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AIBU?

To end relationship over his irritating dog?

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MauledInPassing · 22/08/2017 20:43

Been together two years but do not live together. He has a dog (French bulldog) which is absolutely fucking crazy and is putting me off taking relationship any further.

Whenever I go to his house it goes nuts, attacks my legs and feet, launches itself at me trying to bite my hands, tries to grab the knees of my trousers - when I sit down it launches itself at my face, gets on the back of the sofa and attack my head, hair, bites my ears - all the while DP is laughing like a loon saying how cute and funny it is. The other day I got mad at it and knocked it off the sofa (a little harder than I should have done admittedly) and it fell onto its back. DP gasped and ran to pick it up. I was mortified and apologised straight away and asked if it was ok. He was really upset and said he was shocked that I could treat an animal in such a way. I felt absolutely terrible but as soon as he let it go it immediately carried on attacking me.

I've asked him to stop the dog from doing this and he makes a half arsed attempt but it just carries on. It runs off with my shoes or any object I happen to have brought into the house. The other day DP was literally crying with laughter in the kitchen. I went to see what he was laughing at only to realise that my hardback had been snatched and taken outside and it's contents all over the garden. Keys, phone, purse, NHS ID card!!! Then this stupid ridiculous animal stood shaking my bag to death growling like a thing possessed. I shouted at DP that this shit isn't funny but he couldn't even answer me for laughing.

He turned up here half hour ago, pooch in tow and asked if I wanted to go for a walk with them. I looked at its fat squashed up face and instantly felt irritated! I like dogs but this thing has something wrong with it, I'm sure.

Anyway I declined, saying I was tired and he said he was worried that I didn't like his dog and was hoping to try a bit of bonding. I don't want to bond with it, it tires me out. Apart from the biting it constantly covers me in an awful white slime which makes me wretch.

I'm seriously considering ending the relationship over it. I'd never expect him to get rid of it but I personally don't want to be around it. I feel awful because at heart I know it's just an innocent dog but I just don't like it. I've never felt like this about an animal before.

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sonjadog · 22/08/2017 20:46

I think you know you have to end it. He will choose his dog over you, and you don't like the dog. But in the mean time, don't push him or be mean to him. It's not his fault his owner hasn't bothered to train him.

MarcelineTheVampire · 22/08/2017 20:47

You knocked the dog so hard it fell off the sofa? Yes, yes you do need to leave if this is causing you to hurt the poor thing.

I get that it is annoying but you have a DP problem, he should be stopping it - you don't hurt an innocent dog because you're mad. That's horrid.

Twitchingdog · 22/08/2017 20:47

I think you have love DO love his dog . As don't love his dog you have to end it .

LEMtheoriginal · 22/08/2017 20:48

He needs to teach his dog some manners

Sashkin · 22/08/2017 20:49

Sounds hideously badly trained. And he thinks it's funny and is making no attempt to train it.

I'd have dumped him after the handbag incident. He's a complete tosser.

PrimalLass · 22/08/2017 20:49

you don't hurt an innocent dog because you're mad

It bites her and her partner does nothing about it.

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KirstyJC · 22/08/2017 20:50

I can't believe you have put up with this for so long! He thinks it's funny that the dog repeatedly attacks you and destroys your stuff? WTF?!?! How is that in any way funny?

LTB for sure!

HarrietKettleWasHere · 22/08/2017 20:50

I swear I've read something like this before.

I would dump someone who can't be fucked to train their dog.

Alittlepotofrosie · 22/08/2017 20:51

I wouldn't put up with that. Id have to end it if he wasn't prepared to train his aggressive dog. And i like dogs.

BackieJerkhart · 22/08/2017 20:51

Umm I wouldn't have tolerated it the first time it happened never mind for 2 years!! Why have you? Totally unacceptable that you hit/pushed the dog btw. You shouldn't be around dogs.

caffeinestream · 22/08/2017 20:51

I feel sorry for the dog - no training and an owner who doesn't give a shit. One day that dog is going to bite someone and he'll be in real trouble.

I think you need to end things. He's not going to get rid of his dog (or train it, by the looks of things) and you (understandably) don't like the dog!

BarbaraOcumbungles · 22/08/2017 20:52

I couldn't put up with a bloke who couldn't even train a dog to behave properly.

The dog isn't the problem here - your useless boyfriend is. Get rid.

LaContessaDiPlump · 22/08/2017 20:52

Dump. He is not listening to what you are saying.

supersop60 · 22/08/2017 20:54

It sounds like the dog is jealous of you. However - he shouldn't be allowed to behave like that, with anyone (what if it was a small child?)
Your BF is not taking this seriously. Dump him.

Nocabbageinmyeye · 22/08/2017 20:55

Dump, he sounds more annoying than the dog

Ferrisday · 22/08/2017 20:55

You're not really a dog person are you?!
If it's a very young puppy, you could bond with it and he could train it.
But if it's been like this for 2 years it's not going to change is it?

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 22/08/2017 20:57

I know what's wrong with the dog-it's got a dick head owner. His attitude woukd send me over the edge too.

AgainPlease · 22/08/2017 20:57

Why don't you hire a dog trainer?

Unless the relationship's not worth it, then don't bother.

Dustbunny1900 · 22/08/2017 20:57

I don't blame you one bit, I'd never sit there and let anything attack me, that's why the thing is like that in the first place. He's doing that dog no favors.
It's sick that he was laughing as his animal destroyed your belongings.

TroelsLovesSquinkies · 22/08/2017 20:57

I'd have dumped him ages ago, I don't mind dogs who are well behaved I have no time for idiots who think their badly trained dogs are cute.

ILoveMillhousesDad · 22/08/2017 20:57

Dump him. It's not going to work. Some dog owners think everyone should love their dogs as much as they do.

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Whocansay · 22/08/2017 20:59

He let the dog destroy your property and laughed about it? I would have dumped him them.

Just get rid, but don't be mean to the dog. It's not the dog's fault its owner is an irresponsible dickhead. It sounds like your OH thoroughly enjoys your discomfort, so lets the dog do what it likes.

You could never have a child in this situation.

missmollyhadadolly · 22/08/2017 21:00

This dog is not far from biting OP. She's perfectly entitled to protect herself from an aggressive dog.

It's not the dog's fault, it's his shit owner's fault.

OP, do yourself a favour and get out of this relationship.

SlaveToDisney · 22/08/2017 21:01

Have you ever mentioned to him about his dogs behaviour?

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