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Original poster

My DH is fed up of the rat race and wants to be a sahd. This means I need to get a full time job.

26 replies

ConnieDescending · 03/10/2008 11:05

I have a psychology degree and some work experience in this area but fancy a change of direction. Anyone got any ideas of what I can do? Needs to pay 25k min......would I still be eligible for grad taining schemes??

Also, would be interested to hear from anyone who does work F/T with a stay at home partner. I run a small business from home and my DH intends on doing that and looking after the children.

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CountessDracula · 03/10/2008 11:06

You could be a teacher

Nice for him

zippitippitoes · 03/10/2008 11:08

you have a psychology degree

yes you would eb eligible for graduate training schemes as they cantg discriminate on age

expatinscotland · 03/10/2008 11:12

I'd love to be able to just check out, too. Who wouldn't? Too bad in a marriage it's about compromise and seeing if it's really feasible to kick back and just say, 'Okay, I don't want to work anymore. You snap your fingers and find a FT job then,' without working out things like household chores or even considering how the other person might feel about it.

Especially if the family needs £25k to live and the other person has been out of work a while and there's a recession economic downturn on.

CountessDracula · 03/10/2008 11:14

I'm sure it isn't an overnight decision!
However, as I said on LEM's thread earlier - Dh and I were talking the other night about how awful it must be to be the only one earning in the family and how much responsibility that must heap upon that person. We both agreed that neither of us would want to be in that position.

Could you not compromise and both work a bit?

Chequers · 03/10/2008 11:16

If you were interested in teaching psychology my friend has just started a PGCE at Keele for psychology teaching. I think only Keele and Leicester offer the psychology PGCE.

I thought grad trainee schemes were only up to 30 but expat is right, that would be age discrimination.

Gumbo · 03/10/2008 11:16

My DH decided after DS was born that he wanted to be a SAHD, and went ahead and quit his well paid job. I work FT - mainly from home and earn a good wage, and it works out really well.

I can honestly say that DS and DH have both flourished! If you're in a position to do it - and you're both happy with the idea - then go for it!

Cappuccino · 03/10/2008 11:17

why are we so down on this bloke?

lots of women do it

is that okay because, you know, they're just girls?

Chequers · 03/10/2008 11:17

Sorry, meant zippi is right.

Original poster
ConnieDescending · 03/10/2008 11:22

teaching is not for me - have no patience at all

expat - he's not checking out. I've been at home for 6 years now and he misses spending time with the children. Think its my turn to support us now.

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CountessDracula · 03/10/2008 11:24

What do you enjoy?
What are you good at?

Could you not both do some work to spread the burden. Esp in times where unemployment looks likely to be high I think it is wise not to have all your eggs in one basket.

zippitippitoes · 03/10/2008 11:25

customer service is out too then

what arfe you interested in

(disclaimer do not take any job advice from zippi she knows nothing)

expatinscotland · 03/10/2008 11:25

i'd be down on anyone who just announced they wanted to quit working so other party find a job, that's why i always word such posts gender-neutrally.

i've never been in a situation where it's, 'god, being a sole breadwinner for a whole family sucks. i'm going to jack it in,' for either party.

it's about compromise and sometimes a gradual approach - such as flexibile working for a while, swapping shifts, real discussion and assignment of all the chores that go along with caring for children, trying things out for a while (moneywise, especially in this economy), etc.

to see if it's even feasible.

Tortington · 03/10/2008 11:25

our HA has grad training schemes they pay for you to go to LSE and do your masters.

yes come work for us - twould be v. entertaining

captainofthemummies · 03/10/2008 11:26

Connie - you do know that even with a SAHD you will (probably) still be doing the shopping/ironing/cooking/dental appointments?

expatinscotland · 03/10/2008 11:26

exactly, CD.

fair play if you're up for it, connie, but you've mentioned in the past that you have financial problems with regards to keeping your home as well.

in this economy, it may not be as simple as just getting a job. job's that pay that well are in short supply in many areas, and insecure in others.

zippitippitoes · 03/10/2008 11:28

tesco have some interesting grad schemes but very competitive you would have to have excellent cv

are you a persuader/influencer

can you manage people

expatinscotland · 03/10/2008 11:28

oh, zippi! customer service is great - when your supervisor is a stoner and doesn't mind the staff going out and having a spliff in the back at breaktimes.

i loved customer service .

zippitippitoes · 03/10/2008 11:28

tho quite a lot of schemes are on hold due to economic downturn

EffiePerine · 03/10/2008 11:29

Can't you both go p/t? DH and I both work 4 days a week and it seems to work pretty well for us. Then if one of us were having problems the other could take up the slack (DS is with a CM 3 days a week tho).

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ConnieDescending · 03/10/2008 11:31

where's that then custardo?

actually i'd quite like to work in the housing sector.

expat - it wasn't like that....he didn't just announce anything we discussed it and thought we'd try it out. Hes not about to quit anything until I get a job that can cover us. Not sure what gender has to do with anything.

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zippitippitoes · 03/10/2008 11:32

housing..you mesan housing association work? tenancies etc or facilities management

expatinscotland · 03/10/2008 11:34

working for custy would be cool! great work do's!

zippitippitoes · 03/10/2008 11:38

oh penny drops custy works in housing association

bran · 03/10/2008 11:38

Have you considered market research? (The office-based analysis side rather than standing outside with a clipboard and a false smile obviously.)

zippitippitoes · 03/10/2008 11:44

my (patented unsuccessful) method for getting a job is to apply for jobs where i can meet the person criteria

rather than look for particular jobs

i have only had two interviews for jos earning as much as 25k

but i am not very unemployable