Hello all, I've been a regular mn'er for about a year now but have never posted in this area (only just found it!).
Its a bit of a long story so I'll keep it short but I'm a born again christian whereas DH is what I call a 'not yet christian' as he is still yet to take the plunge as such but God has done some amazing things in his life and he will openly admit that.
We had our first baby together early September and we've had a rough road - she has had 2 operations so far including heart surgery and has 2 more to come. My church family have all been very supportive and have been praying loads for us all.
Anyway, this is my second marriage and my xh was very anti-church. He wanted a christening and I wanted a dedication for DS and DD1 so we decided not to do anything at all so there was no argument. (of course, we don't need a ceremony to dedicate our children and both of them were prayed for and dedicated anyway by my parents, just not publicly!). DH (now) is aware of this and conversations early on indicated that this would be the case with DD2. However, I asked a few weeks ago if he would mind me having her 'officially' dedicated and he said he would think about it.
Well, yesterday, one of our friends asked him if she could be a godparent if we have her christened. I asked if he had explained that we might not have her christened and he now feels he would like her to be christened. I really don't want to get into a tug of war over this as it would be petty and childish. However, I have a problem with the ritual nature of a christening and the reasonings behind it (no offence to anybody else, its just my opinion) and feel that if we have her christened, we should also have her dedicated 'officially'.
I might add that I prayed over her when she was 2 days old and dedicated her myself, not knowing that she was actually very ill and was rushed to hospital the very next day - isn't God amazing!
I've not explained this very well at all so I hope you're able to read between the lines! I'd just value any advice on how to handle this one maturely and how to do what is best for all, especially DD2. Also, does anybody know more about the role of 'godparents' when its a dedication and whether it makes a difference if they are christians or not?
Thanks in advance,
PLP xxx
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Dedication vs Christening
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PurpleLostPrincess · 25/11/2007 08:33
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