If you have be shafted by colleague....

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How did you get revenge?

She had fed back some horrid feedback about me. She admits she did it but didn't mean it (?) and wants to still be work friends! I could play tit for tat as she says nasty things about senior management but I want to remain professional.

But secretly I want to get some kind of revenge. She relies on me heavily as I'm a lot more experienced than her so going to stop this immediately. But please make me laugh/let me know how you have got revenge 😁

Meanwhile I'm updating my cv!

You got horrible feedback
and she reported it to management?

Fed back as part of regular review feedback. We are supposed to be a 'supportive' company. She fed back that I was negative all the time. Manager did say that he didn't recognise this behaviour and hadn't received this feedback from anyone else but would have to take this into account as we work so closely. The irony is she moans ALL the time but I listen and try and let her offload (never again)

I've been very naive....sigh. She is very ambitious.

Bide your time. Think about who it would most benefit you to pass some criticism of her to. Someone you know will either spread it or feed it up the chain of command. But bide your time. The temptation is to act immediately, but resist. Wait until you have the right person and the right information.

So as a part of your review, she was asked for feedback and said you were very negative

call it spidey senses, but I suspect she’s not far off the mark with that feedback

It might feel good but in reality tit for tat never really works out. Why brush up the cv. If the feedback has only come from her then why is he taking it into account? If you are more experienced then don’t give it too much headspace. If she is ambitious to management but moaning to colleagues I doubt it goes unnoticed.

Be super super jolly every single day , every single minute. It'll drive them nuts.

Biding my time/biting my tongue for the foreseeable. She is quite high maintenance so she will need at outlet.

Hmmmm. It's worked well in a MAJOR way for me twice.

Takes patience though. The right opportunity might not present itself for months.

Burn her house down.

Not the same, but I just had a friend/ work colleague screw me over. Caused me a lot of issues that I had to mop up.

I’m always bailing this person out and helping them. No more though. I’m done. I’m not going to be a mug from now on.

Did she tell you that or did your manager ?
If it was the latter, are you sure he doesn’t have an agenda?

They could have an agenda so need to be prepared. CV will be updated. Was told by Manager in review and the colleague told me it was her when she realised I was upset.

Thanks for all the hints. Going to be super nice but distant in future and certainly won't be helping her in her role. She can work things our for herself.

I'm going yo have to find a good mantra to put on my desk to remind myself of the above so I don't slip into my old ways.

Are you both the same level? What kind of level? Junior? Supervisory? Management?

I didn't get revenge, lockdown did. My maternity cover was vile and made my return as difficult as possible by refusing to do a hand over or to complete the tasks they had started so I was stuck. Clearly wanted my job permanently, supported by an unpleasant manager. A job was created for them and they continued to make work difficult for me.

Some months in to all this lockdown happened. The Saturday before they had moved out of their family home almost an hour away to a flat in the town where we worked. Their internet hadn't been connected and needed an engineers visit so that was also delayed. We were both made redundant but I got a full package due to length of service (and knowing my rights - work tried to short change me) and they got nothing as they'd only been in post a few months.

I wouldn't normally enjoy anyone's misfortune but they tried so hard to screw me over. Horrible manager was sacked a year or so later for (unconnected) dodgy HR practices.

Wow. She seems on the mark, you do sound negative and totally unprofessional.
Experience does not necessarily always equate to “better at the job”.

Get over yourself and move on.

Did you ask for examples of negative behaviour that you were guilty of? I would want at least three recent examples to hear what was construed as negative, which were work related.

Dunno, your Co worker was a bit dim to tell you it was her, showing her hand. Did she think you would say ' you're right Brenda, thanks for highlighting this in my review. Good job. Lunch on me' of course you're going to be frosty now.

I'd be polite, but unfortunately not friendly as before. I'd probably say in meetings and as opportunities arose ' before we start/ end, please point out if you feel I am being negative for no good reason. Its a serious request, as raised at my review Co workers found me negative. I'm as surprised as you. Or one of you!' I'll be documenting responses for my personal development.

Exactly

I suspect this colleague was voicing what colleagues are also saying

and I would be surprised if this manager did actually say she didn’t think grounds.

We are both mid management. She is not in today so having a day to practice my super politeness on others. Although not much difference to usual just being very careful on my wording....just in case!

This thread has inspired me to go online and book out all the school half terms for next year. My colleague who screwed me over always books them off. If I’m off, she can’t be. ;)

Why hadn’t you before?!

I don’t need half terms off. My kids are older. So are hers but she still books it off.

Do you actually want the half terms off then?

Not particularly bothered, but she is.