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Colleague of partner making work place unbearable

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DontEatTheMushies · 06/07/2026 12:50

I posted before about her.

She is now....reading ALL of his emails - as in logging in to read them, even the drafts.

She has contracted in one of her FREINDS to act as HR for the company that she inserted herself as a director off last year despite only graduating in 2025, and only starting at the company a few months before.

This is company OH has been at since 2012. He literally is the company as he is the ONLY person able to carry out the procedure that company sells.

She records everything.
She is manufacturing situations to try and create allegations of sexual misconduct or that they have issues working with a woman. But they have none, they have worked with women, and ones younger than this one, with 0 issue before.
They have even worked with colleagues who have been out to get them before - and with less issues.
For example his colleage was on the phone to a lady friend, The DIRECTOR spun him round in his chair and he said to the person on the phone "hang on baby doll" and DIRECTOR took it to mean here and so raised it as a sexual harrassment. They went to mediation at the local church - overseen by the rev, not even someone i HR or anything related.

She has been trying to make out he is bullying her by refusing to work with her because of her actions. She confronts him when he is alone, and will not take NO for an answer - its as if she is trying to anger him - and SHE RECORDS EVERYTHING.

This is not affecting his mental health to the point he is on antidepressants and beta blockers.

I am a hair away from losing MY mind with this woman.

I have advised him to call ACAS.

IF he leaves this is a constructive dismissal case, but f he goes before jan 27 it will have that cap on it - and he thinks that is what they are trying to do.

It is a small company, like 5/6 employees.

I am at my wits end. THie horrible heinous person is coming in and literally jeapordising his career.

OP posts:
RudolphTheReindeer · 06/07/2026 17:11

DontEatTheMushies · 06/07/2026 15:33

He was on his lunch, but was in the office. Also, adults can take or make personal calls in work time.

No in relation to why he wouldn't give her an answer to a question. One that she asked and he said that he would feel more comfortable answering in the presence of the MD, and they can discuss it then. She then ket asking and was in a way blocking him from leaving the office. He then felt that she was trying to goad him into an outburst as she kept asking why wont he answer. She waited until the last other employee left and he was gong to leave to ask this. It also concerned the other employee and MD - so she could have brought it up when they were both there.
They have whole company meetings for issues, they agree its resolved, and then the next week she is against brining it all up - but then when the other employees mention anything from before the meeting, she accuses them of dragging things up.

She has now got a friend in HR to do HR work for the company.....

Well no, adults shouldn't be making or taking personal calls during work time. If this is the attitude your dh and his colleagues have that's probably part of the problem.

what was the question?

DontEatTheMushies · 06/07/2026 17:24

Rondayvu · 06/07/2026 17:09

And this woman is not the MD's other woman? I mean if the wife was surprised then it would seem this woman has something over the MD himself.

Pretty sure not. there is a 30 yr difference, and she is gay. Which the guys know so they have no interest in her that way.
If she wasnt, then thats what the only thing they could come to about why he made her a Director so quickly. Its very weird.

This is why it ALL sounds so absolute batshit. He fees like he has fallen down a rabbit hole into some weird twighlight zone.

OP posts:
DontEatTheMushies · 06/07/2026 17:26

RudolphTheReindeer · 06/07/2026 17:11

Well no, adults shouldn't be making or taking personal calls during work time. If this is the attitude your dh and his colleagues have that's probably part of the problem.

what was the question?

Might wash if She didn't do it. the MD didn't do it - plus also going off to personal appointments and gym classes during work hours. Or just going away up mountains at short notice - and not taking it as holiday (cos he never takes holiday so its ALL accrued, but spends about 60 days a year up hills).
OH has confirmed that in this instance he was on lunch, and I believe people can speak to their girlfriends at lunchtimes.

OP posts:
WildLeader · 06/07/2026 17:33

Why is she logging into his emails? Why is he not reporting this?he needs to go to IT and get his access changed

NotMyRealAccount · 06/07/2026 17:35

Taken at face value, this looks like the sort of situation about which there's little your partner can do apart from removing himself from it as quickly as possible, however unfair this seems. Someone determined to behave badly in a workplace can cause a lot of trouble for those caught in their net.

RudolphTheReindeer · 06/07/2026 18:01

DontEatTheMushies · 06/07/2026 17:26

Might wash if She didn't do it. the MD didn't do it - plus also going off to personal appointments and gym classes during work hours. Or just going away up mountains at short notice - and not taking it as holiday (cos he never takes holiday so its ALL accrued, but spends about 60 days a year up hills).
OH has confirmed that in this instance he was on lunch, and I believe people can speak to their girlfriends at lunchtimes.

If it's their business they can do what they want.

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