge, that'd be an incredibly bad start to marriage. I'm not sure 3 months is the right figure though.

Mine is worth 2 months salary from his job (after tax), however he gets bonuses and owns and rents out property too, which increases what he earns overall and I know he is able to save what it's worth in about 6 weeks. He probably could have spent more, but he's very frugal so I never expected he would. Plus, i don't think I'd want to wear anything much bigger on a day to day basis (I wouldn't have said no to a little bit bigger though!).

Overall, I think if you can easily afford it then it's not enough, you need to wince just a bit as you hand over your card!

We’re delighted for you OP. Is that what you wanted? 🤔 You could post a picture as a follow up 🙄

[PurpleDaisies]

My ring wasn’t expensive. I wouldn’t have wanted something expensive or flashy. The concept of linking to salary is outdated and I can’t relate to wanting someone wincing to pay for a ring for me - talk about grabby.

It would be hard to take it seriously if a millionaire bought you something tiny

Why? It was the intent behind the proposal that was important, not the ring.

[AnneLovesGilbert]

[LondonTTC]

Mine cost a couple hundred pounds and I was thrilled with it. I'm so touched that someone I love, loves me enough back to buy me a ring and ask me to marry him. That's it. Couldn't care less what it looks like or cost.

[WolfHunter]

Another £0 here. It was his grandma's wedding ring. I love it.

[Outbutnotoutout]

My first engagement ring cost £15 at the half price jewellers, but I loved it, I was 16, married at 17, divorced a year later 🙄😂

[WolfHunter]

Engagement ring that should be. Brain fart!

[MissingLinker]

Overall, I think if you can easily afford it then it's not enough
I'm not sure that's a good stance to take on any purchase, others may disagree.

Honestly, I wouldn't want to marry someone who expected me to spend more than I could afford on what is, really, a completely symbolic gesture.

[Borntohula]

If anyone bought me a ring that expensive, I'd question how much they actually knew me tbh. I also wouldn't want some generic piece of rubbish. I guess engagement rings aren't for me.

[MrsBrunch]

I can't remember. Does it matter?

[BatleyTownswomensGuild]

FFS, why does it even matter? What's more important - the ring or the marriage?

[Frenchdressing]

@SandrasAnnoyingFriend

What a load of outdated sexist bullshit

Yep

[okokok000]

I disagree with the x number of months salary. You need to like the ring. My husband erred on the side of caution and bought me some jewellery (not a ring) and then we went ring shopping after having agreed a budget which had no correlation to husband's salary.