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Third (and final) thread - C nonsense

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JaysusWept · 21/09/2019 21:59

Unbelievable that this is the 3rd thread and still nothing has been resolved.
I wasn’t going to start this one but if anything good comes out of this shite it will be a Glasgow/Scotland MN meet up!

I know folk laugh at all the ‘DAILY MAIL MAY NOT USE THIS’ stuff, but here’s me giving the scummy DM permission to use this 👋

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JaysusWept · 21/09/2019 22:00

Actually, I really don’t want to be in the DM. I’ll need to practice my sad face and my ‘me now’ face.

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lakeloveragain · 21/09/2019 22:01

What do you want to do next?

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Whoops75 · 21/09/2019 22:05

You’re far to classy for the Mail.

This story belongs on the big screen.
Holly & Phil should do a feature on this.

When friends become frenemies......

I’ll play myself in the movie 🎥

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JaysusWept · 21/09/2019 22:07

The brave, bold part of me would confront C and her husband.
The people pleasing, conflict avoiding part of me just wants to sweep this all under the carpet, be polite and move on.

But the injustice of it all fucking stings. And that’s what annoys me. I haven’t done anything wrong.

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hardrainsgonnafall · 21/09/2019 22:09

Can anyone précis?

I keep seeing these C threads!

You been wronged OP?

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SandyGusset · 21/09/2019 22:11

If C really believed that you were after her husband, why didn't she say anything before she fucked up with that first message?

It's like she's just throwing shit upon shit and hoping it sticks!

I think your friends have made it clear who's side they are on.

I don't think I could help myself, I'd have to go and turn up on their doorstop and say "right... let's sort this out, someone has clearly been messaging your husband, I don't doubt that, but it isn't me. So, please, once and for all just tell the truth so I can clear my name from being dragged through your muddy drama anymore"

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PumpityPumpPump · 21/09/2019 22:12

I'm glad you are back! I have been thinking of you and C. What a cow.

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Fizzypop2 · 21/09/2019 22:13

I bet the husband left because he found out that she had been spreading vicious lies... what exactly does she think is going to happen? That she will get away with it?

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SmellMySmellbow · 21/09/2019 22:14

I wonder what line her DH is intending to take in all of this? Is he fully appraised yet of what she's saying, I wonder? Is she blackmailing him to go along with it or she'll publish embarrassing nudes?!

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SandyGusset · 21/09/2019 22:14

You've got nothing to lose in defending your name.

Or ask your ex to message the husband and ask him what the hell is going on!

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Weenabix · 21/09/2019 22:14

Summon up the brave bold part and confront them! I really think you will regret it if you let it go but you can't regret speaking and seeking the truth, especially if you are calm and measured in doing it.

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beethebee · 21/09/2019 22:15

I'd send a cease and desist letter to Cs husband. That'd put the cat among the pigeons.

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MarshaBradyo · 21/09/2019 22:17

So intrigued to know what the H will be like at pick up. Will he turn up. Do the usual chat, be warned off with some lie or op will avoid him.

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SmellMySmellbow · 21/09/2019 22:17

And I'd let your ex confront the bloke. Ludicrous as it is, you've nothing to lose there. He needs to know exactly what's happening, assuming he doesn't, and the effect it's having. And what is he going to say/do about it?

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LorelaiRoryEmily · 21/09/2019 22:18

I've been following since the first thread @JaysusWept it's an awful situation. I think I would go and confront C. And record it(without her knowledge) for the benefit of those other rotten bitches who were supposed to be your friends.

The unfairness of it would force me to properly defend myself. What a pack of cunts.

ThanksThanks for you and your DD

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Dodie66 · 21/09/2019 22:21

Can somebody post links to previous threads please?

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frazzledasarock · 21/09/2019 22:23

If he hasn’t husband is ‘going back to c’, I’m back betting he’s not left at all and has no idea what’s is going on.

He’s probably been away on a trip somewhere with work or mates or something and is now on returning home.

C just used his absence as fodder to embellish her lies.

I’d actually take your ex up on him asking C’s husband why the Husband is lying about tv messages and affairs with you. I bet the poor sod has no idea what’s going on.

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TheoriginalLEM · 21/09/2019 22:23

Marking my place because i don't think this is over by along shot. I think your first job on Monday is to consult a solicitor

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PrimeMumister · 21/09/2019 22:25

She just doesn't give up does she 🤦🏻‍♀️ C is an attention seeking plonker who doesn't realise/care that she's hurting people with her lies

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BatmanLovesTheCircus · 21/09/2019 22:25

I agree that you have nothing to lose by getting your ex to contact C’s husband.

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PrimeMumister · 21/09/2019 22:26
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BelleSausage · 21/09/2019 22:27

OP- I say fight fire with fire.

If anyone asks you about it you just imply that she not well (which she clearly isn’t) and express your sympathy for her.

I’m sure the school gossip can transform that into something.

The key is to be sympathetic and neutral in public and neutral in public.

Never let them know what it cost you. The best revenge is to live well. Put all your energy into your daughter and moving on in life. I’m sure the karmic wheel will turn and they will get what they’ve made back a thousand fold in the end.

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Talkingmouse · 21/09/2019 22:27

Shit. She has gone all in with her batshitness.

Take up your exH offer to confront C’s H. No way he will carry off a lie like this to another bloke. Sad, but true.

Otherwise repeat the facts to KMD. Don’t hide. Don’t play games. Do as many drop-offs/pick-ups as you can. Head-up. You can do this.

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PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 21/09/2019 22:30

C is going to get away with this purely because she refuses to back down. People are going to believe her because she will continue repeating the same story and not back down

Let them. Let them! Fuck her and everyone else.

Only - ONLY - if this starts directly affecting DD act.

Otherwise you have to train your brain now to think “you’re dead to me now” about C and K, M and D in that order.

Your friends don’t have your back
Your ex friend is still peddling lies
You cannot win with action
So withdraw (and by proxy “win” with inaction).

DO NOT ACT.

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