Prostitutes

[allgoodinthehood]

Can I please have an honest opinion on what you really think of people who use prostitution.
I was talking to a friend about it and we had completely different ideas on this subject.
ie a man using a prostitute when he was in a relationship and was away on holiday.

[Daisysandviolets]

I personally think if someone is single then it's each to their own but if your in a relationship it's cheating and absolutely not ok! Paying or not paying your still being intimate with someone other than your partner! That being said I guess some people have different relationships/agreements and that's upto them but I personally would not be ok with it.

[allgoodinthehood]

But I suppose my question is would you judge the man and think less of him if he used a prostitue.
There is no agreement in his relationship that its ok to do this . As in she has no clue that he has .

[NC4todayx]

I think people who use prostitutes are sad. How desperately pathetic is it to have to pay someone to have sex with you. Pretty bad for the self-esteem. And to purchase another human being's body/ I don't care how anyone slices or dices it, it's just demeaning.

[NC4todayx]

Sorry. I forgot the word pigs in my reply. Sad pigs

[JoJoSM2]

If I knew that someone used prostitutes even when single, I’d never consider a relationship with them. It’s gross.

[midwifeync]

*sex work(ers)

[allgoodinthehood]

Really sorry should I have used the term
sex worker?

[Ughmaybenot]

Absolute scum imo. You cannot buy consent. It does not sit easy with me at all.

[Sailor2009]

I once worked with a guy who swore blind he was faithful to his girlfriend despite the fact that whenever we were in port he spent every minute he wasn't working in brothels. Apparently it's not cheating if you pay for it

[MsWonderful]

‘Sex worker’ is a term coined by pumps to sanitise the reality of what is happening when a man pays to rent a woman’s vagina.
I am absolutely not shaming prostituted women. I don’t think they have anything to be ashamed of. They are doing what they have to do in difficult life circumstances (yes I know, belle du jour, but that’s hardly the reality for most of the women)
I absolutely think that the men who take advantage of these desperate women should be shamed though. They are scum. Read ‘puntersnet’ reviews of you don’t believe me 🤮

[LittleHootie]

I think it's disgusting. My ex used them. I found out via his phone account. Discovered quite often I would spend weekend and as soon as I left on the sunday evening, he'd call prostitutes to see who was free. Dirty little bastard.

[MsWonderful]

Pimps, not pumps

[AllsortsofAwkward]

Its grim to pay to cheat on youre partner to take advantage of someone vulnerable, please tell his partner so that can make an informed choice.

[beenwhereyouare]

Regardless of who it's with, someone in a relationship who has sex with another person is cheating.

[AgeLikeWine]

Some single men genuinely struggle to find girlfriends. They can try as hard as they like using OLD, hobbies etc but cannot find a woman who is willing to have sex with them.

Many women don’t understand this, because any woman can get as much sex as she wants. All she has to do is set up a Tinder profile and say she is looking for ‘no-strings fun”. She will be inundated with offers.

These men then face a choice. Celibacy or paying for the services of a sex worker. In that situation, and assuming the sex worker is making a free choice to do her job, I’m not going to judge either party to that business transactIon.

[MsWonderful]

I haven’t had sex for 3 years but I don’t think that entitles me to take advantage of someone vulnerable tbh. Not sure why some men feel this is ok??

[minnieok]

I don't like it and if you are in a relationship unless the other partner is ok with it then it's wrong, always. But whilst I'm uncomfortable with prostitution, I know that it covers a wide spectrum of suppliers, and some do completely choose their occupation, and I think they should have the protection of the law.

So guys in relationships cheating on their partner - wrong, but if you are single, enjoy threesomes etc then as long as the provider is not coerced etc then ok but still uncomfortable that isn't truly a choice

[firecracker69]

If it's not cheating (in their eyes) wtf don't they mention it to their partner???

[Arrivederla]

@MsWonderful

I haven’t had sex for 3 years but I don’t think that entitles me to take advantage of someone vulnerable tbh. Not sure why some men feel this is ok??

Exactly this.

[rollonoctober]

Bought consent is not true consent. It's grim, whether he is in a relationship or not.

[OnceUponALorry]

Its grim.

I wouldn't go near anyone (knowingly) who had slept with a sex worker. Its never okay to pay to rent out a vagina.

[Shoxfordian]

I wouldn't think anything good about him
Why, have you done this or did your ex do it op? I assume he's an ex.

[XSW89]

Previous sex worker here. I was in an abusive relationship and under somebody's control before people jump on me and call me a home wrecker..

Men in relationships/married visiting sex workers? I think they are scum. One of my most problematic clients was 'happily married' as far as his wife was concerned.

[Teacher12345]

Several of DH friends have used prostitutes. Some when in relationships, some as single men. I think it is disgusting and definitley think less of them.

[DorisDaisyMay]

I would not knowingly enter into a relationship with someone who used prostitutes. Men on tour and strip clubs - absolutely yuk.

But I have a friend who does. It began when he was young when his dad brought a woman for him. Surely the messed up nature of that is clear. I am friends with him, I try not to think of it and am friends with him for the good qualities he has. I also know one other who fits into the category of very very lonely and it is unlikely due to his mental health he would ever have a close intimate friendship. I feel so sorry for him and revolted and sad.

I volunteered for over three years for a charity to support sex workers and feel very strongly that a body should never be brought or sold. But even with that view, my lived experienced, is not dogmatic when faced with real friendships and in context.