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Husband has called the police on our neighbours, have we done the right thing?

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Ninjamomma Thu 17-Sep-20 22:22:38

DH and I were outside collecting birthday presents from the car and heard our female neighbour from across the street screaming. I couldn't make out everything she was saying but she was historical and we definitely heard "leave me alone" and "I've done nothing wrong" and things being thrown about

I didn't know what to do but DH went straight over and knocked the door - female neighbour came to the door, cracked it open slightly, DH asked If she was OK, she she she was fine and shut the door.

We both didn't feel satisfied so DH has called the police. They are on their way and I'm sat here wondering if we have done the right thing

I'm worried we may have caused tension now with them however I couldn't live with myself If something untoward is going on and I had just turned a blind eye

Have we overstepped our mark?

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Ninjamomma Thu 17-Sep-20 22:26:10

Oh no historical 😂 autocorrect fail - hysterical. I Have no idea how to edit

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MilleniumHallsWalledGarden Thu 17-Sep-20 22:27:57

You've done the right thing imo. Sounds awful!

pleaseletmesmile Thu 17-Sep-20 22:28:19

You did the right thing..............too many people turn a blind eye to other people's misery. I hope your neighbour is ok

Merryoldgoat Thu 17-Sep-20 22:28:28

Nope. I’d have called the police and have done in similar situations once or twice.

JalapenoDave Thu 17-Sep-20 22:29:32

You absolutely did the right thing OP. Well done flowers

MadCatLadee Thu 17-Sep-20 22:29:50

I think you think you did the responsible thing. Also, they wouldn't necessarily know it was you who called, could have been another neighbour.

EarthSight Thu 17-Sep-20 22:32:18

He did the right thing.

Ceilingfan Thu 17-Sep-20 22:32:46

You did the right thing, Ive done it myself a few times, every time I always wonder if I did the right thing.

Ninjamomma Thu 17-Sep-20 22:35:00

We've left our windows open in the front room so we can keep an ear out incase it escalates before the police arrive. DH is all ready bless him to go and help. He's really worried too and not much tends to bother him, he always thinks I worry too much usually

They always have seemed so happy however we had assumed they had split as we haven't seen the female there for a couple of months or at least haven't noticed her coming and going

Now we are wondering if maybe they have split and it's an argument over that - I don't know but either way it sounded much more physical and worrying that a standard argument thats for sure

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BillywilliamV Thu 17-Sep-20 22:36:22

There was a girl murdered not far from us, I am haunted by the fact that people heard her crying for her mother at two in the morning and did nothing!
You have done exactly the right thing.

Krazynights34 Thu 17-Sep-20 22:37:36

It’s definitely the right thing to do. The police will determine if Theresa safety issue.

Schoolisback1973 Thu 17-Sep-20 22:37:51

You did the right thing! Same here. It happens to me in my previous place. I couldn’t bear it, the woman screams and heard furniture being moved about.
The police arrived and the woman was moved to a shelter. He eventually moved out a few months after that night.
It goes on often.. too ofent

Krazynights34 Thu 17-Sep-20 22:37:53

Theresa??? There’s I meant

AnneLovesGilbert Thu 17-Sep-20 22:38:05

You did the right thing.

Not long after we moved in I heard a horrendous row outside one night. Female next door neighbour was screaming her husband was killing her, heard loads of smashing and banging. Immediately called the police who turned up quite quickly and others had already called.

As we got to know the other neighbours it turned out these two have been beating the shit out of each other for twenty years and people are often calling the police when things escalate. I’ve seen the police arrive several times since when I missed something but someone else heard it kicking off. I’d call again in a heartbeat if I was properly worried. I mean, it’s always awful to hear arguing but there are levels and I don’t want someone dying while I’m next door thinking someone else will make the call or that it’s not that bad. Always make the call.

shinynewapple2020 Thu 17-Sep-20 22:38:16

When I saw the title I thought it was another Covid one and I came on to tell you to mind your own business !

But in this case it absolutely is the right thing to do .

Schoolisback1973 Thu 17-Sep-20 22:38:32

*bare itsmile

vlnr77yac Thu 17-Sep-20 22:39:01

Not only are you right but if it happens again then call the police again. Sometimes it's the neighbours who can save a life. Nice hubby to knock on the door... we are each other's keepers.

Ninjamomma Thu 17-Sep-20 22:40:54

Thank you, you've all really settled my mind, hopefully they will be here soon.

Some of your stories are really haunting, it goes on way to often as you say and I imagine there are others that turn a blind eye or hope someone else makes the call

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CoronaBollox Thu 17-Sep-20 22:43:24

This is what helped me.

You both have done the right thing.

Deadringer Thu 17-Sep-20 22:43:40

i would have done the same.

honeylulu Thu 17-Sep-20 22:43:42

"Bear it" is correct (unless you're getting naked).

And calling is the right thing to do. It could save someone's life.

Ninjamomma Thu 17-Sep-20 22:44:47

Sorry to hear you've been in this situation but I'm so pleased to hear someone made the call for you

Two police cars have just arrived so we can close the windows and stop being nosey neighbours now grin

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Yankathebear Thu 17-Sep-20 22:45:39

You’ve done the right thing.
Your husband sounds like a good egg.

Ninjamomma Thu 17-Sep-20 22:47:02


"Bear it" is correct (unless you're getting naked).

And calling is the right thing to do. It could save someone's life.

Along with all my other terrible Grammar and awful English - the ironic thing is that I run my own marketing company and have to be so careful with anything that I publish. I'm known as the spelling police in my family but I'm passing over my baton after tonight blush

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