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Good employee resigned after probation extended

166 replies

simplel · 07/05/2026 19:16

I am a manager in a team. We have a team of 100 staff and about 20 managers. We also have an HR team.

One of our employees joined 7 months ago. They had a bit of a patchy start but once they’d settled in they’ve been excellent. They are well liked in the team and always keen to get stuck in with team events.

At their mid probation, one manager took a dislike to them on a point which has since been disproven. But because this negative feedback was in their review at month 3, HR overruled all the other good feedback from managers and insisted we extend the employee’s probation to 9 months long.

I’m told by HR that the employee was devastated but promised to continue showing they could perform at the level needed.

A month later, employee has handed in their notice and is leaving for a competitor. We need the (wo)manpower in the team and I’m gutted they’ll be going. If you were this person, what could we do to make you stay?

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fetchacloth · 07/05/2026 22:44

Raven08 · 07/05/2026 19:17

They are better off leaving by the sounds of it

Agreed, I would leave in those circumstances too especially without a good explanation why a 6 month probation extension which seems very harsh. If the extension was really necessary, surely another 3 months would be sufficient.

Silvertulips · 07/05/2026 22:45

And why have your learnt?

Nothing.

You’ll do it again and again wasting time energy and funds on people who won’t stay.

Make your company culture more flexible and a good place to work.

Hoanna · 07/05/2026 22:46

I am glad I left and you and your other phonies can do emotional power trips to someone else's nerves, not mine!!!!

Random321 · 07/05/2026 22:47

Good for them.

I'm so glad they didn't tolerate this crap.

It didn't have to end like this, one mamager who look a dislike to this person and was proven wrong - and the rest of you stood by and let it happen.

They employ is good and will be fine elsewhere. Thankfully they have the confidence to know that.

Horses7 · 07/05/2026 22:50

I’d be off like a shot.
Hope the company gets rid of the nasty, lying member of staff

CoverLikelyZebra · 07/05/2026 22:55

The company deserves to lose this person and your best action is to leave too as such crap structures are going to make it spiral into self-destruction sooner or later. Find out if there are any opportunities with the competitor that this employee escaped to. Learn the lesson and uphold principles of treating employees well in future.

Holidaymodeon · 07/05/2026 23:02

I’m an employee with a shit clueless manager and I’m leaving as soon as I possibly can.
its broken me and for whatever reason, this manager has so much power above and below and I’m just not strong enough for the fight, short or long term.
i empathise with the person who left and hope I’ll be following their footsteps into something kinder asap

UnemployedNotRetired · 07/05/2026 23:03

Dawnintheageofaquariams · 07/05/2026 22:23

100 staff and 20 managers?
Too many cocks spoil the breath...
I'm not surprised they left.

"Too many cocks spoil the breath..."

Not sure that is the standard expression but language evolves I guess.

AgitatedGoose · 07/05/2026 23:05

Maybe your company will learn from this. Piss people off and they leave. I’m pleased they were able to find another job.

Hoanna · 07/05/2026 23:09

pimplebum · 07/05/2026 20:22

Knowingly Falsely accused and you chose not to rectify but devastate

do training on this and fo better

False accusation is a crime. Why goes unpunished in companies? This is smearing people's reputations

Sid9nie · 07/05/2026 23:11

There is nothing you could say to make me stay.

LoyalMember · 07/05/2026 23:12

He, or she's, told you to ram the job, and good for them. It's now incumbent upon management to take the halfwit who caused this to task and haul them over the coals.

MeganM3 · 07/05/2026 23:17

Well, in your shoes I would be open with them that I’m sorry to see them go, thought they were a wonderful asset to the team and wish them the very best - and if it doesn’t work out at the new place for any reason they would be welcome back.
It is too late for now since they’ve already secured something but who knows what might happen in the future. If your paths cross again you’ll hope it’s all positive.

DoYouLikeYourNaneFred · 07/05/2026 23:22

simplel · 07/05/2026 19:16

I am a manager in a team. We have a team of 100 staff and about 20 managers. We also have an HR team.

One of our employees joined 7 months ago. They had a bit of a patchy start but once they’d settled in they’ve been excellent. They are well liked in the team and always keen to get stuck in with team events.

At their mid probation, one manager took a dislike to them on a point which has since been disproven. But because this negative feedback was in their review at month 3, HR overruled all the other good feedback from managers and insisted we extend the employee’s probation to 9 months long.

I’m told by HR that the employee was devastated but promised to continue showing they could perform at the level needed.

A month later, employee has handed in their notice and is leaving for a competitor. We need the (wo)manpower in the team and I’m gutted they’ll be going. If you were this person, what could we do to make you stay?

Sorry, but nothing.

you can't change how they were unfair treat. They've been offered a fresh start with the competition, I can't see anything you could offer them to beat that.

MyFellowScroller · 07/05/2026 23:22

HR overruled all the other good feedback from managers and insisted we extend the employee’s probation to 9 months long.
The company is letting HR manage the business instead of the managers. The directors need to get a grip and put HR back in their box. HR should give advice not take decisions.
This weakness of directors and managers is the reason so many companies fail or often just plod on rather than thrive and become leaders.

echt · 07/05/2026 23:25

PauliesWalnuts · 07/05/2026 19:41

That’s a really high management to staff ratio. My last employer had 350 staff to 5 directors and 5 managers. I wouldn’t persuade them to stay but I’d maybe highlight that you have a “too many chiefs” culture that needs looking at.

That was my thought too.

Lifeomars · 07/05/2026 23:28

It cheered me up to see that they have had a hopefully better offer and are on the way to a happier work life.

PinkTonic · 07/05/2026 23:39

Bridesmaidorexfriend · 07/05/2026 21:42

Surely HR is advice but it is up to the manager to make the decision? That’s how it works in my place of work anyway. Plenty of people have gone down appeals route for warnings etc, and managers will insist that HR told them to give a warning but HR shut that straight down and say ultimately it’s the managers decision, they can’t hide behind HR. But I’ve only ever worked in one sector so may be wrong

No you’re right. I’ve been reading this thinking the same thing. It’s the manager’s decision to extend probation, with the support of HR if needed.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 07/05/2026 23:46

Well perhaps the competitors offered them a guaranteed job. People have bills to pay and lives to lead which certainly doesn’t come cheap. They can’t be hanging about in fear waiting for your company to decide they’re going to keep them on.
How to maybe keep them offer them the job and scrap their probation

ToffeeCrabApple · 07/05/2026 23:57

There would nothing you could do, I'd run a mile from a workplace like that. It's never a one off, you know this sort of toxic culture will be pervasive

Cakeymauve · 08/05/2026 00:01

Nothing. Your organisation deserves to lose them. I’m happy they found somewhere else, sounds like a horrid place to work

Schoolchoicesucks · 08/05/2026 00:05

Nothing. The baseless opinion of one person was relied upon which triggered blindly following a process that put continued employment at risk. Absolutely dodged a bullet by finding a new role and will likely be successful in it. Your company showed that the manager and immediate team are unable to effectively support or influence the new person's career. Why on earth would they stay if they have a choice?

goodnessss · 08/05/2026 00:21

I doubt op will be back after this roasting lol

Viviennemary · 08/05/2026 00:25

Not much. You have demonstrated that your company neds to further test this person's ability. Which means that so far their performance has not been totally satisfactory. I thInk tneh were right to resign.

catspyjamas1 · 08/05/2026 00:53

MyFellowScroller · 07/05/2026 23:22

HR overruled all the other good feedback from managers and insisted we extend the employee’s probation to 9 months long.
The company is letting HR manage the business instead of the managers. The directors need to get a grip and put HR back in their box. HR should give advice not take decisions.
This weakness of directors and managers is the reason so many companies fail or often just plod on rather than thrive and become leaders.

Well said! If HR is this to a direct report of mine, I'd probably resign myself along with the individual!

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