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Drag queen at wedding

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wedding2021 · 23/05/2020 22:18

I'm considering having a drag queen sing at my wedding. What would you think if you were at a wedding and a drag queen had been booked to perform? Obviously they'd tone it down a bit with swearing etc.

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Honeyroar · 23/05/2020 22:21

From my experience drag queens are either fantastic or mediocre, so get a good one! They’re usually very amusing, but I’d imagine quite difficult to get to tone down! They usually thrive off seeing people squirm.

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Porridgeoat · 23/05/2020 22:23

I’m not into live acts. Much rather have a disco

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AllTheCakes · 23/05/2020 22:24

Tacky Blush

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Jane67996 · 23/05/2020 22:26

Please don't do this. If you have to ask, you shouldn't do it.

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ShowOfHands · 23/05/2020 22:27

I loathe drag so probably wouldn't enjoy it but it's your wedding and your choice.

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Mysterian · 23/05/2020 22:28

I'd be worried because they can be fucking awful, but if they start their act and can sing I'd stick around. Definitely risky though.

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CornedBeef451 · 23/05/2020 22:29

Good grief no!

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Toilenstripes · 23/05/2020 22:30

Great if you live in Miami. Otherwise I can’t see uncle Cosmo and auntie Leticia being keen.

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nocoolnamesleft · 23/05/2020 22:30

As a guest, I would be exquisitely uncomfortable if the entertainment were doing womanface.

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chipsandpeas · 23/05/2020 22:30

unless you are a gay male couple and into drag queens then no

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Ughmaybenot · 23/05/2020 22:31

I absolutely hate drag, so I would despise this at a wedding.

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NatashaRomanov · 23/05/2020 22:31

Tacky.
I'd roll my eyes, and use the performance time to visit the loo.

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Pinkarsedfly · 23/05/2020 22:31

I’d be offended and leave the room.

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Holothane · 23/05/2020 22:31

Sorry but yuck I can’t think of anything worse.

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2020times · 23/05/2020 22:32

Sorry, I wouldn't like it either. Why can't you just have a female singer rather than someone pretending to be a female singer?

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SarahAndQuack · 23/05/2020 22:32

Well, it's your wedding.

Presumably you like drag, right? But why do you like it?

For me, a straight couple with no personal interest in drag, hiring a drag queen, could be pretty cringey. And doubly so if this is 'drag' as in 'ho ho, women are so funny, here is a pantomine version'. Some drag is pretty misogynistic and offensive. Think about it like Cards Against Humanity. You may love it when you're with mates and you've all had a glass of wine, but if you're sitting at a polite table trying to make small talk with people you've never met, it'd be excruciating.

If you have a reason to be into drag, I think that's slightly different.

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UpperLowercaseSymbolNumber · 23/05/2020 22:33

It’s a no from me.

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AnnofPeeves · 23/05/2020 22:33

I think that one day we'll look back at drag queens in the same way as we now view blackface. So that would be a no from me.

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PawPatrolMakesMeDrink · 23/05/2020 22:34

Grim.

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Cismyfatarse1 · 23/05/2020 22:34

Drag is all about being the centre of attention. Hardly the person you want at YOUR wedding.

Plus they are rarely good and often fairly misogynistic.

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Aquamarine1029 · 23/05/2020 22:35

I think most of your guests would be cringing so hard they'd turn inside out. Not the time nor place for a drag queen.

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GinWithRosie · 23/05/2020 22:35

I actually don't mind a drag act if it's well done...but at a wedding? No! Time and place OP, and your wedding is neither!! Seriously...don't.

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HollyBollyBooBoo · 23/05/2020 22:36

Surely it depends on the rest of the wedding, who you are, who your guests are?

My 2 incredibly flamboyant, gay mates where the whole wedding was camp and OTT - yes.

Upper middle class traditional wedding - not so much.

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Ipadipod · 23/05/2020 22:37

If it’s one of those awful ones that just mime instead of singing , then absolutely definitely not, most of the ones I’ve seen have based their comedy on taking the piss out of the audience, normally focusing on one person and I found it excruciating embarrassing.

I think it’s too much of a risk for what should be a lovely day to have it ruined by a drag act.

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wedding2021 · 23/05/2020 22:37

Ok points taken Grin

The reason we thought about it is because they're so bubbly, fun, colourful and sing the cheesy songs that get everyone in the dance floor. You don't really get that with a standard singer.

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