I’ve been on the other side of this.
Headhunted for a position with a scarce skill set. I was actually over qualified for it, but had highly relevant experience that they were interested in. Knocked the headhunters back a couple of times. They kept upping the salary offer but I said no.
A few months later decided I did want to change jobs due to redundancies at my current employer, which didn’t effect my team but did significantly affect people on other teams I worked a lot with. Contacted a range of recruitment agencies, including the one that had been in touch before.
They said that position was still open would I be interested now. I said not really, but it became clear they wouldn’t show me other things until I least went for a chat with the first company. They upped the money offer again.
So I did that, but declined a formal interview to follow. They upped the money again, said that was their absolute top offer.
I went for the formal interview, got offered it, turned it down. They upped it again. I said I’d consider it for another 5% on top of that. The Head of Depertment and recruitment firm said they couldn’t possibly do that. Ok.
Then the HR department phoned and said they had made a mistake with their budget calculations and they could find the extra money after all.
When I started my line manager made my life hell.
After a few months I went for a coffee with someone in an adjacent team I’d become friendly with, who had noticed how hostile my line manager was being. A few other people had noticed.
She said she thought my line manager was being hostile due to my level of experience, people were surprised I had taken the job. The people who had noticed thought she was threatened by me, especially as it was common knowledge in the office that she was trying to have a baby, so they thought she was worried she would go on maternity leave and come back and find I was managing her, not the other way round.
So I explained that the salary offer combined with less responsibility made it seem worth it. We spoke a bit about salary ranges and it turned out I was being paid significantly more.
Anyway, I resigned quickly after that. It was obvious the were also kind of looking for someone to step up in her absence and cover the work of two, plus she really was an absolute bitch to me on a daily basis.