To want my family to pronounce ds2's name correctly?

[FrannyandZooey]

I am honestly not sure if I am. I feel like this is a big deal and want them to get it right, but they are all so convinced that their way is the right way, and it doesn't seem to matter what I say, that I am wondering...

It is a slightly unusual name that can be pronounced two ways. Not hard to say, at all.

If IANBU, how do I deal with this?

[themildmanneredstalker]

oooh tough one.
i think i'll need to know what the name is first!!

[themildmanneredstalker]

my dad does this sometimes with ds1 and i just say 'it's not x, it's y'

[moopdaloop]

i would tell them every time, but i would get ready for everybody else in his whole life to pronounce it wrong and start to accept both ways otherwise you'll go mad

[FrannyandZooey]

yes I can deal with the fact that it's going to be spelt and said wrong through his life, but not by my family, surely?

[escape]

you won't win.
my daughter has a little bit difficult to pronounce unless you've heard it before type name.
All the kids know it, its the adults who get it wrong
got most annoyed at the doctors when the receptionist said it wrong 4 times in the course of a brief conversation. i correctede her twice and then thought... wahts the point...

Sorry Franny...
so YANBU but...

[bubblerock]

Just start pronouncing their names differently and see how they like it

[stillstanding]

YANBU. You named DS2 and they have to live with it. Agree with mms that you just need to gently say it is not x but y. Very rude of family. How old is DS2? Presumbaly once he gets to a certain age he too will correct them.

[hecate]

Yes. I hate it too. Even more than that, I hate those members of my extended family who call ds1 Gareth, in spite of the fact that it's NOT his name.

[Sherida]

After nearly 30 years, my granddad STILL can't get my name right. Once he missed it off a card entirely, and every time he does put it on it's spelled a different way. I guess some people just can't handle odd names. It throws them. Now, if you're DS is called Tom they're just not bothering!

[TheNaughtiestGirlIsaMonitor]

It depends. If the name is Joseph eg. I say Jozev, but other people say Josef, and I don't think I can rememebr which cf the josephs is pronounced which way

what's the name, give us a clue. Give us the surname of somebody famous wiht that name.

[GColdtimer]

If they are doing it because they just think you are right YA definitely NBU and you just need to correct them. If they are doing it because they just can't get their heads round it and they forget, YAN really BU but perhaps need to cut them a bit of slack and make a bit of a joke of it.

(I keep doing this with a friend's baby by mistake - her name is Maya (My-A) and I pronounce it MAY-A

[themildmanneredstalker]

gareth? and his name is what? james? how odd!!!!

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[stillstanding]

escape, i think it is a bit tricky when a name is difficult to pronounce. i have an absolutely lousy ear and often struggle with foreign names. bit different though in franny's case where it is family who are being deliberately contrary.

[Bumperlicious]

My dad spells my name wrong, you'd think that given that he gave me that name...obviously my mum and dad never agreed on how they were going to spell it!

[Pinkjenny]

My in laws don't pronounce dd's name properly either. It's more dh's grandparents than his parents tbh, so I cut them a bit of slack. Even the vicar at her christening was pronouncing it wrong.

My boss said to me, 'It's your fault for giving her a name that is open to interpretation.' Er, it's not, her name is HER NAME!!!!!!!!!!

[purplemonkeydishwasher]

YANBU

at all.

i have a mispronouncable name. does my nut it when peoplw can't be bothered to learn how to say it right

[GColdtimer]

sorry, if they think they are right. Not you are right.

[notsoteenagemum]

Is it an accent/ language thing, my friends DS is Dylan but they are welsh so its said Dulan she hates it when he gets called Dillan.
In-laws have strong accents and because of this I didn't call DS Charlie because they would call him Chaarlie not Chahrlie if you get what I mean, not out of badnes just coz its how you talk.
If this is not and you've spoken to them about it I'd just pronounce their names wrong til they get the message.

[FrannyandZooey]

oh I suppose I've posted it before - it is Lucian, pronounced Loo-shun

if you spell it Lucien it is pronounced Loo-see-un, which is how my family are saying it

I think they think WE are saying it wrong and they are gently correcting us

he's 6 wks old btw

[LazyLinePainterJane]

But Franny, I think that the way that you have spelled it, there is only one way to pronounce it, the correct way of course

If it was an E then that would be different maybe...

[moopdaloop]

I'd pronounce it wrong too. But I would learn, eventually

[seeker]

What is the name? Can't be properly judgy (either way!) without knowing!

[FrannyandZooey]

would you pronounce it wrong if you heard me saying it repeatedly, though?
it isn't hard to say