OUTRAGEOUS, guess what my boss thinks of me, T..T

[lucy5]

I am still reeling from comments made by my bosses wife on Friday. I am an English as an Additional Language teacher, Degree, PGCE, professional qulifications and 10 years of experience. My boss has never shown me any respect and has always treated mr like a teaching assistant(no disrespect to TAs). I take small groups of non english speaking kids out of mainstream classes at an international school. I always assumed my primary head didnt understand my field as we come from very different backgrounds and he has not encountered EAL before. I now know the truth. For two days last week (as a favour) I covered a year 3 class. On Thursday my bosses wife ( a TA) asked me how it felt to be a proper teacher, I let the comment pass. On Friday she said that my boss was pleased that I coped with being a proper teacher, so I asked her how my boss saw me considering I have been teching for 10 years, all my quals etc. She said,.... Wait for it ... he saw me as a MOTHER. I'm not quite sure what to Infer from this sexist, stupid statement. Did all my experience, qualifications come out with the placenta, am I a cabbage brain who cant mother and teach at the same time. As you can tell from this very long rant I am furious not only because he thinks I cant do my job (which I hate by the way) but he has used the fact that I am a mum as something demeaning. The sad thing is, is that this man will decide if my contract is renewed, for a job, I dont want but have to do. What makes me doubley angry is that my dd aged 4 has glandular fever and I havent taken one day off because of it, which I feel terribley guilty about. Sorry rant over

Hiya Lucy,

Yep, the work-place is full of idiots and senior management sometimes seems to have more than the requisite few! Sorry that they have put a blight over your weekend. I totally agree with the idea of holding your head up high, acting the professional you are and ignoring the pair of them.

I'd definitely look around some more, even at those schools that don't have the reputation, yours does. Sometimes, the smaller places can be kinder to their staff. Best of luck, looking. Will be waiting for that post that says you have found a brilliant job surrounded by decent people.

Hold onto the idea that when DH gets a job, you'll be free to walk. Whatsmore, bet you that when this happens, they offer you the earth to stay .

A last thing, I really think that I am a better teacher now, having become a mother, than I was before - more patient, more insight, more interest in the whole development issue. Yet, my last school, like your present one, seemed oblivious to this possibility.

yes, a match made in hell, oops should have said heaven, sorry got my catty head today.

You are right katie, will keep you posted.

Oh, what a horrible total bloody arsehole. Am furious on your behalf.

One of my clients remarked to me once, after I'd said I start work at 8.45 am, 'after you've settled the little ones'...WHAT???? Yes, I've got kids. Get over it. It's really quite common, I think you'll find.

AND I start work about an hour earlier than she does, FFS.

Unfortunately, she's English. I could do all of the above, although there is a lot of competition and people charging ridiculously low rates. Too be really honest, I'm hoping this is a temporary job as soon as dh gets a job, I want to have another baby and although I hate where I am, the money is good and I know that I have work until at least the end of August and being the main earner at the mo I need that sort of security. Thanks for the ideas, I suppose I could call in a few old contacts from uk.

"aah, bless" thats the one that gets my back up. Dont these idiots make you sick.

Lucy - I'm almost sure you can get your quals converted and work in the Spanish system but it takes a long time (you have to send a form off to the agency that deal with QTS in UK, get it translated, send it off to madrid and then you can get a post.) I have a friend who has done this - she works in a private school too but I'm pretty sure she could now work in a public one if she didn't mind being posted where they say. I'll ask her.

ks - corporate teaching is not so lucrative here as the big companies have it sewn up - I taught a corporate couse last year for 12E an hour teaching time, plus had to jump through ridiculous hoops admin-wise.

Thanks, I will look into it, we are here for good, so that might be a better option. At the moment im sick of english people, it is not he reason I came to Spain for. Luckily its only at work.

yes, about £9 with at least that time again in preparation as I had to write a "coursebook - going rate is 8E, going rate for a cleaner/unqualified childminder is 8E. Blinkin commies.

Hear hear, im thinking of becoming an electrician, considering how much we were charged and this was mates rates.

sorry about typing - child on knee!

Lucy - was it good mates rates??

it will be next time, im desperate to get the house finished, hahaha!

Sorry Lucy, but you'd need oposiciones to work in the state system. I'm pretty certain you need Spanish nationality to sit their civil service exams and then, like SP says, they can send you anywhere in the region that you pass them in.

I imagine that private schools are like in the UK, a lot more flexible when it comes to employing people. I met quite a few teachers, who didn't have their PGCE. How about approaching a private school and asking for more information? Are there many private schools down South? How are you feeling about tomorrow?

One good thing I did think of was: come August, whatever happens, you'll know that you have done your utmost to get that contract renewed. I remember how hard it was leaving DS with DP when he wasn't well but it was the right decision at the time, even if a real killer emotionally.

I have a pgce, so work in private schools isnt impossible, although here in Andalucia it is pretty much a closed shop. Brits mainly get work in the international schools (like me) but it seems they are all pretty dodgy to varying degrees when it comes to employment rights, they seem to be very well versed in legal loopholes and many know that the employees wont take them on, time, money etc. Hopefully I wont need to renew my contract but I will keep my head down and pray to any god that will listen that dh finds work and I can get out of the hell hole that I am in. I dont want to go tommorrow but I will and im not going to mention my concerns. At least dh is home to look after dd, so I know she is in good hands.

just to let you know it has been all quiet on the western front today. I've kept a low profile and will do so tommorrow.

Glad to hear that lucy5. They have probably already moved on to insulting someone else, unfortunately. Blissfully unaware of the emotional tornados they leave in their wake. That is thoughtless people for you.

To be really bitchy, i've had a bit of good news today. Wife has been overheard, (not that difficult really) saying they are leaving at end of summer term as her dh is fed up with being undermined by his boss, aahh what a pity. NOT!

Ah, well. A right soap opera it sounds like!

It's better than Eastenders, the big boss resigned on friday. I am the only idiot who wants to stay, well needs to, hahaha