to have laughed when my fil told my dh

[biddysmama]

that he should stop me from breastfeeding now as dd is too old? (shes 2,ds is 1 and im pg)

do people do what their husbands tell them to? ive got a mind of my own thanks very much

[FabbyChic]

Personally she is too old, she needs to be becoming more independant. I always find it weird that someone would breastfeed a walking child.

[bubblesincoffee]

Well I would take my husband's opinion into account when it comes to how his child is fed.

But I wouldn't take my Fathers.

[thisisyesterday]

really fabby? my ds1 walked at 8.5 months

op, no yanbu! aside from anything else it's none of his business!

[ImperialBlether]

Are you breastfeeding both your son and your daughter?

I think that once you are pregnant you owe it to the unborn child to stop breastfeeding.

A two year old doesn't need to breastfeed. It's a habit and once which eventually she will lose. You can encourage this or not.

I'm of the opinion that a mother who feeds a child who is long past babyhood does it as much for herself as for the child, but that's got me shrieked at before now.

[thisisyesterday]

"I think that once you are pregnant you owe it to the unborn child to stop breastfeeding. "

why? do you tihnk the unborn baby will care?

[biddysmama]

nice yes i do, 2 year old has one feed a day, 1 year old has a few.... my midwife knows and is very supportive and my hv knows aswell as it was recorded at her 2 year check in the box that asks if they still have bm (as recommended by the world health organisation) obviously this is the 2 pregnancy i have bf through, as dd bf through ds pregnancy... he was born at 41 weeks weighing 9lb 4 oz so i dont think it did him any harm?

[elliejjtiny]

If my fil had said that to me I'd be very tempted to put expressed breastmilk in his tea (although I wouldn't be quite brave enough to do it)

[MmeLindor.]

Oh, this is going well.

Do you still feed both children, Biddysmama? Good for you.

[rhondajean]

My husband tries to tell me what to do from time to time

He is a very brave man.

On a serious note, if he really objected to something I was doing, Id think it over carefully, but he would never tell me not to do something he knew mattered to me. I try to think of the best thing for all of us when I make a decision, he knows that, and tries to support me with the decision.

I think thats what you are asking about rather than the bf issue isnt it? FIL may come from a different generation remember.

[LoonyRationalist]

How your children are fed is a matter for you and your husband only. Does your fil expect your dh to agree with him. As long as you are both happy then ignore ignore ignore. :)

[Xales]

OMG a 2 year old, a 1 year old and one on the way!!!! I think you are insane, one was enough for me

It is your choice completely. Why would any man not your H even think they had any right to make a comment?

Perhaps he would like to suggest to your DH that you cannot wear above the knee skirts or maybe jeans also.

[EvenLessNarkyPuffin]

'I'm of the opinion that a mother who feeds a child who is long past babyhood does it as much for herself as for the child'

Yes. Much better to stop them BF and give them cow's milk instead

[ProcrastinatorGeneral]

If it was your husband expressing a view then I think it would be good to engage and debate. Your father in law can go whistle though.

[squeakytoy]

I find it weird that a child who is able to pick up a spoon and feed themselves would need to be breastfed, but thats my personal opinion, and I would respect a mother to do what she feels is right for her, as it is nobody elses business really..

[Marshy]

Your husband should stop you from b/f? Hmm, I don't think so, do you? Of course he can express an opinion, but it's up to you - your breasts, after all.
FIL really needs to mind his own business

And as for not b/f a walking child - what?? Sorry, don't get that at all.

[Minshu]

Feeding a 2 yo, a 1 yo and growing another baby - you're amazing!

Tell your DH what you think FIL should do about his hair.

[thisisyesterday]

again, 2 out of 3 of my kids could use a spoon by about 9 months.... why would that lessen the benefits of having breastmilk?

[pranma]

It is no one's business but yours and maybe a little of your dh.Your f-i-l has no place in the discussion at all.

[ImperialBlether]

EvenLess, there's nothing actually wrong with cow's milk for a two year old, unless you are allergic to dairy, of course.

If you think there is, at what age would you think a mother should stop breastfeeding? Should you wait until the child can ask to stop? Or write a note?

[EvenLessNarkyPuffin]

So, you'd say no after 6 months Squeaky Toy? Despite the fact that babies must have milk until one? Or would it be ok if the OP expressed it first?

[oreocrumbs]

My FIL told DP - "this is ridiculous and has gone on long enough" and DD was only 2 weeks old!! (both PIL are very anti bf) my response - if you don't like how I parent, then don't be around when I parent! They took the hint, have had no further advice. YANBU