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I think I want to change DD's name...

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AutumnName · 28/08/2017 20:11

DD was born on Halloween (2016) and I named her Autumn. I really like the look of it and the sound of it in my head. Since using it as a name, it doesn't seem to work as well as it did in my head? Lots of people don't get it. My mum actually makes jokes about it - "I can't wait to see my grandaughter who hasn't got a proper name" or she directly speaks to her and says "you might as well have been named 'Season'". No one else really says anything, but I feel like they think the same. I'm just really close to my mum, so she probably feels like she can say it.

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mamasiz · 30/08/2017 09:26

I think Autumn is absolutely beautiful. Your mum needs a good talking to imho!

GinevraFanshawe · 30/08/2017 09:32

OP please get a pet rat and call it Tilly. You couldn't possibly name your daughter after a rat!

Nitsdrivingmebonkers · 30/08/2017 10:47

I have just changed my daughter's name and came on here to see if I was the most indecisive mum ever. And saw this thread!

If YOU don't like the name, change it. If you think it's the right name for her, keep it and ignore your mum. For what it's worth I changed mine from a classic lovely name, to one that is a bit more 'marmite' and has provoked some interesting reactions. But all that matters is that it's the right name for her and for me. Everyone else can and should keep their opinions to themselves. If they don't, it's they who are the problem, not your lovely daughter and her name.

Good luck!

GiraffesLikeToDance · 30/08/2017 10:58

Does your Mum approve of Violet or will she just start saying...like a colour?

Don't change it because of your Mum. Only change of you don't like it. It's not a terribly unusual name. I know 3 children called Autumn.

ToothTrauma · 30/08/2017 11:03

Oh no don't change it! Autumn is lovely. If your DD doesn't like it when she's older she can change it herself.

P.S. If I were named Violet and then found out I could have been named Autumn I'd be miffed Grin

Jenneth · 30/08/2017 11:13

Ignore ppl. You choose an amazing name. Your Mother should be supportive and if she can't be, call her on it. I love having a unique name, and yes my name is Jenneth, I love it. Don't allow other people's hangups make you insecure. Flowers

ajandjjmum · 30/08/2017 11:21

Tell your 'D'M that your thinking of changing it to your MIL's name.

I think Autumn is lovely.

luluharry · 30/08/2017 11:38

ajandjjmum, I love this, tell your controlling nightmare of a mother that you are naming her after your MIL, because she is just such a beautiful person!

PelvicFloorClenchReminder · 30/08/2017 12:11

Autumn is a beautiful name. Maybe you should rename your mother. Start calling her Donald.

Bubblesoup · 30/08/2017 13:27

I think your mum's opinion is making you believe that other people are also reacting to the name, but i bet theyre not! It's a beautiful name! Just remind yourself of all those other baby's names that are much more unique nowadays.

I think you need to tell your mum how her comments are making you feel. Ideally you then ignore her and put it out of your head. But i don't know if i could do it very easily either as my mum's opinion matters to me.

If you change it, will you always regret it?

Binkywinx · 30/08/2017 15:41

At the end of the day it is your decision as she is your daughter. I think Autumn is a lovely name. No different to people calling their child Summer or even Winter. I completely understand where you are coming from with your mum as i am also close to mine but sometimes you need to say thats enough and she needs to accept your decision whatever you choose to do. I know one person in our family doesn't like my daughters name but its not down to them, everyone has their own opinion but its your choice. I hope you decide and dont let others influence you

certainlynotsusan · 30/08/2017 16:09

Your mum had the children she was allowed to name. Now it's your turn.

If I had to name a little girl right now and I only had three names to choose from (violet, Matilda and Autumn), I'd choose Autumn in a heartbeat. I think it's lovely.

My mum hated some of the proposed names for my firstborn, and yes, I guess it did have an influence. It just meant I stopped discussing it with her.

I want to change ds2's middle name (didn't realise that you can change their names, relatively simply within x months of registering but we are well beyond that now). We were down to 3 choices and on our way to the registry office. One was a bit whacky, one was a bit bland and we both kinda liked it, one was a bit bland and he liked it lots and I really wasn't keen. We went for #2 and we both regret not having #1 (or hubby still says he'd prefer #3).

RestingButchFace · 30/08/2017 16:35

I am sorry to be the bearer of bad new but this thread is being quoted on the OK website. Lazy fucking journos!
www.ok.co.uk/lifestyle/mum-and-baby/1164600/mum-change-baby-name-daughter-mocked-autumn

RapunzelsRealMom · 30/08/2017 16:46

It's a lovely name. I can't believe your Mum, who you say you are close to, would behave this way

•	Autumn Jackson.
•	Autumn Kelly (born 1978), wife of Peter Phillips, grandson of Queen Elizabeth II.
•	Autumn Reeser (born 1980), American actress.
•	Autumn Sandeen, transgender activist and blogger.

Autumn Calabrese

Lots of famous Autumns so it's not THAT unusual

Girlsworld92 · 30/08/2017 17:15

I think it's a lovely name. There's much much worse out there. If you love it stick to it. If you aren't sure nows the time to make the change.

RupertPsmith · 30/08/2017 20:15

OP, you should know that this thread has been lifted for a story on the Fail online.

RestingButchFace · 30/08/2017 20:42

I posted this afternoon that it was on OK online too.

Laura25o6 · 30/08/2017 22:36

At the end of the day she's your baby not your mums. I think Autumn is a beautiful name. Tell you mum where to go. I just think she's being very rude. Good luck x

WankStainWasher · 31/08/2017 00:46

@AutumnName - just so you know I've seen this thread re-published on the Daily Fail online. The lazy fuckers. Angry

AutumnRr · 31/08/2017 06:54

My name is Autumn and aside from being called Autumn Bottom by my sisters when I was 3 year old I've never had anyone say anything negative about my name. In fact almost every woman and a lot of men compliment my name when they here it. I've had people stop me after hearing my name when having conversations with friends to tell me my name is beautiful and unique. I've probably met 4 other Autumns as well and they seemed to love the name too.

MollyHuaCha · 31/08/2017 07:14

It's a lovely name.

LovesAutumn · 31/08/2017 09:27

My daughter's name is Autumn Evie I love it More importantly she loves it! I have got so many nice comments about her name and sure there are a few that don't get it but their opinion does not bother me.
My mother wasn't sure about it first but she also respected the fact that it wasn't her child or her choice. She loves her granddaughter that's all that matters. If you like the name and it is an unique and beautiful name then don't let other people change your choice.😊

OnlyInBerkshire · 31/08/2017 09:29

It's a beautiful name, please don't change it. Your mum is behaving in a way that is closed-minded and rude. I would tell her that her comments offend you, are uninvited, and to keep her thoughts to herself.

lauraIreland023 · 31/08/2017 09:52

"She directly speaks to her and says: ‘You might as well have been named Season." What sort of image is this going to set for your poor daughter in the future? People can be so ignorant! What about anyone named June, April, May, Rose, Dawn, Summer, Ivy... there are plenty more names that could be cited. I think Autumn is a gorgeous name and at the end of the day it is your daughter and you should not feel ashamed into changing it by anyone, especially your family x

user1468783978 · 31/08/2017 12:41

It's a beautiful name!! Don't be swayed by what others think, go with what you love, she's your child. My daughter is called Autumn Skye, my husband & I both love it, beautiful name for a beautiful girl! We don't care what anyone else thinks about it 😊

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