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AIBU?

To think that bar soap is perfectly acceptable?

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HannahHut · 10/11/2017 09:31

I only use Dove bar soap. Shower gels tend to bring me out in a rash (sensitive skin) and this is the only thing I've managed to find that does. Also the Dove shower gel is expensive.

I had a friend stay over last night and when she went to get a shower I gave her a new bar in a box and she asked if I had any shower gel. When I told her no she said I was rude for not picking some up because I knew she was coming and not everyone likes to use bar soap.

AIBU to think it was perfectly fine or should I have got shower gel in? I'm panicking a little now as I have another friend coming to stay in a few weeks.

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BatteredBreadedOrSouthernFried · 10/11/2017 09:33

It was a brand new bar, she was the rude one! Nothing wrong with bar soap. I’ve just started using it and i find it much better than gel.

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Karmin · 10/11/2017 09:33

That is ridiculous and self entitled CF level

She is staying in your house, why on earth has she not brought her own toiletries if she is so particular?!

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AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 10/11/2017 09:33

Personally I would expect, as a guest, to bring my own shower gel if I wanted to be sure I could use the product, but then I am allergic to Dove in all its forms anyway. I think it's a bit cheeky to reject the soap you offered if she hadn't thought to bring her own - you're not a hotel!

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BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 10/11/2017 09:33

If I was going to stay with someone, I wouldn't expect them to provide shower gel, I'd bring my own. She was wrong to call you rude

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haba · 10/11/2017 09:33

Erm... when one stays somewhere, surely one takes ones own toiletries?
I wouldn't like to use that bar after she'd used it though...

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gobster · 10/11/2017 09:34

Personally I don’t think it’s rude in the slightest

It’s presumptuous of her to think you need to cater for her shower wants when she could just bring hers from home considering she’s obviously aware you don’t like shower gel!

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Maverick66 · 10/11/2017 09:34

She was rude for not bringing her own shower gel!

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NotThereEileen · 10/11/2017 09:37

Bar soap is fine. Better for the environment. Why on earth didn't she bring her own toiletries? Cheeky fucker!

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WineAndTiramisu · 10/11/2017 09:37

She should bring her own if she's that picky!

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Appuskidu · 10/11/2017 09:37

When I told her no she said I was rude for not picking some up because I knew she was coming and not everyone likes to use bar soap.

I find it difficult to believe someone would say that? Does she have form for being really rude?

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MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 10/11/2017 09:37

She is fucking rude.

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Bumblebee2302 · 10/11/2017 09:37

She said it was "rude"?! What a cheeky mare - I've never, ever gone to stay with a friend and not taken my own toiletries. If she didn't bring any, she gets what she's given - simple as that. Using Dove bar wouldn't bother me - I'd be chuffed at you being so thoughtful as to give me a brand new bar!

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maras2 · 10/11/2017 09:38

She's the rude one for making such a pissy comment. Shock
Nothing wrong with bar soap.
I find shower gel overpriced and sticky.
Our DGC's love the novelty of soap as they've all been brought up using shower gel/dispenser soap/wipes etc.

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FreudianSlurp · 10/11/2017 09:39

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Margomyhero · 10/11/2017 09:39

As all PP have said - she should have brought her own toiletry bag along if it was a pre-planned stay.

Def a CF.

Bar soap all the way here, and has been for years. Better for the skin, environment and wallet.

Dove is my favourite too. Brilliant for taking on holiday with hand luggage only. Body and face sorted in one bar.

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HannahHut · 10/11/2017 09:41

She's know for being a bit difficult, she's one of those people who says ''I just tell it how it is''. If that makes sense.
She said she forgot to bring some so thought she could use mine. I thought giving her a new bar would be okay as I know some people wouldn't like to use an old one.

GretchenWieners Its so weird you're allergic to Dove and it seems to be the only thing I can use!

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MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 10/11/2017 09:44

Ah yes, people who "tell it how it is"... aka a rude fucker.

You don't have to put up with it. If she can't be bothered to think of others' feelings you don't have to think about hers.

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Tubbyinthehottub · 10/11/2017 09:45

She is being really rude but I can’t believe Dove suits you if you have sensitive skin. I’m not particularly sensitive but just thinking about Dove is making me itch!

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Abra1d · 10/11/2017 09:45

This business about soap is quite weird.

In my experience it keeps you fresher anyway and when you rinse it under the shower any ‘residue’ from anyone else is washed away.

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Passthecake30 · 10/11/2017 09:48

Wow. We use Dove here, sensitive to everything else. Give her a bottle of washing up liquid next time Grin

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HerbWoman · 10/11/2017 09:48

So it sounds like she intended to bring her own anyway, yet is calling you rude for not buying something you can't use yourself and that she wouldn't have used either if she had remembered her own. I daresay she probably wouldn't have bought bar soap if you were staying with her just in case you had forgotten to bring your own either.

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juddyrockingcloggs · 10/11/2017 09:48

Wet the soap to aid lubrication and then stick it up her arse the CF.

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FizzyWaterAndElderflower · 10/11/2017 09:50

How odd! If I'm staying with close friends or family I often don't bother to take toiletries, but I certainly don't then tell them off if they don't have what I like!

Personally Dove gives me horrible skin, so I stick to just plain old normal soap (if I'm living in a soft water area, I even wash my hair with it), but to each their own.

My mum keeps a big jar of toiletries from hotels/gifts/freebies in the bathroom so in case of guests needing something the family wouldn't normally use, which is a good idea I thought.

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Appuskidu · 10/11/2017 09:50

She is more rude for forgetting to bring her own toiletries and then insulting what you kindly offered her!

Perhaps she should stay in a hotel next time instead.

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HannahHut · 10/11/2017 09:51

Passthecake I can imagine her reaction to it being Asda brand instead of Fairy Liquid Grin

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