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Step inside it's the Dating Thread 92!

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Whatsforsupper Fri 17-Jul-15 13:39:02

I'm not one for songs Or starting threads I saw the last one was full.

I shall post The Rules shortlysmile

Whatsforsupper Fri 17-Jul-15 13:42:32

My Bad it should be Dating Thread 92 I have asked Mumsnet to change the title.

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory
10. No dating the thread

Whatsforsupper Fri 17-Jul-15 13:45:21

My last post on the Rioux controversy.

I think its wrong on many levels his posts have being removed I agree with , Super I think he's a total drama queen who loves all of this.

Anyways. Hope everyone is well.

SuperFlyHigh Fri 17-Jul-15 17:24:40

if I hear anyone mention the Rioux name I'm tempted to blow up the thread...!

whatever yes he is a drama queen who loves all of this - yes totally so lets not give him anymore headspace eh?! grin

He seems to have made himself the victim in all of this but apparently has been banned by MNHQ (yippee) and he can now target the area he lives in and prey on innocent or not innocent women there instead!

FirenzeRoma Fri 17-Jul-15 17:25:53


yougotafriend Fri 17-Jul-15 19:09:11

Just checking in...

NoraLouca Fri 17-Jul-15 19:43:17

Evening all smile

minmooch Fri 17-Jul-15 19:46:00

Checking in here too! Date no 5 happening tomorrow night with Mr Twinkly Eyes. I'm looking forward to seeing him. We are going to a party at his friends. Should be fun.

Ladylouanne Fri 17-Jul-15 20:27:47

I need to joint this thread for all your valuable advice!

Just joined Match, had a few emails, but only one I've replied to and we've chatted a bit. I've agreed to ring him on Sunday for a chat. Panic, panic - never done this before and been on my own for 4 years! What if he sounds weird? Any key lines to extricate myself?!

The other thing I'm questioning is that when ever he emails it always at lunchtime, never in the evening. Strange, do you think? Otherwise engaged at night, or am I overthinking?

Whatsforsupper Fri 17-Jul-15 22:36:43

Have fun Minm smile


I dunno, he could be married,I guess take the call and see how it go's.

Id relax about the call just take it as it comes it'll be fine! Hes nervous too.

Hi to everyone else.

Sadly, I have zero to report, I'm gonna have to actually start making some effortsmile

Leostar Fri 17-Jul-15 22:42:57

Question from a newbie....

How long is it acceptable from seperation to dating?


Whatsforsupper Fri 17-Jul-15 22:53:43


I think its unique to each persons personal situation. For example, if you've being in a dead relationships for say X years and now have managed to work through all the issues at hand have separated for X months you could be ready. But, if you've left last week have not gone through the stages of a marriage ending, Id say you're not ready.

Do you feel like you're ready and want too date?

NoraLouca Fri 17-Jul-15 23:00:31

Agree with whats it depends entirely on each person's situation. The thing is to make sure you know your own feelings - if for e.g you are feeling fragile after a break up take care because online dating can be harsh.

NoraLouca Fri 17-Jul-15 23:03:17

Sorry that sounded a bit negative there, online dating can also be great <resists the temptation to talk about Mr First date again> you just have to be in the right frame of mind for it.

Whatsforsupper Fri 17-Jul-15 23:14:43

Nora not negative at all.

Harsh is an understatementsmile Brutal is more like it.

No, seriously, it has its moments, meet quickly is my motto.

yougotafriend Sat 18-Jul-15 06:17:24

I think you won't know if your ready until you try, I thought I was ready (not OLD) to date but found myself making excuses when I was asked out, so maybe I wasn't.

We'll I've been reminded of how much courage it took to walk out on my marriage so unless I meet the man of my dreams on the beach when I'm back from my holiday I'm gonna muster all of that and say yes to a date...

NoraLouca Sat 18-Jul-15 06:45:16

I've actually only met one bloke through OLD but lurked on these threads for ages before being brave enough to start chatting to guys. yougot hope you have a great holiday, whether or not the man of your dreams is waiting for you on the beach wink

Nevergoingtolearn Sat 18-Jul-15 10:12:19

Marking my place,
Date tomorrow with Mr Young, very nervous and it looks like it's going to rain so might have to change our plans.

weeoclock Sat 18-Jul-15 10:40:48

Also place marking.
Update from me) Date 5 & 6 (!) planned with Marathon man for next week whilst I am child free. All seems good, he is a little too keen if anything, which is prob a good problem to have but I keep hinting to slow down as I like to take it slow until sure of someone. He has made it clear he has taken his profile off the site we met on, but a bit of stalking shows he is pretty active on another popular site hmm so glad I am sticking to rule 3 of thread! If he asks me about being exclusive or taking mine down will raise that then as been burned on that one before....
Anyway, hope everyone has a nice weekend of dating and chatting ahead.

britneyspearscatsuit Sat 18-Jul-15 12:52:53

Oooh...a new thread and a new era.

Leo I'd agree pretty much with everyone else to date whenever you feel you want to but to be aware that dating online is unlikely to give you a "boost" and more likely to give you a few knocks.

The trouble with it is that so many men use it as a way to feed their own ego and play games. There's a lot of men with real issues, and even the normal ones are a bit reluctant to just "date" you bcause they want to shop around. It's hard work, and a lot of knocks and disappointments. That said I have met some great people on it.

It can mess with your head a bit!

No updates from me. Having a very fun weekend and no dates planned which is fine with me. Mr Clooney has been attentive, sweet and back to normal but I am mulling over whether or not I like him enough to bother and am honestly unsure.

He's handsome, he's attentive, he's nice, he's clever but I feel no chemistry! Never have, but regardless I will see him again as he ticks to many boxes. To be honest I feel he is holding back from mental intimacy.

FirenzeRoma Sat 18-Jul-15 13:51:56

Tinder is quite an ego boost though, on a very superficial level!

Whatsforsupper Sat 18-Jul-15 14:54:45

Afternoon all!


Ignore this if you don't fancy answering. Why would you bother being exclusive with someone like Mr C.

All I see is the negatives. You don't actually see each other. He blows hot and cold. He is intimacy issues. Like, what box's does he tick that make all the rest worthwhile.

I know, I know, I keep harping on about the same seems like such hard work with a very small pay off, if any. Surely, there is man out there that is fun!

Weed and Never hope you both have lovely datessmile

I'm in the process of writing a few messages I shall update if and When I get any replies!

Whatsforsupper Sat 18-Jul-15 15:08:41

Not Weed( Sorry typo) Weeo

NoraLouca Sat 18-Jul-15 15:21:23

Ooh update from me! Mr First date wants us to go away for a couple of days over the summer. I have never been away without the dc since they were born but I kind of want to go.

Whatsforsupper Sat 18-Jul-15 15:25:07

Excellent news Nora sounds like a lovely idea.

Sounds like you guys are getting along swimmingly.

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