Following on from another thread, and not wishing to hijack; the five stages of grief are, supposedly:
denial
anger
bargaining
depression
acceptance.
They don't necessarily go in that order, and you won't necessarily experience them all, but apparently most people with experience at least two.
My mother died four months ago. I've never been at all angry. I don't think I'm depressed. I certainly haven't accepted it.
What I do seem to be doing is a mixture of denial and bargaining, which is slightly bizarre given that she's long gone. My unconscious mind is constantly burbling something like 'well, you never know what the consultant might say at the next appointment; you never know whether a new drug might become available and change everything.' It's weird (I'm usually pretty rational and literal).
She was ill for a loooong time and defied her prognosis many times over, so I think I got used to this sort of Pollyanna thinking.
The thing is, I don't really want to stop thinking like this. I don't want to accept it.
Anyway... what about you?
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policywonk · 04/10/2008 22:57
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