Would you be angry?

[craftydafty]

My DP went to the "corner shop" at 10.30pm... at 11.30 I text him to ask where he was and at 12am he phoned me and said he drove past his old friends house and is talking to him in the garden and he'll be home soon... well it's not 3.30am and he's still not back and he's not answering his phone,
I'm worried that something could of happened to him but I know really that he will just still be there, I'm furious he knows I can't sleep when I'm home alone (DS in bed)
When he's home he will say "I haven't seen him for years we were just catching up so you can't be mad you always tell me I should make more friends"
Am I right to be soooo annoyed right now? I'm so tired but I'm shaking inside because I hate not knowing everything is ok

[DifficultBloodyWoman]

I’d be pissed off and I would deadbolt the doors.

[Hawkins001]

All the best op, chances are this was planned in advance

[madddddd]

I would be furious!
And I'm pretty laid back in that kind of way
Do you know the friend? And without adding unnecessary suspicion are you certain that's where he is?

[craftydafty]

I'm actually so annoyed I'm full of adrenaline worrying that somethings happened! It's definitely not planned in advance because I know who he's with and he really hasn't seen him for years but surely that's not excuse to have a catch up for this long and at this time and not just at least text me to let me know he's ok! 😩

[craftydafty]

I am certain that's where he is however I do have a feeling that the person is having some sort of house party because he did phone me earlier and he said he didn't hear his phone ring so I'm guessing there's music!

[madddddd]

Ah, how annoying. I think it's the not staying in touch part that would annoy me most rather than him actually being there. A quick text just to check in would take less than a minute.
Hope he appears home soon. I'm the same, hate being home alone so I hope you manage to get some sleep

[craftydafty]

That is exactly what I want just one text so I can stop worrying! Thank you I'm sure he will come back soon and he will definitely be waking up with DS In the morning!!

[madddddd]

100%, was gonna say that make sure he lets you have a lay in

Men can be so inconsiderate sometimes. Won't even be crossing his mind how worried you are

[sweetnessnfight]

Which country are you in? Are parties allowed?

[youmakemydreamscometrue]

I wouldn't be angry I'd be absolutely furious it doesn't sound like he's bumped into someone and is having a chats for 5 hours. This was planned and he's lied about it. The lack of contact is bad enough but, if you're in the UK, I'd be really annoyed at him breaching the Covid guidelines.

If you're sure he's ok and just being a selfish twat I'd be locking the door and going to sleep and it would be a very long time until I forgave him.

[ChameleonClara]

I'd be annoyed by the lying and secrecy, this dynamic really isn't healthy or fun.

[katy1213]

Perhaps you should have him electronically tagged.

[Nebulacoffee]

Have you texted him to let him know you’re awake and worried, since he told you he’s at his mate’s! Maybe he assumes you have gone yo bed?

[Sapho47]

I don't think I could be upset by this.


He bumped into a friend Likley had a drink and decided it better to sleep on the sofa than drive.

Just go to bed.

[LadyGAgain]

Why can't you sleep in the house alone (you're not alone as DS is there)?
Assuming DH is a decent sort, he saw a mate and took advantage of the situation. Why is that a crime (yes he should have text to let you know)? Or is he usually shady? Why would he have pre-planned and not told you? Are yo unhappy about him going out usually?

[k1233]

I'd be ropeable. No one does a random drop in at 10.30 pm and then hangs around for 5 hours.

[PaleFox]

I dunno, I think I'd be ok with this (if I definitely believed his story, which you say that you do). I'd be furious if I thought he was with an OW, but if he really is just catching up with an old friend, what's the harm? Hope you got to sleep OP.

[AyyMacarena]

Do you have anxiety issues? I get like this but I know to rationalise it. Is the problem the issue at hand or my handling of the issue?!

I would be annoyed but also he has told you where he is. It does sound like he is breaking lock down which I would be pissed off at. Weird to go to the shop so late and end up out. Could it be planned?

Is he home?

I imagine he had a few beers n got carried away.

[MMfanalltheway]

I'd have been worried until I heard from him. Then the anger would kick in lol. I'd lock him out. I'm that petty.

[BoomBoomsCousin]

I'd be annoyed if I thought he'd gone to a house party. And I might be angry if it was likely he'd be unable to pull his weight the next day, unless he was generally good about that sort of thing or we had a lot of give and take on that front. But being angry at him because of your irrational fear of what might have happened to him seems unreasonable. You know where he is. Go to bed.

[mrsm43s]

Well, he's a grown adult, and he phoned you to let you know where he is, so no I wouldn't be angry.
You not being able to sleep when he's not home is entirely your own problem, and sounds exhaustingly needy.

[blackcat86]

Saying you can't sleep without him there is ridiculous. You're both adults and he is not responsible for being there as some sort of sleep aid. If he's been to a house party that is presumably illegal wherever you are so I would be furious about that. Being out so late after bumping into someone is a bit weird. Who stands in someone's garden until the small hours

[FTMF30]

I'd be annoyed from the very start of having to text him after 1hr asking where is since he was only meant to be going to the shoo. It should have called to mind for him to let you know that hes bumped into a friend without you having to check if something is wrong.

[StopCryingYourHeartOut]

Well, you knew where he was and that he was safe and okay, so I don't really see the issue after that.