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AIBU?

To just want my DH to answer the question he's been asked?

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Zintox · 20/07/2018 22:28

This drives me mad.

Just now he said there was no melon left. I said "who ate it?" He replied "there were only three pieces left."

He does this all the time. I ask a question and he answers a completely different one.

How can I make him stop? Does anyone else's DH do this?

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Troels · 20/07/2018 22:34

Thats weird. I'd take that answer as he ate the three pieces.
What do you say to an answer like that?

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/07/2018 22:36

What would your response have been if he'd said he ate them?

I'm asking because my dad deflects like this because my mother asks loafed questions!

RainSim · 20/07/2018 22:37

Was he privately educated? Mine was and I blame it on that. It drives me mad.

Bezm · 20/07/2018 22:37

This is actually what I do! It drives my husband mad but I don't realise I'm doing it. I guess I just answer without thinking!

UpstartCrow · 20/07/2018 22:38

'Who ate it' isn't really relevant, and it sounds accusing.

Singlenotsingle · 20/07/2018 22:38

There were only three pieces left, so obviously he ate them all. He couldn't just leave them there to go to waste could he?

Ceebs85 · 20/07/2018 22:38

I do this, its not intentional!

Doingreat · 20/07/2018 22:39

What does he say when you tell him how annoying this is?

He sounds a bit thick/passive aggressive to me

Disquieted1 · 20/07/2018 22:39

Don't be mad. He's got a great career ahead in politics.

ElinorOliphantIsCompletelyFine · 20/07/2018 22:39

My mum does this. It drives me up the wall!

WooYa · 20/07/2018 22:40

My DH does this!? I just keep asking him the question until he answers properly like a child

Booklover18 · 20/07/2018 22:41

What he means is “ yes I ate it but there were only three pieces left!” - it doesn’t make any difference though - the melon is still gone so what does it matter? It’s gone.

Kolo · 20/07/2018 22:41

OMG yes!! My OH always does this and it’s so annoying. I sometimes have to ask a question 3 or 4 times before I get an answer to it. He is either so vague as to make an answer completely pointless, or he’ll answer a question he assumes I really mean from my question. Eg how long is left of the movie? Not very long.

OhHolyJesus · 20/07/2018 22:43

DH does this. Asking what time he is leaving he gives me chapter and verse about what he has to do before he leaves when all I want to know is am I cooking for him or not. I don't want to know he inner workings of his mind I want to know what to defrost!

Fatted · 20/07/2018 22:43

Does it really matter who ate it though?! It's like closing the gate after the horse is bolted.

He's admitted his guilt in his answer I'd say.

Olinguito · 20/07/2018 22:44

Oh dear, I'm told I do this too

bluemirror1 · 20/07/2018 22:46

Oops!

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/07/2018 22:47

It's fruitless to ask him.

Geddit? GEDDIT?

NapQueen · 20/07/2018 22:47

Ooh my word I think I may work with him. "Hi have you signed those invoices yet?"
"We need a procurement system"

that wasnt what i asked?!

"Hi CEO wants to know if you want anything added to this agenda for your meeting?"
"I dont know why we are having this meeting next week its manic busy"

because the CEO wants it and thats not what i effing asked you!

KickAssAngel · 20/07/2018 22:49

so just assume that you get whatever answer you want. e.g. "oh, so you ate it DH"
"Oh, so you WILL put the trash out this week"
"Oh, so you ARE buying me diamonds for Christmas"
and continue with getting random answers out of thin air that suit you.

Urbanbeetler · 20/07/2018 22:50

My husband doesn’t like melon.

GetToFuck · 20/07/2018 22:53

My husband doesn’t like melon.

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BeansandSausages · 20/07/2018 22:54

Mine does this. Also likes to ask really obvious questions himself that I don't need to even be bothered with. And if you say pardon he never repeats himself either. Just mumbles something that sounds different and expects you to understand.

He might have annoyed me a bit today

SandyY2K · 20/07/2018 22:56

Does it matter who ate the melon? He said it's finished. I'd be irritated by your question tbh...what's the point? To blame the person who finished it or what.

milliemolliemou · 20/07/2018 23:04

Anyone have the other DP problem? I don't think I'm guilty of any of these but if other women are, let me know since I've always thought it exclusively male.

Is there any butter? (in the fridge, numpty, on your feet)
Where are the keys? (where you left them)
What's for supper (shall we discuss? had you anything planned?)

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