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to be furious with dh for eating cakes he knew were destined for the bin!

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alfrex Mon 21-Jan-13 14:57:29

OK. I bake a lot. And sometimes my cakes are beautiful, and we all enjoy them. But sometimes it does not go so well and the cakes come out sunk or burnt or still wet in the middle (if dh would get the fan fixed on the oven this would happen a lot less often, but that's another thread)

There is a system, dh and the children are well aware of it. If the cakes are good to eat, they either go in a freezer bag for later use, or in a sealed tin for use over the week, or on a plate on the side so that they can be eaten now. DH knows this and I never complain about him "sampling" even if th cakes are meant for after dinner or whatever. I bake a lot so there is usually something there if he fancies a nibble.

If the cakes are not up to scratch, they go in the bin as soon as they are cooled (or as soon as dh empties the bin - there's another thread there!)

so this morning dh saunters into the kitchen to get himself breakfast. I come in and find him cramming his mouth with the burnt, crappy cakes that were sitting in the bun tray by the bin. I was really pissed off and had a go at him for it. I can make really nice cakes and I make plenty of them, so he has no need to wind me up and embarrass me by eating the ones that have gone wrong. He know it is a pet hate of mine.

so he strops off to work having called me a "control freak" in front of our children who were sitting having their breakfast. I am Not Happy.

BinkyWinky Mon 21-Jan-13 15:04:16

I'd take it as a compliment that he likes to eat the shite ones.

TantrumsAndBalloons Mon 21-Jan-13 15:04:20 are furious with your DH for eating cake you wanted to throw away?
Put them in the actual bin then?

Maybe your DH is furious with you for throwing away loads of cake that he would happily eat? Maybe eating your cake destined from the bin is his revenge?

GeraldineAubergine Mon 21-Jan-13 15:04:25

If I were you I would bake some cakes and fill them with turds and broken glass. That will teach the cake gobbling bastard. Embarrass you by eating below par cakes? What a scumbag.

Glittertwins Mon 21-Jan-13 15:04:55

Insulted? Embarrassed? Good Lord, get over it!

choceyes Mon 21-Jan-13 15:05:47


YABU. Wow! You need to lighten up.

Eating burnt cake...mmmm yum!

Cat98 Mon 21-Jan-13 15:05:48

This must be a joke...
I'd much rather see them eaten than going to waste!

RedPencils Mon 21-Jan-13 15:05:58

If he wants to eat burnt cakes then that's his lookout. You're coming across as a bit of a loon.

Put them on the bird table rather than throw them away.

The one thing I really love about dh is his human-dustbinness. If be delighted if he finished up the crappy cakes

<more tasty ones for me> grin

PatriciaHolm Mon 21-Jan-13 15:06:31

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HappyJustToBe Mon 21-Jan-13 15:06:42

Why are they his jobs, out of interest?

valiumredhead Mon 21-Jan-13 15:07:14

They can't be that bad if he still wants to eat them!

Tee2072 Mon 21-Jan-13 15:07:52

At least give them to the birds, don't bin them because they are slightly burnt or sunk or whatever.

Must be nice to have money to waste like that.

Binkyridesagain Mon 21-Jan-13 15:08:10

I make bloody good cakes, sometimes I make complete disasters, they both get eaten, because cake is cake and its a waste to throw cake away. Or any other edible food for that matter

Forgetfulmog Mon 21-Jan-13 15:08:12

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FreudianLisp Mon 21-Jan-13 15:08:13

YABU to waste food that isn't perfect. I really think that's immoral.

YABU to tell him what he can and can't eat.

Are you this controlling and wasteful about other things too?

greenhill Mon 21-Jan-13 15:08:13

I thought the story was that ALFRED burnt the cakes, not alfrex

alfrex Mon 21-Jan-13 15:09:07

Sorry but how is it a compliment for him to eat cakes he knows I don't want eaten? It would be a compliment if he did as he was asked and just waited for m to put out propr cakes! He would not have to wait long, I bake a lot.

Not sure why people are being hostile.

FaffTastic Mon 21-Jan-13 15:09:32

I do not eed to unclench thanks, but ok maybe I should just let him eat out of the bin

But he's not foraging about eating scraps from the bin - you said in your OP that they were left in a bun tray by the bin. Try unclenching a little bit further OP - it doesn't seem to be working so far.

threesocksmorgan Mon 21-Jan-13 15:09:39

brew for your dh to go with the cakes

defineme Mon 21-Jan-13 15:10:10

If he's not doing the jobs that are his share of the work then that's not fair.

Eating burnt cakes rather than them going in the bin? You have to let go of whatever is causing you to get wound up about this-no one on this thread has supported's not usual to feel this way. I would feel pleased that the ingredients hadn't been wasted, somebody else might think that's a poor reflection on dh's palate, but feeling embarrassed? A therapist would jump on that ....

GregBishopsBottomBitch Mon 21-Jan-13 15:10:21

Blimey, stop being so precious and get over it, my ex cooked anything i made and didnt give a shit.

PaellaUmbrella Mon 21-Jan-13 15:10:27

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Cat98 Mon 21-Jan-13 15:10:38

It's not about it being a compliment or not, it's about not wasting food! The money spent on the ingredients! It might not be a big deal to you but it would be to a lot of people - not saying you should force disgusting things down just to avoid waste, but if your dh enjoyed them what's the problem?!

Crinkle77 Mon 21-Jan-13 15:10:41

YABU. It's not like the cakes were meant for someone else and he ate them. And while there are people going hungry then you should not waste food. So what if they're not perfect? Just stick a bit of icing on them and no one will no any better?

valiumredhead Mon 21-Jan-13 15:10:45

People are being hostile (not agreeing with you) because you sound controlling like your dh said and you are getting your knickers in a twist over nothing.

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