Hi everyone
Iām really struggling with something and I would love some advice if anyone has a moment...
Iām two months pregnant with my boyfriend of two and a half years. We live together and he has an 8 year old son from his previous marriage who we see every Wednesday and every other weekend.
Now that Iām pregnant Iām so keen to move on and focus on a happy life together and make our family work. However, my boyfriend keeps dropping bombs that i simply canāt ignore. Some examples: Once in an big argument he was totally racist about my Jewish ex-husband. He never apologised or tried to take it back.
Earlier today he commented on a lady on the tvās clothes, saying she shouldnāt wear that dress as it made her āTits look saggyā (literally didnāt though) and her boyfriend should have told her not to wear it as she looked pregnant. š”
Just now, while sitting down to do his sons homework, he said it didnāt matter if he did what was instructed or not. I argued that it might be a better idea to encourage him to follow the instructions his teachers set and do it properly and he stroppily said āNo, he should do it how I said, itās more important to be fun...ā I said we could make it fun and do it properly, but he got annoyed and said that it didnāt matter what the teachers thought- they were stupid and thatās why theyāre only teachers. I mean what the hell kind of attitude is that!!
These fundamental differences in opinions worries me that I just shouldnāt be with him. My mum was a teacher and Iām deeply offended by the things he says. He has lots of redeeming features of course, but if his views are so bigoted, how can I get past them? I canāt dictate what he says around his own son, but I wouldnāt want my child around that kind of attitude. He thinks the gender pay gap is justified too and doesnāt listen to my opposing view and just says I donāt understand business. So frustrating, what can I do?! Any advice on how to approach the subject?
Thank you!
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Belle356 · 21/01/2018 16:18
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