Backstory.
I had a child 4 years ago. Father never involved. Not on the BC. DNA test done and its 99.9% he is the Father (can't get more accurate)
He does pay. Minimal amount, but without fail it does help. It's secret how he pays, via a 3rd Party for the reason below.
We don't have contact & he has never asked to see DC - the occasional text of "hi how are you?"
Here is the catch. He's married. Please don't judge me, it was a silly time in my life and no one got hurt but yes, I have an amazing child from this, I've never asked for anything. Certainly under NO circumstances would I have compromised his situation. As I say zero contact. It was a lust affair. Equally not proud of this.
So .... I get a random email, stating how under pressure he is, how he is trying to survive, and "people" have torn him apart re "our situation" but he'd like to meet up, we don't even speak so I'm not even sure who would rip him apart.
Normally I would be very much don't worry, as you know there is no pressure from me, I don't expect anything for obvious reasons.
But today I am royally fucked off, how does he think I survive EVERY single day on my own with a young child, I work full time,DC is cared for, loved, my family are amazing.
But I've had enough of these random texts/emails of how hard done by he is!
He is extremely wealthy. He could pay me a hell of a lot more but I never wanted to cause any issues.
So my AIBU is ... I've had enough of being nice, I feel right now that I want to take him to court for more money.
However, would I be UR to do that?
He is a pig.
Do I just ignore him and carry on in our lovely world? Do as I've always said and not compromise his situation?
I'm just angry today 😡
For the record I have NO issue with him seeing DC, that's his Father and no child should be denied that just because I feel like I do.
My head is saying just ignore and carry on as we are. But I'm annoyed he feels so hard done by.
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What do I do? DC is a result of an affair.
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ninenicknames · 13/04/2017 09:05
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13/04/2017 09:18
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