I think I want to change DD's name...

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AutumnName Mon 28-Aug-17 20:11:17

DD was born on Halloween (2016) and I named her Autumn. I really like the look of it and the sound of it in my head. Since using it as a name, it doesn't seem to work as well as it did in my head? Lots of people don't get it. My mum actually makes jokes about it - "I can't wait to see my grandaughter who hasn't got a proper name" or she directly speaks to her and says "you might as well have been named 'Season'". No one else really says anything, but I feel like they think the same. I'm just really close to my mum, so she probably feels like she can say it.


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Babymamamama Mon 28-Aug-17 20:13:19

Yes change it. At this point she's too young to know any different.

Imstickingwiththisone Mon 28-Aug-17 20:14:04

Wow your mum sounds really horrible!

I can guarantee that no one else feels as strongly about your daughter's name as your mum. I like Autumn.

If you change her name because of this what will you do? Just let your mum pick it and hope you like it to?

tinkiiev Mon 28-Aug-17 20:14:38

I think it's a lovely name.

You can change it easily but don't do that just because your mum makes snarky comments.

kj90 Mon 28-Aug-17 20:14:53

I think Autumn is a beautiful name! But if you want to change it then you should do so whilst she is so young. But I think her name is lovely!

DiscoDiva70 Mon 28-Aug-17 20:15:47

I'm not keen on this as a first name, and imagine if she ends up marrying someone with the last name Winter.

MrsJoyOdell Mon 28-Aug-17 20:15:50

Autumn is a perfectly valid, and lovely, name. Do you like it, OP? Because she's your daughter, not your mum's!


AutumnName Mon 28-Aug-17 20:15:53

The thing is, I feel like other people do think "oh, that's odd" because whenever I say her name, I normally get a look and a "Autumn? Like the season?" And it's really embarrassing.

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KindleBueno Mon 28-Aug-17 20:16:39

It's a lovely name. I would end up using Otty as a nickname though which is really pretty too.

AutumnName Mon 28-Aug-17 20:16:55

@DiscoDiva70 - what would be the issue? She clearly just wouldn't take the surname. She's being brought up to realise traditions like that are sexist hmm she has my surname, so won't really think that's the norm anyway.

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Rainybo Mon 28-Aug-17 20:17:12

It's a really beautiful name. Your mum is being horrible.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Mon 28-Aug-17 20:17:30

I love Autumn. Your mum is rude.

Peter Phillips wife is called Autumn, the Queens granddaughter in law. If it's good enough for the Queen........

Lenl Mon 28-Aug-17 20:17:53

I thought I was close to my mum until i realised our relationship was actually entirely unhealthy. Her comments are horrid and actually quite controlling - she doesn't like the name so she is needling away at you.

I used to work with a little girl called autumn and think it's a lovely name. If you don't like it for other reasons then change it but not if it's just to please your mother/get her approval.

Jooni Mon 28-Aug-17 20:18:17

Autumn is an absolutely fine name! It's not stupid or even that unusual - #148 in 2015. It probably seems odd to your mum because it wasn't widely used when she was naming babies, but times change, she's had her turn, and now it's yours. Change it only if you want to - it's not your mum's place to pressure you into doing so and I think it's incredibly rude, insensitive and underhand of her to make those kind of comments! angry

AutumnName Mon 28-Aug-17 20:18:20

Yeah, I do really like it. I just feel like the more and more I say it, the more I'm finding it hard to realise it's a name, due to everyone else's looks and the comments off my mum are really putting me off sad

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mistermagpie Mon 28-Aug-17 20:19:35

I like it! Your mum is being horrible. And yes, what a ridiculous comment about what would she do if she married someone called winter... hmm

user1459464195 Mon 28-Aug-17 20:20:02

Autumn is a lovely name and your mum needs to stop with the horrid comments about her granddaughters name.

NotTheDuchessOfCambridge Mon 28-Aug-17 20:20:05

I like it, my friends niece is called Autumn. It's very pretty. It's also my favourite season so I may be biased. So what if she does (miraculously) marry someone with the surname Winter? It's hardly a big deal is it!
If you like it, keep it. Tell your mum how you feel when she makes those comments, I bet she'll feel mortified that she has made you doubt the name you gave her.

mostfertilewomanever Mon 28-Aug-17 20:20:16

Autumn is a beautiful name. Don't change her name, change your mum instead! flowers

IndianaMoleWoman Mon 28-Aug-17 20:20:40

I don't like the name, but I also don't think you should change it based on your mother's rudeness and the opinions of internet strangers!

If you feel uncomfortable introducing her as Autumn and you want to change it to give you/her an easier life, then fine. But if it's the name you love and you want to stick with it, that's also fine. I think there might be a deadline to change it before they are one?

seven201 Mon 28-Aug-17 20:20:41

You need to tell your mum to stop making the comments. Autumn is not an uncommon name!

Imstickingwiththisone Mon 28-Aug-17 20:21:39

I think your mum has made you feel like that tbh
I had it a bit with my dad but to a lesser extent. The name i chose felt really out there (but it's not, like Autumn isn't) and i felt like everyone thought it was bizarre because of how my Dad reacted. But when i started saying it would more confidence i realise people just didn't hear what i said / we're just saying it back to me without any sort of angle. Basically i was just projecting. I love the name again now.

igotyoubabe Mon 28-Aug-17 20:23:46

Your mum probably thinks she can get away with having a 'joke' about it because you're close. Have you had a serious conversation with her about how this is hurting your feelings? If she knew the affect it was having she may think twice? You name your baby for you, no one else. It's one of the few privileges we get as a parent! Don't let anyone give you doubts.

Jooni Mon 28-Aug-17 20:24:24

And I guarantee other people aren't giving more than a few seconds' thought to your child's name. Not meaning to be harsh, I just mean don't get preoccupied with what other people may or may not be thinking. I (and you, most importantly!) like Autumn, but no name is going to meet with everyone's approval. As long as it's not embarrassing (check) or offensive (check), you're good.

krustykittens Mon 28-Aug-17 20:24:31

I think Autumn is a beautiful name, it is also my favourite season. Your Mum is making you paranoid, she is rude and ignorant. Tell her you don't want to hear another word about YOUR daughter's name. TBH, she sounds like she would be needling you over something, even if you changed your daughter's name to a name she picked!

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