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What my DD told nursery - make me feel better please

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Retrovibe89 Wed 02-Dec-20 17:29:45

This is probably going to be such a non issue but this is my first child so the first time I’ve encountered this. DD is almost 2 and apparently told one of the staff at nursery today “mummy naughty. Mummy shouting. Daddy crying” so they have just been on the phone and I think they think I abuse my husband blush please make me feel better that this is just toddler rambling!!!!

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CantBeAssed Wed 02-Dec-20 17:31:37

They actually rang you?shock what was their tone with you?

zaphodbeeble Wed 02-Dec-20 17:33:04

Mine told nursery I locked him under the stairs and he watched telly through the keyhole. We don’t even have an under stairs cupboard ! I still remind him of this and he’s 19 now !

MajorMujer Wed 02-Dec-20 17:33:38

It's fine op. One of my DC told nursery that he never has breakfast ( he certainly did !)and that he knew the social worker who had to visit ( this one was true - she is my cousin , but imagine me having to explain at pickup time fblush)

Haggisfish Wed 02-Dec-20 17:34:39

We were in a queue to pick up a hire car and dd ran away from dh screaming ‘you’re a beast!! Get away from me!!’.

ImWorrieDf Wed 02-Dec-20 17:41:02

Oh goodness my boys told school they got pit to bed as soon as they got home each day and I had to be investigated by social services. The referral stated that I was not meeting their needs by putting them to bed as soon as getting home. Both have medical issues so they they decided I was not meeting their needs but probably using their dla as financial gain for myself !!!!!!!confused
The social worker was lovely she went through it all and the mistake was obvious - I WAS putting them to bed as soon as they got home !! The boys had told the truth but had forgotten to explain how after school they went to their grandmas each day till 730 pm and got picked up after work she bathed then there they had dinner etc so I literally did put them straight to bed !!! The dla thing had been added on by a gossipy teacher but was easily resolved as I had receipts for therapy and swimming

TowandaForever Wed 02-Dec-20 17:44:03


I would have made a complaint about that teacher. It was none of her business what you did with the DLA!

ImWorrieDf Wed 02-Dec-20 17:45:44

I did but I was told it was a professionals opinion at that point in time and the harmed caused to us by an unnecessary investigation was justified as the harm caused by not potentially investigating such an issue could have been much greater and that people needed to feel they could report anything at any time to safeguard children so nobody would be reprimanded over it

Debradoyourecall Wed 02-Dec-20 17:46:03

It’s good that they take these things seriously I guess... but also surprising! I mean, the things my son has said about me and his dad... so many variations on “mummy hurt me”, “mummy hit me” - all because I accidentally knocked him or stood on his foot or something.

copperoliver Wed 02-Dec-20 17:46:45

My friends daughter told the nursery that daddy has grass everywhere, she had to explain he was laying turf in the garden. They thought he took drugs. 🙈🙈

ImWorrieDf Wed 02-Dec-20 17:47:27

I do wish they’d just have asked us though it could have saved a lot of time and stress but they said it was a situation where they have to refer without letting parents know so the children don’t potentially get put in more danger

RagamuffinAndFidget Wed 02-Dec-20 17:48:11

When DD (now 9) was at pre-school (so 2.5ish) she was given a black eye by another child - he threw a toy car and it hit her in the face. She was telling everyone, for the rest of the day, exactly what had happened, how B had thrown the car and it had gone 'boof' on her nose. And I mean everyone - cashiers in shops, people on the street - right up until her immunisations appointment the following day, whereupon the nurse asked her what had happened to her face, and the horrible child looked straight down at the floor, glanced up at me, returned her gaze to the floor and said NOT A SINGLE WORD angry

I panicked for ages about that, I thought I was definitely going to get a visit!!

JustPurple Wed 02-Dec-20 17:48:56

My two year old recently told nursery 'my daddy always says fuck sake.'

downwithallthesenamechanges Wed 02-Dec-20 17:51:28

I took my 10 month old away from some Christmas decorations he was trying to eat last week (🙄) and he cried like a banshee. My 3 year old was very upset on his behalf and told the childminder the next day that mummy makes the baby cry because I'm not nice. That was fun explaining at pick up

CaptainMyCaptain Wed 02-Dec-20 17:51:48

A child once told me about something at home that concerned me. I contacted social services ASAP and it turned out his mother was having a complete breakdown. I had been feeling some qualms about reporting but she was given the help she needed and actually came to thank me. It is important for people working with children to be able to report if they have concerns even if it turns out to be nothing.

thistimelastweek Wed 02-Dec-20 17:56:14

When he was about six, my brother told the teacher he hadn't learned his spellings because he'd been left alone all weekend during which time he lived off jam sandwiches.

Missthedog Wed 02-Dec-20 17:57:43

Get used to it OP. 😁 My youngest fell down the stairs and told everyone he did it while Mummy was at the pub. Went to open day for eldest at school and his work was displayed on the wall for all the parents to see. The theme was Wishes, and his main wish was for Mummy to get some money so we could finally be out of debt....Btw, I have no idea where either of these came from.

Plsv87 Wed 02-Dec-20 18:00:52

My dd told my dad I punched her. (I really didn't. Thankfully he knows me).

LisaLemon Wed 02-Dec-20 18:06:58

I'd just ignore it.

However if your husband really was crying in front of her then this isn't great. Was he?

Retrovibe89 Wed 02-Dec-20 18:12:02

Ah thank you for these stories it’s making me feel better. I’m sure I will have worse to come! grin
I’ve literally never seen my husband cry so not sure how DD would have done!!

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NannyGythaOgg Wed 02-Dec-20 18:13:31

My daughter, aged 5, told the teacher she had to climb in the loft to get the suitcases and then had a lovely holiday because we spent the whole time in the pub.

In reality she was cross because she wasn't allowed in the loft - and the hotel we stayed in had it's own small bar.

Retrovibe89 Wed 02-Dec-20 18:13:44

@CantBeAssed yes! I felt like they were questioning what she has seen/ heard to be saying these things.

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flobbadobba Wed 02-Dec-20 18:15:20

When mine was 3 he's told his dad who had been working away that the postman had been in our bed 😳

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet Wed 02-Dec-20 18:17:29

My youngest told his teacher (when he was 5) that there were so many mice in our house that they scampered all over the table while he ate his dinner. He said that he had a favourite one, which he used to feed bits of his dinner. She believed him and made a SS referral based on the filthy conditions in which he was living.
We had no mice. Not even a small one. Had she stopped to think about the steady flow of unlikely stories (elves in the shed, his daddy can make lobsters jump out of the sea, that kind of thing) then she would have known it was totally made up. I'm still not entirely convinced that she didn't just enjoy reporting people- there were several other families who had similar trouble and not one turned out to be a genuine complaint. Thankfully she is at another school now.

pizzaandcats Wed 02-Dec-20 18:18:13

My goddaughter told nursery that mummy is in prison and daddy is in the hospital (it's where they work)

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