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To tell Dsis (9) that if she "won't sit at a table where people are eating non free range turky" that she can eat her christmas dinner alone on the balcony.

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honeytea Sat 01-Dec-12 17:55:10

My lovely adorable and slightly precocious little sister is 9 and has been a self declared vegetarian since she was about 4.

My family are coming to stay with us for Christmas and my mum has kindly offered to cook Christmas dinner which is fab as I am due to give birth on the 8th (but feel like the baby is happy in my tummy and won't be here till much closer to Christmas.) I was talking to my mum and sister today about what I should buy for dinner, they fly to us on the 23rd and we have a christmas day celebration with my DP's family on the 24th so I need to get prepared. I went trough all the vegies and stuff for a nut roast, then I said maybe I will get a big chicken instead of a turky and my little sister said well you had better make sure it is free range as I won't sit at a table where there meat that is not free range, I said to her that is fine she can sit on the balcony and eat her dinner.

AIBU and a nasty big sister, I will look for a free range chicken but I don't often buy meat and I have no idea if you can even buy free range chickens in the country we live in.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Sat 01-Dec-12 17:57:22

Your sister sounds like she is being precious and a bit of a brat, but she does have a point!

StickEmWithThePointyEnd Sat 01-Dec-12 17:57:51

I wouldn't want to eat non-free range either so yabu.

StuntGirl Sat 01-Dec-12 17:58:13

Her principles are admirable but she won't get far in life with that attitude And that's coming from a strict vegetarian. Send her to the balcony grin

littlewhitebag Sat 01-Dec-12 17:59:00

Sounds entirely reasonable to me. She will be a guest in your home and she needs to learn that people have different views. You are not asking her to eat it and you are providing her with an acceptable alternative. If she won't sit at the table that is her problem not yours.

3littlefrogs Sat 01-Dec-12 17:59:19

I admire her principles, but her manners are somewhat lacking.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Sat 01-Dec-12 17:59:27

YABU. Christmas is a time to be inclusive. Surely you could find a way of letting her share the space without having to stick her on the balcony.

ENormaSnob Sat 01-Dec-12 17:59:29


Precocious brat.

3littlefrogs Sat 01-Dec-12 17:59:57

X posted with stuntgirl. smile

ImperialSantaKnickers Sat 01-Dec-12 18:01:24

I've seen what sort of life a bog standard chicken (and turkey) has to endure - I won't have anything other than free-range eggs and poultry in the house. If you're still very large/have only just given birth, and cannot source free range in the country you live in, get the ingredients for the nut roast and get dsis/mum to cook it!

squeakytoy Sat 01-Dec-12 18:01:34

god, if she is like that at 9, I dread to think what a pain in the arse she will be in her teens..

she isnt even eating it, and unless she is going to inspect the labels, how on earth would she know if it was free range or not..

JustFabulous Sat 01-Dec-12 18:03:15

Good to have principles.

Even better to have manners.

coldcupoftea Sat 01-Dec-12 18:04:16

Aww bless- I remember embarrasing the hell out of my gran at that age by throwing stones in the river as we walked past people fishing 'to scare the jfish so they will swim away!' grin . I too was an early and very militant veggie.

She does have a point though- can you take her with you to look for a free range one, so at least she will know you tried?

Kalisi Sat 01-Dec-12 18:04:18

You don't have to do anything. Just get the meat you want and if she wants to make a stand then let her.

MrsWolowitz Sat 01-Dec-12 18:04:48

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ImperialBlether Sat 01-Dec-12 18:06:39

Just what I was thinking, squeakytoy - how would she know?

StuntGirl Sat 01-Dec-12 18:06:46

<Applauds Just Fabulous>

Whoknowswhocares Sat 01-Dec-12 18:07:03

Just buy whatever turkey you like and tell her it's free range. She might be able to tell by taste but seeing as she will only look at it, she won't be able to tell!

Of course if you were her mother, my advice would be to punish her for being a rude brat! She is perfectly entitled to her opinions but that does not give her the right to ride roughshod over everyone else and certainly not the right be behave like a rude pain in the arse!

Pancakeflipper Sat 01-Dec-12 18:07:37

She's not eating it and she has a decent meal, so what's her beef? or her turkey or her chicken? Hee Hee- did you see what I did there?

honeytea Sat 01-Dec-12 18:12:36

It's a good point that she won't know, she can't read the language here so I will just tell her it is free range. I think they don't have free range chickens here because it snows for 6 months of the year here so they can't really go outside, we buy barn chicken eggs so I will try to buy a barn chicken to eat.

I did tell her a free range chicken in Sweden was called a frozen chicken but she didn't think the joke was very funny.

Ducklings45 Sat 01-Dec-12 18:12:48

just tell her it's free range. Dispose of the packaging well and she'll never know. Congratulations on the pregnancy smile

theoriginalandbestrookie Sat 01-Dec-12 18:13:56

What squeaky said ....
Wasn't there a scene like that in Outnumbered where the awful older sister is making a big thing about how much nicer the free range chicken tastes but actually theyounger sister has lied and just cooked normal.

JustFabulous Sat 01-Dec-12 18:15:13


LynetteScavo Sat 01-Dec-12 18:15:14

She would have more of a point it she were going to eat it. As she isn't, I think it's perfectly acceptable to lie pretend you think it's free range.

bradywasmyfavouriteking Sat 01-Dec-12 18:17:09

YANBU and I would lie to her either.

She need to learn that other peoples values are not the same as hers and that people shouldn't have to change to suit.

Does she never eat out? Is she planning on never eating out all?

I think she should learn to be polite when a guest in someones house.

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