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So cross - off work due to sick child

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whoops · 07/11/2008 14:26

And have just had to explain myself to my employers daughter?!?
I am off a) because I am not well and b) ds isn't well
I am a legal cashier and I knew there was completions today so I was in a position to set the money to leave today incase I wasn't well enough to go in.
This morning I felt worse and also ds wasn't well so I have kept him home
I popped on to fb to check a couple of things and my employers daughter came on to chat saying that the he & his wife weren't happy with me (they are on holiday) and that I had said I wasn't going to come in today a few days ago.
She is 16 and hears what she wants to hear I am just cross that I had to put up with that when I am genuinly off.
I have just replied to her that I will discuss it with her dad when he is back.
I have also done some work from home today too so that things are kept up.
I have now deleted her from fb and msn and hope that I won't have to put up with too much flack when I am back and the bossmy employer gets back from holiday

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dustystar · 07/11/2008 14:30

Sounds like she was just sticking her nose in. Hope you both feel better soon

Ripeberry · 07/11/2008 14:31

Is it legal for a child to be in charge of the business? You did say she was only 16yrs old. Are there any other adults in charge, you don't have to answer to her.
Hope you feel better soon,

christiana · 07/11/2008 14:32

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whoops · 07/11/2008 14:32

There were a couple of secretaries in and also another partner
I have left him a voicemail message asking him to ring me as am going to let him know about the conversation

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fleacircus · 07/11/2008 14:34

Am trying to imagine the circumstances that would lead me to have my employer's daughter as one of my FB friends, to be honest.

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whoops · 07/11/2008 14:35

surely her being on facebook while she is at work is worse than me being on it while at home sick unpaid?
I now actually think having her on facebook is a good idea anyway I was a bit unsure when she did a friend request
No I have nothing to be guilty about, I am not the sort of person to take a day off because I feel like it

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flowerybeanbag · 07/11/2008 14:41

She sounds like a jumped-up little so-and-so if you ask me, who needs to mind her own business.

I would be inclined to speak to your boss when he gets back from holiday about it tbh, that's not on.

Sorry you and DS are not well

YoureInMySystemBaby · 08/11/2008 00:51

I think it is ridiculous that employers expect you to be a prisoner in your own home when you are poorly or off with a DC.

I was off poorly once and had to go out and get some nappys and food for my DS at the time and my manager saw me, I had to explain that although I was poorly, my duties at home did not stop.

Also, they have NOO right to impose a ban on a social networking site when you're poorly. You pay the internet connection and you're a bloody adult for christs sake!

You don't stop functioning or wanting social interaction as soon as you get poorly.

christiana · 10/11/2008 12:13

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Surfermum · 10/11/2008 12:19

Nothing wrong with being on Facebook when you are off sick. You could be snuggled up in bed using a laptop. There's a big difference between that and going out of the house - and even then it might be necessary like in YIMSB's case.

I would be cross too. She shouldn't have done that.

Hope you feel better soon Whoops! I have a poorly dd here too.

christiana · 10/11/2008 13:14

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Tiggiwinkle · 10/11/2008 13:20

But whoops said she is on unpaid sickleave christiana. And not many people take to their beds when they are sick surely. I know I don't!

rookiemater · 10/11/2008 13:48

Agree with christiana.

It is true that the OP may not have been well enough to come into work but was feeling well enough to surf. However I would take a dim view if one of my staff was off sick but discovered them surfing around on Facebook, and it isn't even my, or any of my relatives, company.

I think the owners daughter had a right to ask, and if it were me I would be a tad more gracious about the whole thing rather than launching into an attack on their daughter.

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whoops · 10/11/2008 13:52

I don't get paid sick leave
I had gone on facebook to send someone a message about cancelling something due to being ill (was the only way of contacting them)
It was the tone in which she was talking to me that got me cross not her asking me.
Ds is a little better today but has thrus in his mouth from the steroids he has been taking so yet more medication for him to take
Surfermum hope your dd is feeling better soon

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chipmonkey · 10/11/2008 14:21

Jumped up little madam! Hope her Dad deals with her severely!

Surfermum · 10/11/2008 14:27

I'm glad I don't work for you then rookiemater! I really don't understand though, what is the harm in being on Facebook when you are off sick?

Whoops, if you read my facebook update (if you dare go back on there ) you will see that Calpol is heaven-sent and dd is much better. I was teaching her the macarena earlier on! Good use of a day off work don't you think?

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whoops · 10/11/2008 14:40

very good Surfer!
You do realise she will want it played over and over again until you wish you had never done it

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rookiemater · 10/11/2008 14:40

Ah I'm a soft touch really.

I'm just with christiana. I don't take days of work unless there is absolutely no alternative (NB nor I am sure does whoops).

I can totally see how someone wouldn't be well enough to go to work, but is fine to go on the internet in the same way that they would be able to watch tv or read a book, I have done it myself on occasion. But I just think its somewhat naive then to be surprised if your employer ( or relative of employer) finds you on there and finds it a bit odd. This would be in the same way I would find it odd if someone was off sick and I saw them out doing their weekly shopping, but again perhaps they had no alternative.

Clearly Whoops will explain the situation to her employers and hopefully no harm done, but as a manager/employer I have to say it would leave me with the teeniest tiniest shred of doubt about the validity of that persons sickness and I would pay careful attention to them in future.

PavlovtheCat · 10/11/2008 14:46

Oh no you should not go on FB when you are sick. What where you thinking?

Get off MN right this second as you are interacting with people.

oh and don't read a book, as you might enjoy it.

Don't watch televion, as that might take your mind of being ill.

Don't eat anything other than bland soup, and only then out of necessity, not for any kind of pleasure.

And DO NOT under any circumstances talk to someone on the telephone. That would be seen as socialising in a major way.

Just sit there with your LO being ill and bloody well feel it, seeing as you are not at work where you should be.

Get better soon Whoops and Baby Whoops

SummatAnNowt · 10/11/2008 15:06

LOL!

Surfermum · 10/11/2008 16:45

I don't take days off work unless I really need to either. Sounds like I am lucky to have a boss who wouldn't even question what I was doing while at home - even if they did meet me in Tesco.

And if my employers found me on Facebook while off sick I'd be wondering what THEY were doing "facebooking" while at work.

Simplysally · 10/11/2008 17:07

Even if you are off sick, you will only get paid for 7 or 7.5 hours sick a day (assuming you work full-time) so if an employer 'caught'you on FB during a sick day, you could argue that you were surfing during an unpaid 'break' just as you would have an unpaid lunch break.

Tanee58 · 10/11/2008 17:19

so what exactly was this girl doing on FB anyway, if she was supposed to be minding the office?

edam · 10/11/2008 17:24

Cheeky mare. I'd be having a quiet word with my boss about confidentiality and what is and what is NOT appropriate if I were you.

christiana · 10/11/2008 21:01

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