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Expecting couple want people to make their meals and do their chores for them.

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Aeroflotgirl Sun 21-Apr-19 08:34:10

I read this, and I was gobsmacked, and not just any meals, specific ones requiring expensive ingredients. As If they are the first people to have babies. I think big CF comes to mind here. I know people don't have to give, but some people have a huge front.

Aeroflotgirl Mon 22-Apr-19 15:55:01

MissConductUS we have something here in the UK, I have seen adverts for it. There are so many options, I guess they want people to pay their food bill cheeky.

MissConductUS Mon 22-Apr-19 14:55:13

* If they want to, they can order ready made hot food meals to be delivered, rather like meals on wheels type thing.*

We have such a service available, at least where i live on the east coast, in additional to lots of grocery delivery options. We gave my mum and MIL a gift certificate to Freshly for Christmas and they really liked the meals. They do get delivered overnight, cold, and then you just reheat them.


Aeroflotgirl Mon 22-Apr-19 13:41:17

They are expecting people they don't know to sub them. I am sure that in the US with a few clicks you can order your shopping and get it delivered, including: almonds, nuts, yoghurt etc, they can get some frozen or ready meals in too. If they want to, they can order ready made hot food meals to be delivered, rather like meals on wheels type thing.

Tobebythesea Mon 22-Apr-19 12:50:54

Yes, they are twats how they’ve gone about this.

Having said that I’d much much rather receive food than any baby clothes or flowers. I wouldn’t ask for it though!

Februaryblooms Mon 22-Apr-19 12:45:44

He sounds like a right CF.

When I was postpartum with our DS I managed to look after him, clean and cook with only a small amount of help from DP who took no paternity leave. We managed not to starve or live in squalor.

Somebody cooking for me and bringing meals would have been wonderful, but I wouldn't have had the front to expect it.

I definitely wouldn't list expensive and specific recipes.

Cringing on his behalf.

MissSingerbrains Mon 22-Apr-19 12:45:08

The funniest bit was the request for Fage 5% Greek yogurt... I mean, this is literally something you buy in a shop so why on earth were these CFers expecting strangers to do their shopping for them? shock

Fiveredbricks Mon 22-Apr-19 12:30:14

This is the result of 'every child gets a medal' at sports day... God help them if their kid has colic 😂

Awwlookatmybabyspider Mon 22-Apr-19 11:59:16

Yanbu. No one carried me around or treated me like a Queen.

NewAccount270219 Mon 22-Apr-19 11:58:54

How is that second scenario the same as this?! He's not deployed to Iraq, he's at home wanting to eat the food.

No one works so much that they don't feed themselves, so he can also feed her if she has post-birth issues.

FannyCann Mon 22-Apr-19 11:55:16

A lot more tolerance than one might expect on twitter.

"Yeah, I’ve been in a strange town with a newborn, a husband who was constantly working, and no support. I could have used some help. I ended up mentally in an extremely bad place.

I think asking your community for the help a lot of people already get from family is ok.




19 Apr

Exact same situation except he was deployed to Iraq and he was working. He was a reservist so I wasn’t on base and no military family anywhere near me. We should be building community not abusing people who ask for help"

AfterSchoolWorry Mon 22-Apr-19 11:18:01

That's pathetic. The husband simpering that he won't be able to support the wife because he'll be tired. Fucking, pathetic sap.

It's embarrassing. How are they going to cope with serious illness or death and other life stuff ???

stucknoue Mon 22-Apr-19 11:05:37

Ps I lived 6000 miles from family and coped just fine without help but I didn't have a c-section or stitches even and we had no Twitter (or even Mumsnet) to turn to because the internet was new then

stucknoue Mon 22-Apr-19 11:03:56

It's weird that it's on Twitter, a public site but for families and friends who ask "can we help " it's actually a good idea to list things you like if you are fussy. Far better than piles of baby clothes they outgrow immediately or soft toys

letsdolunch321 Mon 22-Apr-19 10:49:01

Madness asking strangers to do such things. A typical D. Mail story

Pre plan you lazy twats.

my2bundles Mon 22-Apr-19 10:37:34

Unbelievable with my second baby I also had a severely disabled older child to care for, hub working full time and no local support. I just got on with it and preparing mealtimes was the easiest part.

HoppingPavlova Mon 22-Apr-19 10:28:26

I’ve cooked the odd dish for new parents or someone coming home after an op and not too mobile etc. I just made us a meal that was suitable and cooked a double batch. In one instance I knew one of their kids was lactose intolerant so made something suitable, prob spag bol or something, can’t recall now. They were also dishes that could be frozen in the event they already had food sorted or what not. I was more than happy to do this but if they had asked for it and then demanded I go source kale that had been pissed on by leprechauns or some such shite the friendship would have ended there and then. How people think this is normal is mind boggling.

HoppingPavlova Mon 22-Apr-19 10:21:51

I actually paid someone to do this. She came for 3 hrs a day Mon to Fri for the first 2 weeks after DS was born and after DH went back She helped with DS, held him if I wanted a nap and cooked dinner a few times a week, other days we had a takeaway. No I did not cook a meal for the first few weeks. DH did or we had a takeaway or the lady we paid did.

Yes, and in this case there is absolutely no problem dictating what you want to eat, specifying ingredients etc and having them perform the exact tasks you want. Because you are paying them and it is a form of contractual agreement by nature of the exchange. Totally different to these CF’s.

MissConductUS Mon 22-Apr-19 01:15:55

I'm a Yank and have never heard of a meal train. In New York they would probably not fancy what was left in the cooler after being such CF's.

PregnantSea Mon 22-Apr-19 01:06:02

Is it really such a massive deal to just make something easy like cheese on toast, microwave a ready meal or order a pizza for yourself?

What the hell has happened to our society that normal couples can't look after themselves when they have a baby? Will these people just starve to death if no one fulfills their requests?

Aeroflotgirl Sun 21-Apr-19 18:31:43

Well bumbling they have some front that is for sure. That is a good idea to pay like a 'mothers help' or someone, but to expect total strangers to do that for free. Besides you are asking total strangers to cook, how to you know that they are clean, or won't poison the food.

bumblingbovine49 Sun 21-Apr-19 18:18:46

I actually paid someone to do this. She came for 3 hrs a day Mon to Fri for the first 2 weeks after DS was born and after DH went back She helped with DS, held him if I wanted a nap and cooked dinner a few times a week, other days we had a takeaway. No I did not cook a meal for the first few weeks. DH did or we had a takeaway or the lady we paid did.

I wish I had thought of asking people it.for free. I sort of admire their chutspah (or CFery ) - take your pick of description

C8H10N4O2 Sun 21-Apr-19 18:09:36

People spend THOUSANDS of pounds on dress, limo, photos. It's like the stupid 'pwincess for a speshul day' wedding bollocks, but for 16-year-olds.

A few might but for the majority its posh frock event with the same kind of spend that similar parents here would spend. Most of the Americans I've worked with roll their eyes at the tabloidesque descriptions and spend much the same as families here would consider reasonable.

The May Balls on the other hand really do get spendy and nothing particularly imported about them.

RedPanda2 Sun 21-Apr-19 18:05:03

If they don't want to make their own meals they can have them delivered and pay for them like everyone else. I honestly wonder if they're so anxious they won't be able to cope they're going overboard. Either way, i certainly wouldn't be rushing to help them!

Sarahjconnor Sun 21-Apr-19 18:01:56

NewAccount270219 - absolutely! His usual cook and cleaner is our of action so he clicks his fingers and expects the women of the community to do it. In times gone by when men went to work the day after their child was born of course women would rally but when they have paid paternity leave and the time to write this kind of crap on the internet it grinds my gears. What a cock.

Aeroflotgirl Sun 21-Apr-19 18:00:32

Exactly, it is HIM who are providing the food requirements, not her so much.

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