So I am 42, due to be married this July. I have finally made the decision to end my relationship.
‘D’P is I believe a master at coercive control and emotional manipulation. He has anger issues and has never been violent to me. But he has kicked objects etc.
He belittles me, sulks, is demanding food r attention. Does nothing at home (and it’s all my fault).
Conversely he can be funny, affectionate, life and soul of a party, and ‘normal’.
I feel like I am on a wheel and I never know who I’m coming home to. Since we had a joint account (which we both put money into) I get grilled about what I’ve spent. I get accused of being reckless with money (it’s usually food). He has asked repeatedly about having my salary transferred into this account and he controls all of the money. This is because I can’t be trusted.
He wants to live a lifestyle beyond our means and we are scrimping to afford it. I have a mental health problem (depression or possibly bipolar) and I’m due for my first consultation appointment next month. I’m also in counselling.
I am not happy but I feel incredibly guilty. I own the house, car etc. I will be leaving him with nothing. He will not understand and this will be a bolt out of the blue.
I need a handhold over the next few weeks. Sorry for the essay!
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I have decided to end my relationship - help me see this through
Thisisanewbeginning · 13/03/2018 23:19
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