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AIBU?

...to expect DH to stop touching himself?

19 replies

StopJuggling · 15/10/2008 09:06

I've been with DH 14 years and he's always been a ball juggler but recently he just cannot seem to keep his hands on the outside of his trousers.
It's really starting to grate on me. Every conceivable moment he puts his hands on the inside of his underwear and I can see juggling, sweeping, stroking, squeezing going on and I cannot stand it a moment longer.
I've made very, very subtle comments/jokes but he does not take the hint.
Even in sleep, he cannot roll over or adjust his pillow without first subconsiouly (sp?) checking his cocks still there!
My fear is that if gets so habitual he'll do it loads in company. Even when he's talking to the kids his pulling his cock and juggling his balls the whole time.
How do I get him to stop, it's doing my head in?

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AbbaFan · 15/10/2008 09:08

Just tell him to stop - yuk!

My DH never does this.

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misshardbroom · 15/10/2008 09:10

yes, see your point. Not ideal.

Obviously you know your DH's particular personality, but if it was my husband and the subtle hints weren't working then I'd just say 'Will you PLEASE stop doing that?' and then ask him if he's aware how much he does it. As you say, it's probably become so habitual he doesn't realise he's doing it.

For what it's worth, my 16 year old neighbour tells me that the soccer scholarship boys at her college are, to a man, to be found with their hands down their kecks the entire time. It's possibly a cool thing amongst the kids that we're just not aware of...

...or maybe not. Best of luck.

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NorkyButNice · 15/10/2008 09:12

Ewww gross.

I clicked on this expecting to say YABU if you expect your DH not to masturbate.

But no YANBU to expect him to be able to keep his hands out of his pants even whilst talking to the kids.

I'm amazed you've made it to 14 years if he's been doing this all along!

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littlelapin · 15/10/2008 09:12

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cantpickyourfamily · 15/10/2008 09:15

when I was younger like 16 I had a few friends that that held their hands inside there waist band of track
suit bottoms which was bad enough.

But for a grown man to keep touching his bits is not nice. I would probably scream at him every time I saw him doing it. Esp if doing it infrount of the children.

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VictorianSqualorSquelchNSquirm · 15/10/2008 09:16

Maybe he has crabs.
Or sweaty balls.
Get him a back sack and crack.

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WorzselMummage · 15/10/2008 09:18

Eurgh...

Dont know what to suggest but i think i'd probably shout.

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littlelapin · 15/10/2008 09:21

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NotDoingTheHousework · 15/10/2008 09:23

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brimfull · 15/10/2008 09:24

that really is gross

It's bad enough when they have a fiddle on the outside of their trousers.

My bil does it but on the outside..doesn't even realise he's doing it.

Filthy habit.

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hifi · 15/10/2008 10:18

hmm, dh used to do this alot in his sleep.is it psychological i wonder?

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Tinkerisdead · 15/10/2008 10:27

My Dh did this on occasion, i've had to get blunt. My FIL does it looooads and it makes me ill. So when i caught DH doing it i just asked does he itch? Has he a problem he may be embarrassed to share? The challenging embarrassed him and no, no thrush, no crabs nothing.

So ive told him, "your dad has his dick in his hand every time he talks to me, i dont want any daughter in law of ours to say the same about you! its sick!"

He has stopped!

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solidgoldskullonastick · 15/10/2008 10:28

YOu do need to mention it (at first calmly) because it's very likely he doesn't realise he's doing it. Habits like this (and hair-twiddling, nail-biting, sniffing, cracking knuckles etc) all drive other people nuts but are never being done just to annoy you. Oh, and try to set aside any 'euuurgh, willies' squeamishness about what he's doing, it's no worse than constant nose-picking or humming or whatever.
Tell him it gets on your nerves. Find out if he's under extra stress at the moment (nervous/fidgety habits intensify when a person is stressed) and ask him to try to stop, and when he does it, tell him to stop but without too much hostility.

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Tinkerisdead · 15/10/2008 10:30

see, i went with hostility

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Flightattendant2 · 15/10/2008 10:30

Gahhhh

you have been together how long??!!!

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Jux · 15/10/2008 10:34

Forget subtle. Tell him he would notice if they fell off so he doesn't need to check every 5 minutes.

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DaphneMoon · 15/10/2008 10:56

My DP does this occasionally on the outside of his trousers and when I tell him to stop he always says it's alright for you, you haven't got them hanging between your legs, we have to adjust them now and again.

Fair point I think, I would hate them.

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MrsMattie · 15/10/2008 10:57

Yuk. can you just tell him it is a very odd, unsocial habit that he must try to stop because it makes him look like a complete weirdo?

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loobeylou · 15/10/2008 11:20

OP - you don't think he's worried about a lump or ache or anything do you?

Ask him, then tell him its great he checks himself but will he please only do it in the bathroom!

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