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Pokemonlovepower Tue 20-Feb-18 08:40:42

So my baby had a playdate with a couple of babies last week and I took some really cute photos of the afternoon. I sent them to the other mums who were the delighted at the photos!
So yesterday I was casually hanging out with friend and was cropping the other babies out of a photo to post on Instagram ( so only my baby would be in the picture, showing off her cute new outfit). My friend couldn't understand why I was doing this and thought I was being paranoid /OTT to not include the other babies. In my mind it's not my place to post photos of other peoples children on a social network platform. Was I being unreasonable ?? X

JustHappy3 Tue 20-Feb-18 08:44:48

No - yanbu at all. Totally normal these days.

LovingLola Tue 20-Feb-18 08:45:23

No you were not.

LovingLola Tue 20-Feb-18 08:46:40

And hopefully the day is coming when people realise that posting photos on SM of other people without their consent is a heinous crime!!

Buppydipsandsoldiers Tue 20-Feb-18 08:48:24

No you are not being unreasonable. I would be really angry if someone put up a photo of my children on social media. I never have done it so don’t expect anyone else to.

DuckBilledAardvark Tue 20-Feb-18 08:49:24

I hate the phrase ‘play date’ and I neither agree or disagree with the cropping, I’m a bit introvert so I would only take pictures of babies I knew well.

Dulra Tue 20-Feb-18 08:52:12

YANBU I do not post pictures of my children on any social media platform so would be very annoyed if someone else did.

I really do not understand why people still do! There was a case on the news in Ireland only yesterday that hundreds of pictures of Irish children were discovered on paedophile sites in Russia all legitimately taken from Facebook, Instagram and snapchat sites. Please people protect your kids and their images once you post them on a social media site you lose control of them and do not know what those images are used for sad

ShamelesslyPlacemarking Tue 20-Feb-18 08:53:29

I know of literally nobody who would get upset about having a sweet picture of their baby on a play date posted on SM by a friend.

However as noted above, in Mumsnet world it’s akin to slapping the baby and screaming obscenities in the mother’s face.

bettydraper31 Tue 20-Feb-18 08:53:54

Ywnbu. Unfortunately this is the way things seem to have become, so you were in the right. If you didn’t crop them out you could be guaranteed one of the other mums would have something to say (maybe not in this particular group but up and down the country!).

SilverBirchTree Tue 20-Feb-18 08:53:55

I’d be annoyed if someone posted my child’s photo on social media. YANBU for cropping them.

Maybe rude to be playing with your phone while in the company of your friend though.

44PumpLane Tue 20-Feb-18 08:54:34

YANBU- my friends and I have a closed group for sharing pictures when we all get together, and if we have wanted to share a picture to a wider audience we have all asked permission first.

I think it's appropriate to crop or ask permission.

RoryAndLogan Tue 20-Feb-18 08:55:51

You were right. If I ever post photos of my child with others, I either crop them out or use one of those instagram emoji things to cover their faces.

It's not ok to post other children online without their parents permission.

Unreasonableunreasonableness Tue 20-Feb-18 08:58:27

I normally check with the mums but if I haven't then I would do what you are.

WorraLiberty Tue 20-Feb-18 08:58:40

And hopefully the day is coming when people realise that posting photos on SM of other people without their consent is a heinous crime!!

Apart from people's own kids, who have literally no say in it?

Slartybartfast Tue 20-Feb-18 09:00:37

no you did the right thing, unless they wanted you to post pictures of their babies too, but you didnt know that so quite rightly you cropped out their babies.

ChickenMom Tue 20-Feb-18 09:04:55

YANBU. I would be annoyed if somebody posted my kids photo on social media without my permission. Privacy. It’s rude to just post somebody else’s image.

Snowysky20009 Tue 20-Feb-18 09:07:00

Only time I've posted of other people's children, is when I've messaged the parents first and said 'I've got some good photos shall I post them on fb?' And then it's the parents decision. No ones ever said no (not that I've posted many), but ultimately it's the parents decision, not mine, even if they do post loads of their dc.

Dragongirl10 Tue 20-Feb-18 09:16:30

I am not sure why people feel the need to post pictures of their Dcs on SM at all, why not just email/text to friends/ GPs who would appreciate them.

Why does anyone want to put personal pictures up for the whole world to see?

user1493413286 Tue 20-Feb-18 09:19:33

You were being very appropriate. I would be upset if someone posted a picture of my baby on social media as I’m very cautious of it

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HappyLollipop Tue 20-Feb-18 09:27:07

YANBU at all, I too crop out or put emojis over the faces of other kids in photos of my DS with others on social media! You have no idea about those kids lives whether they've been taken into care or separated from family who may be looking any clue as to where they are so you just don't know who your putting in danger. I also like my sons pictures to stay off others SM too as you never know who's looking at them, my privacy settings are as tight as they can be but not everybody's are.

ShamelesslyPlacemarking Tue 20-Feb-18 09:27:07

Why does anyone want to put personal pictures up for the whole world to see?

Maybe some people only add people who are interested in their lives? I don’t know about you but I am pretty certain that not even half the world regularly checks my SM feeds.

ElenaBothari Tue 20-Feb-18 09:27:11


We have no photos of our children on social media because of a relative who is dangerous. Not everybody in our lives knows this. I would be furious and scared if a photo went up without our permission.

Clandestino Tue 20-Feb-18 09:27:21

I would never put photos of other kids on my FB and mine is pretty restricted anyway. Still, I don't have their permission so I'm not doing it.

Trunkisareshite Tue 20-Feb-18 09:28:22

Shameless I can think of at least four including me.

OP if only more people considered other people’s feelings before doing what they feel like, it would avoid the awkward conversations I’ve had about removing pictures of my kids from SM.

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