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Ninjafox Mon 07-Jan-19 23:21:49

I've just been reading about fiver parties and wondered what other people think?

Part if me thinks, yeah I'd stick a fiver in a card rather than the mission to find a reasonably priced gift that I'm not sure birthday child wants. BUT the Brit in me is recoiling in horror at the idea of asking other parents to give my child cash in order to reimburse the big gift I'd bought my child.Thoughts?

MarthasGinYard Mon 07-Jan-19 23:23:33

Never heard of a 'fiver party' what does it entail?

Redskyandrainbows67 Mon 07-Jan-19 23:24:53

In our school another parent sets up a collection for you

milkysmum Mon 07-Jan-19 23:25:33

Do you mean stick a fiver in a card for kids party rather than a present? Very common occurance where I am.

MapMyMum Mon 07-Jan-19 23:26:48

Its not normally to reimburse the parents but for the child to put it all together and buy more presents with it! It is the done thing where I am

Ninjafox Mon 07-Jan-19 23:27:25

In a nutshell its where the parents say (on the invite)don't bring a present, just stick a fiver in a card and we'll put it towards little Jimmy's bike and present it to him at the party and say it's from all of his friends and family.

Thewifipasswordis Mon 07-Jan-19 23:28:10

@ninjafox that's a nice idea though?

DryHeave Mon 07-Jan-19 23:29:38

Fivers are a nightmare to get hold of. Will they take a bank transfer instead?

yodelsay Mon 07-Jan-19 23:30:24

Our school does a pound per year of life in a card so £5 for 5th bday, £6 for 6th bday etc. Works great.

Ninjafox Mon 07-Jan-19 23:30:40

I'm not saying it's wrong, I actually wouldn't mind doing it, just hate the idea of asking for money I suppose. Just wondering others opinions and whether it's something I should just get over

minipie Mon 07-Jan-19 23:30:47

I think it’s a brilliant idea. Far more sensible and less wasteful than loads of £5
-£10 presents some of which will be duplicates, some never played with etc

minipie Mon 07-Jan-19 23:31:49

As long as it’s not seen as compulsory. The party giver shouldn’t buy a big gift in reliance on receiving the money iyswim

MarthasGinYard Mon 07-Jan-19 23:33:24

I couldn't do that

Personally think it's pretty bad form

howonearthdoyoucopewith3 Mon 07-Jan-19 23:34:50

Not the done thing where we are. It seems a bit joyless to me for little kiddies! My children like seeing what their specific friends get them.

SuziQ10 Mon 07-Jan-19 23:37:17

I sometimes stick £5 or £10 in a birthday card for kids parties. Always feel bad doing it as it generally means I don't know them well enough to choose a gift they'd like OR I can't be bothered to go shopping for it.
Didn't know it's was a thing !! Nothing against the idea at all.

SisterOfDonFrancisco Mon 07-Jan-19 23:37:45

I like that system as long as it's flexible.

arranbubonicplague Mon 07-Jan-19 23:42:22

Never heard of it but sounds sensible for those whom it suits.

RosemarysBabyDress Mon 07-Jan-19 23:42:34

I would find it rude to ask!
of course most parents buy a birthday gift, but it's not mandatory, and some might just get a book from the poundshop.
It would slightly less rude to mention no gift please, but SMALL contributions to a main gift prefered.

As long as the parents hosting don't reciprocate by giving a party bag full of plastic tat at the end of the party

HerRoyalNotness Mon 07-Jan-19 23:42:50

Yep I’d much prefer this way of doing things

ChubRubTheStruggleIsReal Mon 07-Jan-19 23:46:08

Cash is fine if you’re stuck for time/if your a normal disorganised family with a million things going on...
We give £their-age eg if they are turning 11, they get £11.
To be fair, my dd would much prefer this so she can have a day out to spend it on a large purchase she has wanted for ages- one year she bought a massive hutch for her guinea pigs! Much better than plastic tat!

LonelyAmongUs Mon 07-Jan-19 23:46:12

When you said fiver parties, I imagined a virile manifestation of the divine thrusting his g-string at me whilst I lasciviously dangled fivers at him. What a disappointment this turned out to be.

Propertywoe Mon 07-Jan-19 23:47:06

They don’t ask for a fiver where I am just cash instead of present. I do not mind giving cash but I know quite a few parents who rely on buying items in the sale that look more expensive so do not spend out of their budget or re gift. I would hate to think a child couldn’t attend a party I organised as the parent didn’t have the cash.

Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom Mon 07-Jan-19 23:47:40

I'd much rather a fiver in a card than lots of presents that get looked at once then are just clutter.

I'd also much rather stick a fiver in a card than go looking for a present!

I also like getting or giving a scratchcard in a card for adults too blush

Mrsmadevans Mon 07-Jan-19 23:47:53

Brilliant idea !

Ninjafox Mon 07-Jan-19 23:48:25

Maybe I need to wait until it's the done thing here, then just stick 'fiver party' on the invite rather than be the person who introduces the system winkgrin

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