I'm absolutely going out of my mind with worry and my daughter is hysterical and is refusing to come out of her room, and is refusing to go to school tomorrow. I want to phone the police but she is begging me not to, so I need advice from my fellow mums of teens.
So, a bit of backstory. My daughter is 14, and started a new school 6 months ago. She fitted in extremely well at first, and befriended some of the girls from the "popular" clique. She was out nearly every day after school and at the weekends, they'd go into town or each others houses. I was thrilled because in her previous school she had always been left out, we moved school so she could have a fresh start, and it worked, so I though at the time.
Around a month ago, DD went into school and suddenly this group blanked her. The "clique" consists of around 30 people in her year, and is a mix of boys and girls. DD had (and still doesn't know) what she did to trigger this. In the weeks that followed, only one girl from the clique was still "friends" with her, and she claimed she had also been blanked by the clique. This was a lie as we'd later find out. On Friday, DD got a text from the friend asking if she wanted to meet up at the park and get something to eat in town afterwards. DD thought her and this girl were best friends, so she agreed.
DD walked to the park, and she says the friend was waiting for her at the gates, and told her "I have something amazing to show you.", and led her to the other end of the park. What awaited her, were 30 kids from her year standing in the field. She says the majority of the "clique" were there. They ran up to her, took pictures of her, hit her, pulled her hair and took her phone. The ones that weren't attacking her stood and watched, while laughing and filming. After they'd left (the attack lasted at least half an hour my DD said) she ran home and told me what happened. She's been locked up in her room most of the weekend and I let her miss school Monday and today, that may have been the wrong move but I couldn't bear the thought of going through that again.
I know I need to send her back to school tomorrow and we are both sick to our stomachs at the thought, but we already had the LEA on our backs a few months ago when we went on holiday for a week during term time. I wish I could just keep her safe at home for the rest of the year. I don't know what to do :(
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user1468352691 · 07/03/2017 00:54
I would call the police. That's awful! Your poor daughter!! 
Oh, that sounds heartbreaking.
I second PP who says to involve the school. You don't really have a choice, as she cannot deal with walking back in there, herself. She needs support. She needs protection. She needs to know that this is unacceptable to 'the school'.
Your poor DD, and poor you, op. It physically hurts, right in the guts, when they are hurting, doesn't it?
I'm sorry your daughter had to go through this horrific ordeal and also for you to see her pain 
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You will have to get the Police involved, these bullies need to be accountable, those that were not physically involved in the assault should also be penalised for encouraging and spurring this disgusting act.
As for the school, I'm shocked they've not replied to you and I'm thinking they may be trying to crisis manage because this is a huge deal. They probably try to get their cards in a row in anticipation of what's coming, do you think you'd face resistance with the school? As in they would downplay the situation?
I understand your dd fear of the police being involved and her believing this will make the situation worse but you absolutely must ring them. If this situation had happened to an adult I bet you would have no doubt but to ring the police straight away.
I would also be going to the school and making it absolutely clear I would not be sending my dd back until this is absolutely dealt with and they can insure her safety.
I am sorry your dd is going through this, it's truly terrible
I wish I could be more helpful.
Please OP speak to the police and school. She must not be sent back until you are sure the school can keep her safe. If they cannot you will need to look at alternative options.
You can speak to NSPCC for additional advice.
If she is very stressed and hysterical you can also speak to your GP and get her signed off sick from school. You can also see if you can access any counselling for her as a victim of crime and assault via GP or the Police.
Although your dd does not want to involve the Police I believe you must do so, you must show her she is worth care and attention, NO ONE should have this happen to them. If this happened to you or any other family member, the police would be involved, this was a premeditated attack.
Your dd has done nothing to warrant an attack of this nature and so she must realize this is out of her control, not her fault. I would speak to the police before the school, personally, see if they can locate evidence on line of this and also do not allow the school to talk you out of reporting this. Nothing the school can do can affect what has already happened (which is a crime) but they can now try and make things better for the future, but not if they do not engage with you.
I can only hope it was a case of them not hearing the phone message. They will maybe hear it tomorrow.
Good luck OP 
I am so sorry for your dd, please seek all the professional help you can for her now.
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