My marriage broke up at the end of last year, after years of me being unhappy.
My husband had several affairs during our marriage and by the end I not only didnt fancy him any more, but I lost all respect for him, I met someone else which gave me the kick to leave last year (I didnt leave for the other person, I just knew that it was the end)
I met someone else in March this year, we clicked immediately and the sparks were literally flying all over the place. We have been seeing each other ever since and have fallen head over heals for each other.
I dont want to move in with anyone else, I dont want the kids to have another father figure (they have a Dad) I am happy keeping my relationship completely separate from the kids.
And this is where it gets dirty.. he has a wife and 3 kids. He has a nice life and he loves his kids, and he loves his wife too.
He doesnt want to leave and I dont want him to leave, but we seem to be falling for each other further and further.
I cant imagine life without him, I dont want to live without him in my life, I feel like he is my soulmate and I think that one day we will be together.
I know that what we are doing is very wrong and I know that I will get completely flamed, but I dont know what else to do.. I cant funtion without knowing that he is in my life somewhere. We have ended things several times because 'its the right thing to do' but then we miss each other so much that we always get drawn back together again.
I would really appreciate some advice. I know the usual, and what we 'should' be doing, but we have tried that and it doesnt work :-(
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Marriage breakup, an affair, what a mess :-(
onlyjustgettingby · 18/12/2012 11:53
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