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Good employee resigned after probation extended

166 replies

simplel · 07/05/2026 19:16

I am a manager in a team. We have a team of 100 staff and about 20 managers. We also have an HR team.

One of our employees joined 7 months ago. They had a bit of a patchy start but once they’d settled in they’ve been excellent. They are well liked in the team and always keen to get stuck in with team events.

At their mid probation, one manager took a dislike to them on a point which has since been disproven. But because this negative feedback was in their review at month 3, HR overruled all the other good feedback from managers and insisted we extend the employee’s probation to 9 months long.

I’m told by HR that the employee was devastated but promised to continue showing they could perform at the level needed.

A month later, employee has handed in their notice and is leaving for a competitor. We need the (wo)manpower in the team and I’m gutted they’ll be going. If you were this person, what could we do to make you stay?

OP posts:
BinDayisWednesday · 07/05/2026 21:01

How can a team of 100 people have 20 managers? That’s not possible.

Do you mean the whole company is 100 people? Even so, why there would be 20 managers isn’t clear.

Is this some sort of call centre or something where people need a lot of supervision?

DisforDarkChocolate · 07/05/2026 21:02

I wouldn't stay either. Why should they? Your management is crap.

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 07/05/2026 21:03

Good employee resigned after manager targeted them and they knew they wouldn't never have a reasonable employment period in the company but no one did fuck all about it so they left

tiptoethrutulips · 07/05/2026 21:04

Just a shame it took them a month to sort out a role with a hopefully better company.

Can't even image all managers being positive, one being unreasonably negative on a point in error, and HR siding with the negative arsehole. What a shit place to work.

Dolphinnoises · 07/05/2026 21:04

There’s been another thread on this from the employee’s point of view

ruffler45 · 07/05/2026 21:09

Once an employee has made their mind up to leave, they usually have very good reasons (awful management, poor work environment etc) for doing so and nigh on impossible to get them to stay.

Happyjoe · 07/05/2026 21:15

Yep, I'd have gone. The person wasn't valued.

MNBV221 · 07/05/2026 21:16
  1. A full apology from the git manager and HR
  2. A large salary increase
  3. probation ended obvs
These would be my non-negotiables
Mt563 · 07/05/2026 21:17

You don't want to keep them. They'll never feel settled and happy now.

MNBV221 · 07/05/2026 21:17

Dolphinnoises · 07/05/2026 21:04

There’s been another thread on this from the employee’s point of view

Can you please send a link?

Latteapparel · 07/05/2026 21:17

As your employee was in a six month probationary period, I assume this is a senior level role. It takes a good six months to learn new systems, processes, and people. And at that level there’s an expectation to make improvements and efficiencies. You can’t expect a new employee to be performing at 100% whilst learning the ropes. Her productivity will be half that of someone who has been in your team for 5 years who works on autopilot. She should have had the bad review struck from the record, you’ve let a good employee go, and potentially knocked her confidence. A probationary period is two-way and she has rightly decided this is not a nurturing environment. You need some serious lessons learnt with HR after this.

SurreySenMum26 · 07/05/2026 21:20

I'd let them go and try their luck somewhere else. I am about to start a new job and it's taking so long to get started it really knocking my confidence.

They must feel quite deflated and it does knock your confidence back getting a bad review especially at the off. I'd never be loyal to a employer again. It's a two way street respect, and I don't really blame them.

nomoremsniceperson · 07/05/2026 21:22

Ha! This happened to me. Started as a temp, was offered a more permanent role, proved my worth during my probationary period but then had it extended by several months because I came back from lunch 10 mins late on one single occasion (I was eating lunch in a group with other coworkers). It was a clear power play by one of the managers, my colleagues had warned me about her but as a temp I had been unaffected by office politics so didn't see what they meant until it happened to me. When it did, nothing my line manager could say would change my mind and I left as soon as my notice period was up.
I think there's nothing you can say to make them stay. They were shafted. Once trust is breached by an employer, it's unlikely to come back. If you don't want this to happen again, replace bad managers who use their position to throw their weight around for an ego trip with decent ones who inspire trust and loyalty.

ClayPotaLot · 07/05/2026 21:22

If it were me, a meaningful promotion and pay rise might convince me to stay. But, to be honest, I hope I would have the sense to move on. It was deeply unfair and sounds like a bureaucratic nightmare to have had to deal with and I don't see how you can show them that's changed (because it doesn't sound like it has), so staying is probably a poor move.

Owly11 · 07/05/2026 21:24

They had a lucky escape. Your workplace sounds horrendous. They would have been stupid to stay.

Dweetfidilove · 07/05/2026 21:28

Nothing worse than poor mgmt. I wouldn't look back.

MaCheCazzo · 07/05/2026 21:30

Dolphinnoises · 07/05/2026 21:04

There’s been another thread on this from the employee’s point of view

Pretty good clue then that this is someone playing the fool. Again.

Gingernaut · 07/05/2026 21:31

We need the (wo)manpower in the team and I’m gutted they’ll be going. If you were this person, what could we do to make you stay?

If I were that woman, there is NOTHING that could get me to stay

HR have been useless in weeding out the vindictive (?)/incorrect feedback before it stained her record, her probation extended as a result and her managers, the people who were supposed to 'have her back' were useless

The future is bleak in a company like that

goodnessss · 07/05/2026 21:32

The company is run by a bunch of bullies/arseholes. Hopefully the employee has found somewhere better to work

FrankieMcGrath · 07/05/2026 21:33

Raven08 · 07/05/2026 19:17

They are better off leaving by the sounds of it

This! She knows her worth & won't stand for stupid games. Good for her. (Otherwise throw a shed load of money at her & see if that makes a difference).

Anyahyacinth · 07/05/2026 21:33

Good luck to the exiting probationer. Where you find no loyalty give no loyalty.

They sound great

mmmarmalade · 07/05/2026 21:34

Stop jerking them around. 7 months probation! They want a full time contract. Can’t anyone in your organisation make a decision - how much effing info do you need!? Clearly the person leaving is far more capable or making smart and TIMELY decisions and did the right thing. The problem with bloated flaccid organisations working off inherited work practices, processes and procedures that are beyond question is that they are not fast enough on their feet to survive - there’s no human intelligence left in the system - it’s all been processed out. If I was you I’d follow them out - maybe even try and get a job working with them.

IWasTangoed · 07/05/2026 21:34

The employee did absolutely the right thing. I agree that once the point had been disproven, the extended probation should have been challenged immediately and withdrawn. That would have shown the employee she could trust her employers to act correctly. As it is, she can't trust them. She was right to leave.

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 07/05/2026 21:35

PauliesWalnuts · 07/05/2026 19:41

That’s a really high management to staff ratio. My last employer had 350 staff to 5 directors and 5 managers. I wouldn’t persuade them to stay but I’d maybe highlight that you have a “too many chiefs” culture that needs looking at.

I was thinking that. It does seem high.

MaidOfSteel · 07/05/2026 21:37

I wouldn’t want to stay in those circumstances, OP. I think the best you can do is start some sort of report or investigation into how this was allowed to happen (bullying, response failures) to make sure it never happens again.