To tell her?

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AmandaHuggenkizz Sun 30-May-21 20:50:07

NC for this.

My friend has just had a baby. She announced the name to our friend group on WhatsApp. It’s very unusual. Personally, I don’t like it.
To be honest, I more than don’t like it and think it’s a ridiculous thing to call a child.

We all congratulated her and said he’s gorgeous (which he is!) etc but none of us have passed comment on the name.

She’s messaged me separately asking if the name is a bit much.

AIBU to tell her the truth, gently?

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DeusEx Sun 30-May-21 20:51:19

I wonder why she has asked?

I think generally if she’s announced it then there has been a decision between her and her partner that needs to be respected (if partner is on the scene).

DeusEx Sun 30-May-21 20:51:39

Also I am very curious to know what the name is!

Aprilwasverywet Sun 30-May-21 20:52:22

Without the name I feel you won't get good advice here..

SquirtleSquad Sun 30-May-21 20:52:41

we can't possibly comment without knowing the name..

CrownKettle Sun 30-May-21 20:52:59

I’d just respond equivocally and keep well out of it.

RaeRaeMama Sun 30-May-21 20:53:28

Really want to know the name

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CrownKettle Sun 30-May-21 20:54:04

Although if it’s something truly absurd, like Spiderman Princess Shit4brains Smith, you might want to say something.

Curatingchaos Sun 30-May-21 20:54:08

Just tell her you love the name ! smile

DeusEx Sun 30-May-21 20:54:38

Is the name ‘ridiculous’ because it’s made up? Or because it is just one you don’t personally like?

AnneLovesGilbert Sun 30-May-21 20:55:20

Say something like “if you love it then great. I wouldn’t have chosen it but it’s not my baby”

IceCreamAndCandyfloss Sun 30-May-21 20:55:23

I would, don’t believe in lying to friends and a child has to live with their name until 18 when they can change for themselves if they like. By then though, the bulk of their qualifications etc will show it.

Yellowcrockpot Sun 30-May-21 20:55:32

Give us a similar name type, op?
Then you can get genuine responses..

TheKeatingFive Sun 30-May-21 20:59:29

I don’t think people can answer this without knowing the name.

Wanttocry Sun 30-May-21 20:59:45

I wouldn’t have mentioned it generally, but if she’s specifically asked I wouldn’t outright lie. I’d be diplomatic though.

AmandaHuggenkizz Sun 30-May-21 21:01:03

DeusEx

I wonder why she has asked?

I think generally if she’s announced it then there has been a decision between her and her partner that needs to be respected (if partner is on the scene).

She’s married but her husband is very quiet and easygoing so I can’t see him being too vocal about it. He is quite traditional and conservative though, so wondering how he feels.

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Sparklesocks Sun 30-May-21 21:01:30

Like others I think it depends on the name!

Bluntness100 Sun 30-May-21 21:02:14

What’s the name?

And no. I don’t think you can say anything.

HollowTalk Sun 30-May-21 21:03:00

I think if it's a made up name or just ridiculous then you should say, "Well, it's an unusual name, isn't it? What made you choose it?" and then have a conversation about it.

AmandaHuggenkizz Sun 30-May-21 21:03:01

DeusEx

Is the name ‘ridiculous’ because it’s made up? Or because it is just one you don’t personally like?

The former.

It’s basically an adjective with a name hyphenated onto it.

But the again, every name started somewhere.

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Lavender201 Sun 30-May-21 21:03:02

Say “since you asked, I personally think it’s a bit much. But it’s your decision“.

Is there a a nickname/shortening/very similar alternative you could suggest?

Holly60 Sun 30-May-21 21:03:27

ONLY because she asked you, you should reply honestly but gently.

thisplaceisweird Sun 30-May-21 21:03:55

Op you have to tell us the name

I would ask "well what do you think?" and go from there

Lavender201 Sun 30-May-21 21:05:28

So it’s like Blue-Ryan? You could gently suggest that Ryan Blue (so adjective as middle name) would be better?

AmandaHuggenkizz Sun 30-May-21 21:06:39

The name is Navy-Lee.

Very common surname- think Smith or Jones.

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