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Call me by my bloody name!

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roarityroar Fri 02-Dec-16 17:09:45


My name is Alexandra. (I'm happy to say that here as I don't post personal stuff). Not Alex. I sign my emails Alexandra. I introduce myself as Alexandra.

so why t' feck am I always called Alex? In response to emails I have clearly signed with my legal, preferred name??! why do people shorten without asking?! I wouldn't, it's rude.


AIBU to want people to call me my actual bloody name?

baconandeggies Fri 02-Dec-16 17:18:03

Yanbu - but people may (wrongly) think that it's friendlier to use Alex. How do you put them straight?

baconandeggies Fri 02-Dec-16 17:18:33

or it could be laziness!

ZigZagIntoTheBlue Fri 02-Dec-16 17:23:33

I'm with you I'd never shorten without permission, it's overly familiar esp in a professional environment.

pigsDOfly Fri 02-Dec-16 17:31:36

I hate the shortened version of my name and like you I always tell people my proper name, but there they go without rhyme or reason shortening it this horrible sound.

I wince ever time, but tbh I've pretty much given up now. I feel uncomfortable if I correct them so just let them get on with it.

I have been asked by a few people which I prefer, which makes no sense either, I've just told you my name, why would I tell you my name's Gertrude if I want you to call me Gertie - not my name btw.

FaithAscending Fri 02-Dec-16 17:32:03

I use my Sunday name for work. People always try to shorten it. I politely say 'Actually it's x'. It irritates me. If I wanted to be a shortened version (I am outside of work) I would introduce myself as much! It's practical as well, my work email is firstname.surname@business. If you search for a nickname you can't find it! I have worked hard to ensure my colleagues call me by my full name and anyone who tries to shorten it gets told no! So no, YANBU. They are. smile

roarityroar Fri 02-Dec-16 17:34:08

I gave a presentation to a couple of hundred people. The introducer introduced me as Alex. FFS.

I always correct politely. Hate it though. Worst is when I've used Alexandra repeatedly yet they still call me Alex. Makes me want to call them some ridiculously shortened version.

roarityroar Fri 02-Dec-16 17:36:56

Like if someone is called Kevin I would call them K-Dizzle.


Pidlan Fri 02-Dec-16 17:41:18

YANBU. People shouldn't shorten names withiut knowing that it's okay. This is why parents have to make sure they love the shortened versions of their DC's names...

UnbornMortificado Fri 02-Dec-16 17:42:10

Im a Rebecca

I feel your pain.

DillDongMerrilyOnHigh Fri 02-Dec-16 17:43:41

YANBU. My name is Lesley and without fail it gets shortened to Les. I bloody hate it but have resigned myself to it.

It's mainly to do with the region I live in. Every name gets shortened e.g. Terry would be 'Teh'.

BillSykesDog Fri 02-Dec-16 17:43:46

Start calling them 'flower' or 'duck' back.

FaithAscending Fri 02-Dec-16 17:47:14

Feigning ignorance is fun too:
Alex, can I have a word? <blank face> Alex? Alex?
Oh, were you talking to me? Only my name is Alexandra!
I have a friend Samantha who is absolutely not a Sam and she hates it too.

BackforGood Fri 02-Dec-16 17:47:20

Because 99% of the population aren't precious about their name, when it is a long name. It is FAR more common to shorten a long name like that, than use the full one.

Of course , if introducing a speaker then I would check first.

TheProblemOfSusan Fri 02-Dec-16 17:52:05

My name's one of these. I only use the short version for close friends and family, my long name is for being posh and profesh at work. The two names have different connotations and sounds different and signal different things to me. Yanbu.

Trifleorbust Fri 02-Dec-16 17:53:56

I think it's rude to shorten someone's name before you have known them for a good while and you are pretty sure they won't mind or actively prefer it.

OhSuckItUpDucky Fri 02-Dec-16 17:54:05

I have a fairly short name BackForGood people still shorten it
I correct them every fucking time , it drives me mad

llangennith Fri 02-Dec-16 17:54:45

After you've signed off as Alexandra add (not Alex).

BreakfastAtSquiffanys Fri 02-Dec-16 17:55:49

If your name is Alexandra, and you want to be called that, It's not being precious.
I have a friend who is Elizabeth. Not Liz, not Lizzie not Beth. Elizabeth.

scratchypoopants Fri 02-Dec-16 17:57:58

I have the opposite problem. I prefer the shortened version of my name, and always sign emails with it. People often reply using the longer version and it irritates me. YANBU

TheMortificadosDragon Fri 02-Dec-16 17:59:29

You should be able to make your point if anyone called Richard (ie Dick) or Helen does this to you

ArmySal Fri 02-Dec-16 17:59:41

Try having an extra letter added. My name is Amy and some people call me Aims confusedangry

SistersOfPercy Fri 02-Dec-16 18:04:31

Hey Aims! I'm Janey angry
It's nice when dh calls me that, affectionate. However when others call me that it drives me barmy.

HerRoyalFattyness Fri 02-Dec-16 18:04:55

My name is 6 letters and still people manage to change it. I'm Kirsty. I regularly get called Kirst (cursed confused)

YoureAllABunchOfBastards Fri 02-Dec-16 18:07:38

Can I call you Al?

Sorry. It had to be done.

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