If you have be shafted by colleague....

[Windowscratch]

How did you get revenge?

She had fed back some horrid feedback about me. She admits she did it but didn't mean it (?) and wants to still be work friends! I could play tit for tat as she says nasty things about senior management but I want to remain professional.

But secretly I want to get some kind of revenge. She relies on me heavily as I'm a lot more experienced than her so going to stop this immediately. But please make me laugh/let me know how you have got revenge 😁

Meanwhile I'm updating my cv!

Well then seems a bit daft
surely you have holiday time that you actually want to take rather than choosing expensive school holiday periods when you don’t actually need to

yes she’ll be put out
but… so are you
weird

I don't go on holiday in half term and my DC are adults so it doesn't matter to me when I take may days off.

My beef with my colleague is actually over annual leave. I need to go to a wedding of a close relative, and she has the day off and not doing anything. She's admitted that.

Of course, that is her right and she has also told me that. However, I would swap if my colleague was in a pickle. I actually support her quite a lot. Moving forward I'll do my own job, and the next time she asks me for help I will say I'm busy or tell her she needs to ask the manager for more training. I feel like I've clocked up loads of good will, and brownie points with her, and the one time in 7 years I've needed a bit of support she wasn't prepared to reciprocate.

Twenty years ago I was doing an office admin job and going through a divorce.

I had volunteered to help staff (unpaid) at a Saturday trade fair. I trekked to the other side of London in wet and windy weather and did a long busy day, then back home - no hospitality, drinks or anything afterwards.

On the Monday along with a couple of other women I was made redundant on the spot! What upset me more than anything was my line-manager knew what was in store for me - I know he couldn't break confidence and let me know beforehand I understand that, but I never forgave that he could have sent me a quick message on the Friday night, along the lines of 'no need to come on Saturday we have enough people'.

As is often the way, we were paid garden leave in lieu of notice and had to leave the premises, so I couldn't take revenge apart from wish with all my heart that something bad would happen to him. My wish was fulfilled when six months later he too was made redundant!

It's horrible to be shafted by a colleague.

Given one day wedding of very close friend… could you not speak to your manager and explain and asking for this one time for you to have the holiday even though a colleague has booked the day (but obviously not asking for manager to take away your colleague’s booked day off, as that is your colleague’s preogative to have)

If I didn’t need to take a holiday to coincide with all the schools off - then I wouldn’t actively choose to take them off as holiday just to spite a colleague. Each to their own!

You can’t be “redundant on the spot”?
A process has to be followed and if they did not follow then you had grounds to pursue

there's a saying along the lines of if you seek revenge, first dig two graves.
Let it go.

@Windowscratch
I've had similar this year with a younger colleague (shes 30 ish I'm 50 ish), she moved roles within our team and I moved into her old role.

I actually have 30+ yrs experience in our industry.

She has taken to making the transition as difficult as possible, withholding information, talking over me in meetings about my projects that she no longer has involvement in etc.

Definitely doesn't want me to succeed to the point of wanting me to fail, possibly as she doesn't want me to outshine her, I've actually discovered several major failings from when she was in my role.

When this hasn't worked, she has changed tack to bad mouthing me, it's so true that when people can't control you they try to control the narrative around you.

All through this I've not risen to the bait and senior management have seen through what she's been doing and she has been taken to task, talk about shooting yourself in the foot!

How I handled the situation was to remove myself physically and emotionally (we used to be friends, nights out, regular visits to each others homes, I supported her through some family issues)

I refuse to get into a tit for tat scenario, I actually look like the sensible, professional that I am.

I work hard, I send regular project updates to my line manager and say nothing negative about her.

Funny thing is she's failing at her new role (this gives me no pleasure btw) but she's shown what she's really like and the whole team and management can see it, I actually feel a bit sorry for her.

Hopefully you may be able to take some tips from my tale of woe

Don’t help her. Every time she asks, say you’ve got a priority task from your manager.