How long should you stay in a new job before leaving?

[Jajal]

What’s the consensus of the minimum amount of time you have to put into a new job before moving to not look flakey to future employers. A year? (Please no!) 6 months?

signed a woman who joined a new terrible company a month ago and has been crying in her car pretty much daily for the past two weeks before heading home.

Speaking from experience, you need to prioritise your mental health. I'd start applying for other things now if you're really regretting it and it doesn't look like it's letting up. Is there anything you can do/anyone you can talk to about the job making you feel this way? What's the issue, is it bullying, or the stress of the role?

Just leave if you can afford it. As long as you don’t have a string of them on your CV we’re all allowed a mistake. Anyone ask- change in personal circumstances. You shouldn’t get any pushback in that.

I also believe there is some strength in recognising when something isn’t working and leaving before you are and they are more invested

If it's that bad - and you are ok financialy - leave now and just leave it off your CV. I know plenty of people who have done this.

Although it is much easier to get a job when you have a job.

I gave my notice in on Monday after being in new position for 2 weeks. Cannot wait to leave!!

bullying essentially and there’s no one to go to about it as it’s a family run one and it’s the family doing it 😕

I am firing off my CV to places tonight, I can’t really afford to leave but I’m dreading going back in tomorrow so much I feel actually sick.

Less is better if the question is about looking flakey.
recognising it’s the wrong place and getting out is honest and respectable

Totally sympathise. I briefly worked for a small family company. They were absolutely charming at the interview but the reality was very different. They lived like landed gentry but treated non-family staff like the village peasants. They had totally unrealistic expectations and couldn't understand why we did not want to take on the workload of 2-3 additional roles and work significantly extra hours for zero pay.

@Daisymail you have just described the whole situation perfectly, to the point I’m wondering if it was the same company! Lovely at interview and vastly different in the job, I joined with several new starters and I am the only one still here, one guy (very jealous of him) walked out at lunch on the first day.

Would temping with an agency be an option?

I got my current job via this route, I was offered a permanent position after completing a 3 month temp contract.

On a positive note, July / August will be slow for obvious reasons but things always pick up in September.

It's really not worth you feeling this way, as soon as you get offered something half worthwhile jump ship. If you're ever asked why it's because the job did not match the job description. Additionally you're future plans are being derailed because of this. Goodwick.

Get out as soon as you can, OP. No job, or any amount of money, is worth your mental health. Get out before the job breaks you, and then you feel obliged to stick around forever!

I’m a believer in sticking things out. It would be ridiculous to give up after only a couple of weeks.
That’s just me though.

Aah, just read the bit about the bullying.
In that case, fuck ‘em.

Yep, I would never work for a family run firm again.

They are incredibly entitled, it's all about generating enough money, at the expense of their staff, to allow them to live the life they live. They genuinely believed we should feel privileged to be in their presence every day!

I can laugh now but it wasn't funny at the time. I was/am a single person household with a mortgage and bills to pay.

I worked in admin so registered with an agency, they offered me the contract which led to my current permanent job.

Sign yourself off sick if you can and see a GP. Don't go back if you don't have to.

Start applying for stuff immediately. Who cares what other people think? Prioritise yourself. I wouldn’t leave without lining up a new job, though.

6 months I was once told. Public sector.

Done private sector too but not sure.

My younger self would only give it days but now I’m more reserved.

I left a job after a day and half. Just went for lunch on the second day and didn’t go back. They were arseholes.

Leave as soon as practical. There's no perfect time scale so if it's not working for you - leave.

Leave as soon as you can. From what you've said it doesn't sound like things will improve so it's better to get out asap. I spent 3 years at a place that broke me down so much I was suicidal, all because I worried what people would say if I didn't give it a good go. Definitely don't make that mistake! Good luck.

Apparently it does take around 6 months to settle into a new job. But I think you know quite quickly if it's for you or not.

Leave now & do some temping while you look for another role. That way you can just leave it off your CV too.

I decided for myself a year was the minimum if I could put up with it that long. No bullying or anything just massively misrepresented the role, woefully underpaid compared to colleagues with less responsibility but a good job title which I leveraged for a better job to go to.

So I handed my notice in today and leaving exactly 1 year since starting.

Well that shows it is them not you.